It seems as though the moment we find out we're expecting, we're bombarded with opinions and advice coming from our mothers to do this and our friends to do that and let's not forget whats thrown at us from social media - woof.
How many times have you endlessly researched what the right day to sleep train or start feeding or handling tantrums is? How many different viewpoints have you found? How often do you feel pulled in a million different directions? What about guilt and fear over choosing the "wrong" way or f*cking your kids up for life?
Let's chat about all this shit and how dangerous it can be for our mental health and how to move forward in motherhood without letting the pressures of the outside world break us down.
Takeaways:
1. Lower your expectations. There is no professional or book or Instagram Influencer who knows how your child is going to react or respond to ANYTHING. Give up the idea that we can control the outcomes when trying something new with our kids.
2. Give yourself permission to learn and grow with them. Remind yourself that it is VERY unlikely that one single decision is going to fuck them up forever. "Mistakes" can be great opportunities to learn together how to sit with uncomfortable situations and feelings, which in itself, is a valuable life lesson.
3. Get Clear on what you really want and align your actions with it. Shut off the world for a minute, get quiet, and see what feels right for YOU.