"They seem fine!" This is the refrain of the folks we at Dementia By Day refer to as the "out-of-towners."

The out-of-towners think they know best and they are very vocal about the care they believe your loved one should receive, but in reality, they are out of touch with what it's like caring for someone living with dementia. 

If you have out-of-towners in your life, we hope you find this tip helpful for how to handle your next conversation with them, and we hope you find comfort in knowing you are not alone in dealing with these kinds of situations as a caregiver.

People often ask me how to break the news to their loved one living with dementia that they will be moving to a dementia care community. We NEVER want to say something like, "Mom, we are moving you to dementia care because there is something wrong with your brain," and we especially don't want to add, "remember?!" when they ask about what's going on for the second (or tenth) time. 

People living with dementia can't make this decision for themselves and they are usually not aware of their condition (anosognosia), so telling them something like the above is not going to go well. Instead of starting an argument that is sure to upset all sides, try my 3-prong approach to get your loved one to move to dementia care calmly.

My #1 piece of advice when it comes to hospice: Look into it before you think it's time. Don't wait too long, because it's an invaluable resource for people living with dementia and their families. 

Listen to learn how someone living with dementia might qualify for hospice.

For family caregivers of people living with dementia, the offerings of the senior living landscape can be super confusing. In this mini episode of the Dementia By Day Podcast, Rachael Wonderlin introduces some of the most common types of care offered in senior living, and explains how these designations can vary widely not only from country to country, but even state to state domestically in the US.

Back when Rachael first started posting content about caring for people with dementia, there were very few people inhabiting this same niche on the internet. Now, there are more and more cropping up every day. In this mini podcast episode, Rachael talks about the importance of double-checking the information you come across on the internet when it comes to caring for your loved one with dementia.

Nomenclature is so important. Listen to why I hate the phrases "therapeutic lying," "fiblets," and "white lies." Embracing Their Reality™️ is about doing what's true for the person living with dementia, NOT lying.

In this mini episode, Dementia By Day CEO Rachael Wonderlin talks about Naomi Feil's Validation Theory for communicating with people living with dementia. Validation Theory contrasts directly with Embracing Their Reality™️ because it teaches to "never lie" to someone living with dementia, and often suggests avoiding certain lines of questioning instead. For example, if someone with dementia asks "Where's my mom?" Validation teaches to answer the person with dementia like this: "It sounds like you miss your mom." This doesn't solve the emotional problem the person with dementia is experiencing.  Rachael also discusses the often lesser-known aspects of Validation Theory, which are surprisingly Freudian in nature.

Listen to this mini podcast episode to learn the fundamentals of Timeline Confusion™️.

A common misconception about people living with dementia is that they "don't recognize" their loved ones. In reality, people living with dementia aren't living on a linear timeline. This means that if they believe they themselves are 40, they may not understand why their adult child is older than them (as an example), and have trouble placing loved ones on their timeline. 

Welcome to our Mini Podcast season! These are unedited, super short episodes we created for our Patreon audience last year. Now they're available for you to enjoy!

When we spot people posting things like this, they're really taking facts out of context...and typically new to the industry or running out of good content to post! Here's why this doesn't make sense: - Dementia is made up of over 100 different diseases - Many diseases (read: nearly every single disease) has some genetic component - Bad luck is real: you can live a perfectly healthy lifestyle and make all the "right" choices and STILL GET DEMENTIA - Avoiding sugar or whatever all the nonsense, so-called health accounts online these days tell you is NOT a sure-fire way to prevent dementia - Accidents happen: a bad fall, a concussion or a car accident could have an effect on someone's cognitive health

Episode 3 of our Behind the Scenes on Embracing Their Reality, our short film! If you haven't watched it yet, go to embracingtheireality.com or even our YouTube link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WovKSfdo5u8

In the interview: Rachael Wonderlin, Natalie De Paz, Jessica Wasserlauf, Emily Naples