“I never want to disappoint someone”. The pitfalls of people-pleasing and not taking risks. Tatiana reflects on the fear of disappointing her parents and the downsides of following the crowd. She hopes her future daughter will be brave enough to take more risks in life.

The best of both worlds? One new baby and two religions. Mum and dad are trying to figure it out. How will they bring up their daughter?

Matchmakers, a fake engagement ring and love; welcome to the marriage game. “They’ll wonder, are you good enough for their son? The question is, are they good enough for you?”

My mum’s letter to me! Namulanta’s own mum, Dorcas, is back on the show with a letter to share. She talks with her daughter about self-preservation, mum-guilt and life in colonial, pre-independent Kenya.

An escape by boat, pirates, prejudice and a “strength that lies within”. Charlene’s family was among the Vietnamese “boat people”, fleeing in search of a “better life”. Charlene fears her daughter might encounter similar racism to what she faced. She hopes she’ll be inspired by the stories of the strong women in her family, like Pah Pah and Ma Ma.

Robin tries out blue acrylic fingernails. He advises his daughter to “always trust your instincts” and to “be prepared for anything”. He makes self-defence videos for women using skills he learnt in the military.

Under pressure to tie the knot? Elle says, “Everyone is praying for me to get married.” She grew up thinking marriage was essential, but as she’s grown older, she’s changed her mind.

Underwear, razors and teenage angst. The perils of trying to fit in and be noticed. It’s a tale of accidental wedgies, stealing (sort of) from dad and attempting to impress the boys.

Three mums, new and old letters - the beginning of a handbook to life.

Funny, heart-breaking, insightful and ultimately honest – help Namulanta create a handbook to life. She won the BBC’s International Podcast Competition 2021 and wants to hear your letters.