How much should appearance matter in dating? How do you overcome fears of rejection and develop high self-worth? How do we address racism, colorism and discrimination in dating? Dr. Donna and Jess share their experiences and perspectives to help you feel better in your own skin and address your own biases.

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Dating Advice with Dr. Donna

00:00:05 - 00:05:00

You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sex and relationship advice, you can use tonight. Hey, hey, your friendly neighborhood sexologist here. Jessica O'Reilly getting ready to talk about dating self worth self esteem body image and how to feel better about yourself. Whether you are single dating partnered or somewhere in between. I I wanna give a big shadow to desire resorts, they have clothing optional. Couples experiences in Mexico and in Europe, and Brandon, and I will be joining them on their Mediterranean cruise this September and the desire red carpet cruise in may twenty twenty I am not gonna complain about that. Joining me today to discuss dating in the age of social media in the age of left, and sometimes writes swipes and the age of filters, and heavy editing on just about everything is Dr Donna Oreo will a sex and relationship, educator and therapist and an international speaker located in the Washington DC metro area, thanks for being here. Thank you for having me. Now, you are a therapist. Why do clients come to you primarily, oh, there's so many reasons, but the main one is that I actually see a lot of single people and they're concerned about how they've been in these sort of repeat relationships again and again worried about having a little bit of anxiety. Maybe some depression around what it's like today and what it's like today now. Now, and what it's like to date in their individual bodies, so working on some some level of body satisfaction. But then there's also the color is that dealing with so discrimination based on their skin tone, as well as texture isn't that they're dealing with which is the same before hair this commission against a hair texture. And so how does that discrimination? How's it manifested are people being overt about it? Are they small microaggressions? Oh, it's a little bit of everything. It's it's such a joy how people can find different ways the compliment slash insult each other. So though here things like you're pretty dark skin. Like, I've never I've never been with you. You know woman like us, and like, okay will what do you mean? Oh, I've never dated a big girl. And just you know sort of. Yeah. I hear that's islands. And when people say things like this are they looking for cookie. Are they saying, well, you know, I'm here, and I'm doing a good thing. Charity dating. I'm doing you of favor by being seen out in public with you. And it just like this is ridiculous. The toll that this must take on your self esteem must be so significant how how do you work through that? So those aren't even what I was thinking of with regard to microaggressions. I was quite blatant. How do you work through that the fear 'cause we all face a fear of rejection when we go on a date, but that fear is intensified?