Join the Vallottons as they unwrap the mysteries of love, drawing from their own story that began just after Valentine's Day, 2010! They'll take you through the twists of their relationship, from the early days of butterflies and bashfulness to the profound bond they've nurtured over a decade. Love's true nature often gets lost in the clichés, but they're here to share how they found its deeper meaning and made it the cornerstone of their life together.

As they reflect on the question that puzzles poets and philosophers alike—"What is love?"—they offer their insights on distinguishing the fleeting from the forever. They'll explore the complexities that can be mistaken for love and discuss different forms of affection, from friendship to unconditional love, with Biblical and Greek definitions of love as the plumb line. But it's not all abstract; they'll also talk about the everyday choices and actions that sustain a lasting connection. So tune in, and let's celebrate love with a candid look at what it takes to make it thrive through every season.

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Have you ever wondered if the secret to a successful romance might be hidden in the foundations of friendship? Get ready to uncover the nuances of pre-dating as the Vallottons guide you through the art of assessing potential love interests from a platonic starting point. Navigating the transition from friendship to romance can be like walking a tightrope, but this conversation promises to equip you with the insights to maintain your balance with grace. Jason and Lauren delve into the complexities of opposite-sex friendships for singles, where clarity and integrity are paramount for respectful boundaries that don't impede on future romances. Plus, don't miss their take on the 'friend zone' conundrum and the art of striking just the right tempo between friendship and courtship.

The Vallottons share personal stories and seasoned advice on the significance of understanding a potential partner's family dynamics and the intricacies of their personal relationships. They provide a lens through which to view someone's background and values, even in seemingly casual settings, such as parties or during shared experiences. And as Jason and Lauren dissect the importance of communication in the modern dating world, they'll help you navigate the nebulous realm of physical attraction versus emotional connections, offering strategies for clear dialogue that can steer you away from the pitfalls of misinterpretation. Whether you're swiping right or meeting organically, this episode is your compass to a dating journey filled with intention and understanding.

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This Q&A sesh with the Vallotton's is fantastic content! Here are the questions they cover in Episode 56:

1. How did you know it was the right time to get engaged?
2. What are your tips for tired parents who are in the "Baby and a Toddler" season?
3. Can I still be feminine and initiate the first step in a romantic relationship?
4. What three things are essential for a deep, connected, healthy relationship with my wife?
5. How do you know you’re ready to date after divorce?
6. How do you know you’re ready to have a baby?
7. What's your advice for going through heartbreak and the pain of seeing him with someone else?

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The Vallottons have delved into the intricate dynamics of relationships, pondering the reasons behind the fading spark and the drifting apart of once inseparable couples. They peel back the curtain on common relationship woes, attributing them to the subtle erosion of connection and communication. In a heartfelt discussion that is both intimate and informative, the Vallottons not only share their personal journey but also impart insights gained from the trenches of love and war.

Central to their conversation is the concept of the 'Four Horsemen,' a term coined by the Gottman Institute, and for good reason. The Vallottons emphasize that behaviors like criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling can sabotage even the strongest bonds if left unchecked. Their exploration goes beyond identification, tackling these relationship adversaries head-on by providing relatable scenarios and actionable advice. The focus is on taking ownership of communication patterns and transforming them into supportive, nurturing exchanges that strengthen relationships against inevitable storms.

The Vallottons then hone in on the silent but deadly practice of stonewalling and its corrosive effects on partnerships. They guide listeners through the fine line between needing space and building walls, offering strategies for breaking negative cycles and creating a blueprint for conflict resolution. The goal is to empower listeners to turn squabbles into opportunities for growth. Whether navigating the complexities of marriage or seeking to deepen connections, this episode serves as an invaluable resource for fostering healthier, more resilient relationships.

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Navigating the intricacies of parenting with a spirit-led approach takes center stage as Seth Dahl joins the conversation! Seth, with his rich background as a children's pastor, opens up about the emotional landscapes of both parents and children, revealing how these deeply affect family dynamics. The discussion spans from tales of discipline and understanding to fostering emotional intelligence in little ones, presenting a treasure trove of insights for those seeking to cultivate a nurturing home culture.

As the delicate dance between guiding children and allowing them the space to grow into independent thinkers is unpacked, there is a reminder of the importance of setting boundaries with empathy. Seth's personal anecdotes bring to life the power of validating children's feelings, establishing a family identity, and the art of teaching respect and obedience through genuine connection. The conversation traverses the terrain of emotional communication, the benefits of contributions over chores, and the necessity of embodying healthy examples for children to emulate, all while integrating contemporary child development science with age-old wisdom.

Wrapping up the heartfelt exchange, there is reflection on the transformative shift from demanding immediate obedience to nurturing little ones through connection and co-regulation. The Vallotton's experiences with their little ones illuminate the beauty of this evolution in parenting, prioritizing emotional attunement over quick fixes. Here's to a week of meaningful connections and the delight of nurturing future world contributors!

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Seth Dahl is a worldwide speaker to parents and children, and the creator of Designing God’s Home Academy, a 3 month intensive for parents to build their home in partnership with God. He is also the founder of Jesus on Every Screen: empowering churches, ministers, and kingdom businesses to effectively harness social media and reach more people with the gospel.
https://sethdahl.com/

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Welcome to a heartfelt episode where the pillars of the Bethel Redding community, Richard and Libby Gordon, invite you into the sacred space of their lives. In this intimate conversation, the Gordons generously share their personal tales of faith, marriage, and parenting, offering a poignant glimpse into the intricate tapestry of their journey.

Rich and Libby open up about their individual paths to faith, providing a rich context for the foundation of their shared spiritual journey. From their South African upbringings to their uniquely personal encounters with the power of the Holy Spirit, their stories converge to form a compelling narrative of faith's transformative power.

The episode unfolds with the Gordons delving into the intricacies of their romantic journey, from the initial sparks of dating to the profound commitment of marriage, which grows, sharpens and changes you to the beginnings of trying to build a family.  Listeners are treated to the genuine and relatable aspects of their relationship, exploring the challenges and joys that come with building a life together.

The conversation takes a poignant turn as Rich and Libby bravely share their experiences with parenthood, shining a light on the often overlooked struggles of postpartum challenges. The Gordons provide a candid and raw account of navigating through a particularly difficult postpartum season, emphasizing the importance of community support and mental health resources during such trying times.

As the Gordons weave their narratives together, the audience gains a profound understanding of the delicate balance required to nurture a flourishing family dynamic while maintaining a deep commitment to faith and community service. Their story is one of resilience, hope, and the unwavering strength found in the bonds of love and partnership.

So, join us for an enriching episode as Rich and Libby Gordon invite you into their world, sharing the vulnerabilities and triumphs that have shaped their faith, marriage, and parenting journey. This conversation is not just a glimpse into their lives; it's an inspiring exploration of the transformative power of love, faith, and the enduring commitment to building a life imbued with purpose and divine connection.

Richard and Libby Gordon:
Both raised in South Africa, having worked in church, academia, and business realms, the Gordons now live in to Redding, CA with their children, Moses and Ella.  They both serve on the Senior Leadership Team at Bethel Church. Libby is devoted to a life of intimacy with God. After a radical encounter with God as a teenager, she entered ministry at nineteen years old. Now she is helping to oversee Bethel's online church expression after years of leading and overseeing in the BSSM and BSSMO realms. Richard's dream is to raise up world-changers and influencers like Danie

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Embark on a journey with the Vallottons as they arm individuals with the strategic know-how to make the New Year not just memorable but transformational. The Vallottons peel back the layers on why setting clear goals is the secret weapon for personal and relational triumphs, emphasizing the importance of a well-crafted "battle plan" to turn dreams into reality. In this episode, the Vallottons engage in a heartfelt discussion about navigating challenges between a vision that sparks inner fire and a mission that drives daily strides forward.

Listeners are invited to redefine the art of goal setting as the Vallottons share over two decades of unwavering commitment to a vision that has guided their growth, demonstrating how others can do the same. The Vallottons support individuals in identifying mission-critical tasks – their 'job to do' – and reveal how to break down intimidating dreams into manageable, actionable steps. Listeners will walk away equipped with pragmatic strategies for setting goals across key life facets, ensuring they steer their ship with purpose and precision.

Delving into the complexities of balancing ambition with the nurturing of cherished relationships, the Vallottons stress the power of accountability and community. They share insights on simple tools like alarms and calendars, along with the wisdom of aligning with successful role models, to finesse the symphony of life. Whether individuals are aiming to enhance fitness, financial health, or family life, the Vallottons encourage setting priorities that propel towards a year of unparalleled success.

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In this episode, the Vallottons model a year-in-review process (below) that will strengthen your heart connection and and foster growth and unity as you step into the new year!

1. Reflect on the Past Year
   • Share personal reflections on the highlights and challenges experienced as a couple during the past year
   • Discuss how external factors may have impacted the relationship and how you navigated those challenges together
2. Celebrate Achievements
3. Identify Areas for Growth
4. Set Relationship Goals
5. Balance Individual and Shared Goals
6. Adapt to Changes
7. Express Gratitude

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Every dream of parenthood is unique, and for some, the road to family is laden with unexpected twists, triumphs, and trials. Jessica Satterfield gracefully steps into our space, sharing her profound journey of motherhood—a story that encompasses the poignant complexities of infertility, loss, and the beautiful mosaic of adoption. From her childhood yearnings to the deepening of her faith, Jessica unravels the challenges she and her husband, Brandon, faced as they navigated through the heartbreak of infertility treatments and the shadows of personal hardship, only to find joy and hope in the most unforeseen places.

Witness the resilience of a family molded by both agony and miracles, as Jessica recounts the unimaginable sorrow of losing a vibrant son and the strength they gained in the wake of such loss. The raw emotion of their story is interwoven with the delicate threads of healing, as they embraced the gifts of life anew—overcoming infertility with a successful IVF, followed by a surprise natural pregnancy. Jessica's narrative stands as a testament to the indomitable spirit of those who, even in their darkest moments, cling to hope and the promise of new beginnings.

The fabric of family is rich and varied, and Jessica's tapestry includes the vibrant colors of adoption alongside the innate challenges of blending biological and adopted children. Her candid reflections on the adoption process, parental wisdom, and the ever-evolving journey of faith shed light on the sanctity of connecting with each child's heart. Her insights into the day-to-day triumphs and trials of parenting—illness in a large family, nighttime wakefulness, and the search for grace amidst the chaos—are universal. Jessica's story, shared here, is an invitation to celebrate the resilience of the human spirit and the profound joy that can emerge from the most unexpected chapters of life.

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Jessica has been wrecked by the love of a beautiful Father. She has known the intimacy of Papa God in the midst of the heartbreak of abuse, infertility, and child loss. Because she’s known Him in the fellowship of His sufferings, she’s also known Him in the power of His resurrection. She writes on her popular blog, Grace While We Wait, and is the author of, Partnering With Heaven, her first book. She is the President and Founder of a ministry called The Garden, which connects wome

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In this episode, Jason and Lauren  answer several questions sent in by the audience! The topics  covered are:

1. Insecurities about ex's
2. Prenups
3. Dating someone with a porn addiction
4. Midlife crisis in marriage
5. Dating someone with children 
6. Helping siblings bond

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