In this episode of Sex With Dr. Jess, Sexologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Jessica O'Reilly discusses the recently unearthed recording of Donald Trump in which he brags about "[grabbing] them by the pussy." She shares some the daily messages she receives from her "fans" and discusses the problem with sending unsolicited sexually explicit messages. She also provides actionable tips for chatting & hooking up online.

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Episode 02: Decency Trumps Hate

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Jessica O’Reilly

Hello. My name is Jessica O'Reilly. I am a sex and relationship expert, and my focus is sexual compatibility because, without it, your relationship just won't last. I am here to help you become sexually compatible because compatibility is something you cultivate. It's not something you just find you actually have to work for it. And today I want to talk just a little, not too much, about Mr. Trump, because everyone is talking about the grab her by the pussy comments. And, oh, I'm waking up to a timeline full of grab her by the pussy critiques and memes and nonsense, and Mr. Trump, I believe these comments and all the other sexually degrading and gender degrading comments that you have made are ultimately going to cost you the election.

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But I also want to talk about the way we approach each other online, sexually, explicitly. In many cases, it really amounts to harassment, because this morning, along with waking up to a timeline flooded with you know the jokes, the op-eds, the grab her by the pussy news, I also woke up to some messages that honestly, these messages, they make me want to stop working in this field. And let me tell you, this happens every single day without exception. And every week, sometimes around Thursday, I... I consider quitting sexology. I just think I'm going to go back into teaching. I'm going to go work in marketing. I'm going to go work in finance, anything, because it's exhausting working in this field, as much fun as it is, honestly. I have really, in some ways, the best job in the world. I'm heading to Mexico tomorrow, in Costa Rica the next week, and I have Kiev and Geneva and a whole bunch of other fun places on my list. I do love my job, but the harassment, the online stuff is honestly just too much. It is overwhelming. So, every week I think, oh, my God, I can't take this anymore. I just got to quit. Then I remind myself that I also love my job, and I love the people I'm working with, and uh it's super fun and exciting, and I think I'm making a difference. But… the harassment. All right, here's a few I received today. Let me pull these up.

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Okay, here's one I got this morning. “Nice tits. Show, naked baby. Babe naked”. Not even really sure what that means. Um… Actually, I guess I know what it means. And you know simply put, I'm just not interested. Another message I received this morning. Uh… This one says oh, this one's to the point. 4 words, “Sit on my face”. No, I think I'll pass. Thanks. No, thanks. Here's another one. “Why don't you sex my dick?” Hmm… Why don't you sex my dick? Well, I can think of a bunch of reasons, you know, all culminating in the fact that I simply don't want to.