Culture Changers with Allison Hare

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Culture Changers with Allison Hare episodes

October 01Death of the Pastor's Wife: What Really Happened to Mica Miller with Jennie Gage
Mica Miller told her friends that if she died by suicide, it wasn't her. It was JP. Netflix gave Death of the Pastor's Wife three episodes, and my repeat guest Jennie Gage watched her own marriage play out on screen. She spent 24 years as the wife of a Mormon church leader, survived her own suicide attempt, and has a theory about what really happened to Mica. This one is harrowing. Trigger warnings on this one: suicide, abuse, and religious coercion. If you're struggling, call or text 988 (US).
Notable timestamps
00:00 "He makes JP Miller look kind of mild"
03:44 Born Mormon in 1974: the wifey immersion program
11:27 "Why can't she just be Mica?"
13:05 Trained to be a pet, and the second earring
17:54 "He picked me"
23:22 Spiritual warfare: when abuse gets blamed on Satan
27:47 Trauma bonded to Jesus
35:19 The timeline of Mica's final day
39:37 Was it suicide? "Yes and no"
54:43 What Jennie would have said to Mica
Rather watch this on YouTube? https://youtu.be/rhndF2WJkps
Jennie Gage:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lifetaketwo7662
Substack: https://lifetaketwo.substack.com
Jennie's first Culture Changers episode: https://youtu.be/y7Hz_ui5Kx0
Allison
Free 90-Second Podcast Audit: https://allisonhare.com/pod90
Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall
Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
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1 hr
September 24She sang at Trump's Inauguration, then Left the Church: Julianna Glasse
Julianna Glasse was a chart topping Christian pop star who sang at Donald Trump's 2017 National Prayer Breakfast and taught tens of thousands of women that their closeness to God ran straight through their husbands. Then her husband found the books she was hiding, threw one on the floor, and told her "this is what happens when you read." She turned his sentence into the title of her new book, lost her marriage, her tours, and her book deal, survived death threats and sexual violence threats from fellow Christians, and became the first single woman ever partnered with Oxford's Saïd Business School. What religion actually teaches women about their own worth, and what it costs to walk away from it.
Notable timestamps:
[02:48] Meeting Julianna Glasse, and the cheeky title of her new book
[04:01] The doctrine of depravity, taught to her at age four
[09:04] Singing at Trump's 2017 National Prayer Breakfast, and what she was taught about women
[12:39] Meeting her gay neighbors in 2015, and the first crack in her belief system
[15:11] Public shaming, death threats, and sexual violence threats after her divorce
[21:18] The night her husband threw her books on the floor
[27:16] Losing everything, then applying to Oxford's Saïd Business School
[33:53] Sexual exploration, non-monogamy, and reclaiming her body
[45:44] Launching This Is What Happens When Women Read, and reaching 4 million women in 67 countries
[51:18] Her relationship to God and a higher power today
Prefer to watch on YouTube? https://youtu.be/VdzeTBUVgaU
Julianna Glasse:
Book (Amazon): https://link.amazon/B058uJc4n
Website: https://www.juliannaglasse.com/
This Is What Happens When Women Read (nonprofit): https://www.thisiswhathappenswhenwomenread.org/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliannaglasse/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/juliannaglasse/
Allison:
Follow me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare
Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall
Weekly email, Thursdays: https://allisonhare.com/email
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57 min
September 17Rich and Addicted: Matt Grace and what saved him
Matt Grace grew up with a chef, a housekeeper, and a father who paid for his first prostitute, and by 29 he'd spent a hundred and fifty thousand dollars on sex workers and burned through every drug you can name. Matt spent his career as an interventionist for some of the wealthiest addicts in the country and just released his book, God Doesn't Relapse. We get into the therapist who diagnosed him with an Oedipus complex at nine, the house that became the neighborhood's drug den, the mother who finally changed the locks on him, and a moment where Matt and I go head to head over what actually counts as an addiction. This one's unflinching and important.
Notable timestamps:
02:06 "Holy fuck" is exactly the right way to open this one
04:11 Expelled from two preschools, flagged as a future sociopath at six
06:31 The therapist who diagnosed a nine-year-old's Oedipus complex and let him attack him for years
08:13 The Bloomfield Hills mansion and the house that became a teenage drug den
15:35 His father pays for his first prostitute, leading to $150K spent on sex workers
26:27 Suicidal with a rifle, and choosing God over a bullet
28:24 His mother's ultimatum: "Get out, I'm changing the locks"
41:35 "That's not recovery, it's weakness": Matt on being triggered
44:44 Matt and Allison clash over body dysmorphia versus addiction
51:02 The dream car he bought after his father died, and sold eight months later
Guest links:
Book, God Doesn't Relapse: https://link.amazon/B03ZboAOz
Matt's website: https://mattgrace.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattsavinggrace/
National Sobriety Tour: https://mattgrace.com/national-sobriety-tour/
Allison's links:
Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall
Weekly email, Thursdays: https://allisonhare.com/email
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59 min
September 10Death of the Pastor's Wife: What Netflix Left Out
JP Miller preached a full sermon less than 24 hours after his wife died - allegedly by suicide - without taking a single question about it. Netflix gave "Death of the Pastor's Wife" three episodes but still left out a lot: the earlier conviction, the first wife whose stories echoed Mica's experience, the third wife already leading worship beside him. I watched the whole thing, went deep into the rabbit hole - and am reporting back here as I noticed some notable patterns that are showing up right now in trad wife culture too. This is a harrowing story whose theological foundations permeate our society across many angles. Trigger warnings on this one.
Rather watch on YouTube? Watch here.
Notable timestamps:
00:00 The documentary, the trigger warning, and why this one couldn't wait
03:10 Who Mica Miller was, and how grooming looked like devotion at 13
11:20 Christian patriarchy 101: the umbrella, submission, and Bill Gothard's IBLP
15:40 JP's 1999 conviction, the pardon, and the pattern nobody flagged
23:15 The sermon the morning after Mica's death, and the room that stayed silent
29:00 What Netflix actually left out
33:30 The data: how common this is inside churches, and how few pastors are trained for it
36:45 Savanna Stone, trad wives, and why there are no old trad wives
41:10 Allison's mom, her dad's advice, and what she wants for her own marriage
47:30 Mica's Law: where it stands, and how to actually help
Episode resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233), or text START to 88788
"Death of the Pastor's Wife" updates, Netflix Tudum: https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/death-of-the-pastors-wife-john-paul-miller-updates
What Netflix left out, Ladbible: https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/tv/jp-miller-netflix-left-out-documentary-criminal-record-527761-20260902
Mica's Law update, WBTW: https://www.wbtw.com/news/grand-strand/horry-county/shes-the-reason-second-micas-law-bill-sparks-statewide-push-for-stronger-domestic-violence-protections/
Savanna Stone documentary: https://youtu.be/Xvy0yOVtUqw?si=a6IUhRM5k3DTKB9Q
Allison's links:
Follow me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare
Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@culturechangerspod
Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall
Weekly email, Thursdays: https://allisonhare.com/email
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1 hr 10 min
September 03Healing is Hilarious: Pop culture and comedians with Rachel LaForce
Are you as obsessed as I am with the dumbest headlines of the week? Well, you're in luck! I've got comedian and pop culture whisperer Rachel LaForce on to break down what Spencer Pratt's mayoral run, the $250 Trump bill, and trad wife content filmed at Home Goods actually say about the rest of us. Rachel got sober by accident, spent decades masking her neurodivergence, and built her whole show around one idea: comedy gets you to the truth faster than seriousness does. This is a fast, sharp, occasionally unhinged hour that somehow keeps landing on self-belief.
Notable timestamps:
03:57 – The UFC fight on the White House lawn, and how "healing is hilarious" started as Rachel's own recovery philosophy

12:08 – How she got sober "on accident" during a breakup, and never went back

16:57 – The push-yourself-out-of-the-pool metaphor for knowing you're actually ready for change

20:02 – Spencer Pratt's mayoral run and the self-belief lesson hiding inside it

23:38 – Why she thinks billionaires are boring, and her case for an abundance mindset

27:54 – MacKenzie Scott, Jeff Bezos, and the gender dynamics of wealth

31:45 – Her actual rule for what's fair game to joke about, and why trad wife content makes her sad instead of snarky

37:36 – Cortisol dressing, dopamine dressing, and how marketing invents things to sell women

43:36 – Where to find Rachel and what's next for Healing is Hilarious
Rachel LaForce, resources and links:
Healing is Hilarious podcast: https://www.rachellaforce.com/podcast

Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6jliDvkqHQFXyfx9Qh0lr4

Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rachel-laforce-show/id1600838616

Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@therachellaforce

Rachel's website: https://www.rachellaforce.com/

Follow Rachel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachellaforce/

Follow Healing is Hilarious on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healingishilarious/

Skewed Orbit Studios: https://www.skewedorbitstudios.com/
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48 min
August 27The Ambition Penalty with Stefanie O'Connell
I grew up thinking if I did everything right, negotiated hard enough, leaned in enough, the outcome would eventually match the effort. Y'all, that was a big old fat lie. Stefanie O'Connell spent years digging into the research for her new book, The Ambition Penalty, and the data is downright shocking. We get into girlboss culture and tradwife culture, and why they're actually selling the same lie in different outfits. We talk about what happens to women who out earn their male partners, and I promise, you're going to be picking your jaw up off the floor. Fair warning, there's some rage in this one. Mine included.
Notable timestamps:
01:55 – Stefanie explains the title and the reckoning behind the book

06:07 – The truth about whether women actually negotiate less than men

10:29 – Was Lean In a net positive or a net negative

15:55 – Girlboss and tradwife culture are selling the exact same lie

20:03 – Midroll

26:34 – The data on breadwinning moms and abuse in the home

36:43 – Why men only read 20% of bestselling books by women

45:03 – Where to actually start when the problem feels too big

50:10 – Why Stefanie refuses to buy into mom guilt

56:27 – What utopia actually looks like, ten years out
Stefanie's links:
The Ambition Penalty (book):https://amzn.to/4gbQlSY

Website: https://tooambitious.com/

Too Ambitious newsletter: https://tooambitious.substack.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanieoconnell/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stefaniemoconnell
Allison's links:
Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall

Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
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1 hr 1 min
August 20Gen X, there's a new Lilith Fair rising
The women who built Lilith Fair were called "angry," "hysterical," "emotional," and dismissed as "a bunch of lesbians" back in the 90s. Turns out Sarah McLachlan and her all-female lineup were way ahead of their time, running the highest grossing tour of 1997. Now the concept is back, and leading the charge is Olivia Rodrigo, using her platform to advocate for women's rights. This is a fun, fascinating, and timely look at how right those women were, and why the fight just picked up way more steam.
Notable timestamps (estimated):
00:00 Daisy Chain Fields, and why it couldn't have come faster

02:20 The Alanis Morissette clip that stopped Allison cold

05:00 The real history of Lilith Fair: why radio wouldn't play two women back to back

08:10 The Indigo Girls, internalized homophobia, and breaking through anyway

18:45 Allison's mom, "never rely on a man to make money," and what it cost her

27:20 Olivia Rodrigo's parents: "you can't be a real artist unless you speak up"

32:00 The Daisy Chain Fields lineup and how fast it sold out

34:00 The gestalt therapy session with a bat, and learning to let anger out

38:40 Why the internet is already criticizing what Olivia Rodrigo wears
Rather watch on YouTube? Watch here.
Episode resources:
Daisy Chain Fields: https://www.daisychainfields.com

Lilith Fair: Building a Mystery (2025 documentary)

Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso, the Alanis Morissette episode: https://talkeasypod.com/alanis-morissette/
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55 min
August 13Fascinating lies behind our favorite ads
Are you as obsessed as I am about how we are being manipulated by social media, ads, propaganda, politics, and what's real and what's not? Well, you're in luck! I've got ad sleuth Emily Rask from the hit show Lies We Bought podcast on to break it down for us! This is a fun and fascinating exploration into the sinister truth of advertising.
Notable timestamps:
03:05 What Lies We Bought actually is

10:29 The Kellogg brothers and the breakfast myth

11:38 Listerine invented a disease called halitosis

15:18 Growing up Mormon in Utah

22:33 The LDS Church's $30 billion SEC settlement

31:20 Why she turns down supplement company sponsors

38:03 Lie or Legit: rapid-fire mythbusting

42:35 Edward Bernays, the father of propaganda
Guest links:
Emily Rask's Lies We Bought: https://www.lieswebought.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@liesweboughtpodcast

Patreon: patreon.com/c/lieswebought

IG: https://www.instagram.com/lieswebought/
Allison's links:
Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare

Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall

No Country for Mothers screening, Atlanta, Aug 24: https://allisonhare.com/mothers
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53 min
August 06I Found My Dad's Lost Story
My father died last week. He was 97. What a gangster, making it that far.
Milad Rizk survived World War Two as a kid in Lebanon, immigrated to America with nothing but a Lebanese passport and a plan, raised six kids across two marriages, and spent his whole career as an auditor jumping from Iraq to Saudi Arabia to Chicago to New York. He had dementia for the last several years of his life. Toward the end he couldn't really talk to us anymore.
Then I remembered something. Fifteen years ago, before I had a podcast, before I even knew what a podcast was, I used to run a music blog and interview artists with a little handheld recorder. One day I pointed it at my dad instead and asked him to tell me his whole life story.
I hadn't listened to it since. I wasn't even sure the file still existed. So last week I dug an old recorder out of a closet, popped in the SD card, and the very first file I opened was him.
I think about how close I came to never finding this. And I think about how many of us have a parent sitting right there, willing to talk, and we just haven't asked yet.
This is Milad Youssef Rizk. Born December 20th, 1928 in Tripoli, Lebanon. Died July 30th of this year. He spoke five languages, picked up hitchhikers with all six of his kids in the car (#superdad), and told stories so freaking captivating. In this interview he talks about growing up poor during the war, what it was like starting over in America in his late twenties, and near the end, whether he thinks he was a good father. His answer surprised me (he said no).
If you still have a parent (or loved one) who would sit down and talk to you, record it. You can thank me later!
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1 hr 5 min
June 25Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders Season 3: We can't stop! w/ Mara Davis
As a woman who deeply cares about women's rights, I am obsessed with a show that is totally problematic. America's Sweethearts Season 3 just dropped on Netflix. I grabbed fellow DCC-obsessed Mara Davis, an Atlanta radio legend who has been watching the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders since the 1970s, sat through all 17 seasons on CMT, and has opinions about every single cheerleader, judge, and PR move in that building. We get into Reece's early retirement and the trad wife speculation swirling on Reddit, Faith's breakout season and the ponytail situation, whether the coordinated cheerleader solidarity online is real or engineered, what Kelli's exit meeting with Faith reveals about leadership under serious pressure, and why two feminists who probably shouldn't love this show absolutely cannot stop watching it.
Timestamps:
00:00 Why Allison is obsessed with a show she admits is totally problematic

02:35 Mara's DCC origin story: 17 seasons of CMT and what changed when Netflix arrived

05:10 The arc of all three seasons: severely underpaid athletes, pay equity fight, social media scrutiny

06:45 Mara's feminist paradox: "It doesn't make sense that I love this show so much"

08:36 Reece: the darling who appeared in all three seasons and why her early exit is more complicated than an injury

11:13 Reece's husband, the trad wife speculation, and what Reddit has been saying

14:44 Faith as the Season 3 breakout: "You cannot take your eyes off that girl"

15:31 The moment that made Mara fully Team Kelli: the exit meeting and what Kelli said to Faith

16:43 Kelli's "re-earn my trust," Victoria from Season 1, and whether the cheerleader solidarity online is coordinated

21:53 "It's Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. It's not Victoria. It's just not."

23:00 Kelli watches back every season and critiques her own leadership

23:18 Mara: "I want her to run the country."

26:13 What Season 3 may have hidden about body image and why seven episodes isn't enough

33:13 Mara used to judge Atlanta Falcons cheerleader auditions

35:31 Why the DCC sisterhood is actually one of the most feminist things on television

37:20 Who would replace Kelli and Judy if they ever retired?

38:37 Glow-ups, ageism, and how people talk about women over 60 online

40:28 Season 4 is confirmed and we already know who's back at training camp

43:09 Dayton and Dayton's mom

44:32 Judy Trammell choreographed Thunderstruck and the music licensing conversation
Resources and Links Mentioned
Mara Davis on Instagram: https://instagram.com/maradavis2000
"Be There in Five" podcast by Kate Kennedy (Victoria's appearance on this episode is discussed): https://open.spotify.com/episode/2brpAlYGUffbYekHU1PqMR?si=f3d45a467f444032
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52 min

About Culture Changers with Allison Hare

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Culture Changers is where we pour gasoline on fiery topics like power, politics, religion, and relationships (thoughtfully) and find a better way through. I've interviewed people like Seth Godin,…