In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Gary Jader, a lifelong advocate for men’s mental health, talks about growing up in a house full of conflict, the long shadow of a verbally abusive father, and how that early pain became fuel for a life spent helping others heal.

Gary’s story is not one of overnight transformation. It’s about persistence, learning to “dance with our imperfections,” as he puts it, and finding the courage to speak the truth about what’s really going on inside. Together we explore:

• Why so many men still struggle to open up, even in safe spaces.
• How buried pain shows up later in life: in work, relationships, or silence.
• The role of friendship, honesty, and humour in staying emotionally alive.
• What being cracked open really means and why that’s how the light gets in.

Gary also shares the thinking behind his new project Cracked Open, written with his long-time friend Russ and even co-authored in part with AI, a surprising tool that helped give voice to hard-won wisdom.

If you’ve ever found yourself bottling things up, convincing yourself you’re fine, or wondering why talking feels so unnatural, this conversation will remind you: you’re not broken; you're just human.

Gary's book Cracked Open: A Field Guide for Men in Search of the Truth is available to buy on Amazon and you can find out more about the project by visiting: https://crackedopenproject.com/.

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