When you leave a relationship, whether it was your choice or not, it is devastating. It did not come out of the blue. It was built up over time - often years. What happens is that we begin to expect everyone else is like our last relationship, and respond to new people as though their are our ex. Whether you wait a while to date or you dive right into it, you have to process and heal from the previous relationship. Otherwise you end up recreating the same relationship over and over again. Instead, learn from the events that took place in your previous relationship, heal your wounds, and learn how to create your dream relationship in today's episode.