Desire on Fire

Hey Desire on Fire fam, Aimee here! In March I attended ISTA level 2 (a deep, shamanic, initiatory training) in Bali, and I'm finally ready to share with you about it. This training was intense, forcing me to face my protective mechanisms (especially with men), my fear of rejection, and my deep yearning to be loved, chosen, claimed and taken by a man. In this episode, I share about the messy, vulnerable, and at-times-humiliating journey I went on in this retreat, and the healing that came out of it. I share a particularly hot moment, and let you in on my experience meeting a couple that changed my life. Enjoy the listen!

Chapters:

03:41 Interrupting my Bali vacation for a deep personal initiation

07:02 Seeking personal insights and healing through this retreat

12:13 Revealing my fear of rejection and desire for acceptance. 16:20 Practicing polarity, surrendering, and a hot moment.

20:27 Expressing gratitude, opening up about my fears and discomfort.

23:35 Sharing my insecurities about my attractiveness, receiving reassurance, and unexpected comfort.

24:36 Emotional experience, fear, joy, acceptance.

27:56 Sharing vulnerably led to feeling so seen, accepted, and loved by a man.

33:52 Sharing gratitude with a man who embodies what I'm seeking.

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Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype – this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all hustle, shifting out of overwhelm and burnout, and creating hot, harmonious relationships with men. In this week's episode we share how learning to ask for help, and receiving the support and love you need to embrace a more surrendered way of living, is the key for unlocking your feminine power— and we share practical tips on how to get there. Get ready to ditch the drama, embrace your radiance, and unlock deeper connections for relationship bliss!

Chapters: 00:00 - 01:32 Our journey with polarity teachings and learning to integrate them, versus taking them to the extreme

01:32 - 12:07 Ellie shares about her journey with alchemizing her boss-babe drive and opening to receive her husband's reflections, support and provision on a whole new level… and what that has opened up for her

12:07 - 16:07 The backwards values in our culture and the deep work many of us need to do to truly embody our radiance and attract an aligned, devoted partner

16:07 - 17:50 How your out-of-balance masculine energy may be blocking the men in your life from feeling inspired to provide for and cherish you

17:50 - 20:22 Why it's so helpful and important for women to be in community with other women who are embodied in their feminine energy, receptivity and respect for the masculine, in order to make this shift yourself

20:22 - 21:58 Invitation to the Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th!!

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The term "polarity" gets thrown around a lot… but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationships– and why we believe it's the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men!

Chapters:

03:40 An update about our living situation and how we're creating more work/life balance.

09:31 The dynamics of masculine/feminine energies.

12:11 The power of getting truly vulnerable, and asking men for help.

13:32 Aimee shares a story about what her dating life looked like BEFORE practicing polarity… and how her unconscious drive to protect herself drove men away.

17:41 How to communicate your needs and ask for support.

20:33 Our take on what's behind the current climate around relationships… 'toxic' masculinity, failed relationships, 50% divorce rate.

24:09 We share the changes we believe are needed, like embracing mutual respect and understanding.

35:40 An invite to dive deeper into this work of embodying your feminine energy, and to join us in Austin, TX in June! If you're craving sisterhood, community, and healing with the masculine, you'll want to listen all the way to the end!

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We've been cooking up something new for you.

A whole new frequency. A new transmission. A new level of reality. And it's all been Spirit-guided.

The fruits of a whole lotta inner-work labor over the last year— a total death & rebirth...

Shedding deeper layers of programming than we ever have before – so that we can be more ourselves, more free, living in full integrity with our mission– and more of service to the women who walk this path alongside us.

In this episode, we're taking you behind-the-scenes of the whole ride we've been on, birthing our new virtual 5-day event, The Feminine Revolution.

In this 5 day journey, we'll be helping you unlock the code that has been the KEY for us (and the thousands of women we've mentored) to embody the full expression of our Feminine.

It's for those of you ready to shed layers of masculine conditioning, and step into the highest potential of your feminine essence… so that you can become the woman who can have the life-giving intimacy + relationships you desire.

Hint: it involves…

• Uncovering blocks + shedding armor that are keeping you stuck in your relationships with men

• Healing wounds with women + cultivating soul-aligned sisterhood

• Connecting to your body, awakening your sensuality + releasing shame

If you know our annual virtual event The Pleasure Revolution (that we've run 9 times!) and you're curious about the change, this episode will let you in on everything we went through to birth this new transmission of our work into the world.

Reclaiming the ancient wisdom + full range of our FEMININE is what we get to dig into in this event… and we are SO turned on by it!

And we can't wait to bring you along with us!!

Join us for FREE, April 29 - May 3rd 🌹

Link to sign up: www.femininerevolution.live

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This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)!

Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and serve our community at the highest level.

But the birth of his son, Bear, two years ago, has ignited Rob even more deeply into his purpose, and called him step forward into a new role that's more public-facing— in service of doing everything he can to support men especially, and do his part to create the world he wants to leave to his son.

Aimee and I have been asking Rob for YEARS to create a brother program to do the work we do with women at Desire on Fire, and I'm so thrilled to share that he finally said yes!!

It begins mid-April, and it's called The Kings Code. ❤️‍🔥

Rob has been walking his own deeply transformational path for close to two decades now, which he generously shares about (without holding back) in this episode. The incredible life he has created of impact, abundance, family, and contribution, is a reflection of how this man deeply embodies the King archetype, and we really can't imagine anyone more qualified to guide men on their awakening journey.

Inside the program, men will dive deep into rites of passage and archetypal psychology to help them claim their birthright as potent kings and leaders in their lives, relationships, and in the bedroom.

Expect to Uncover:

• The delicate balance of sharing transformative experiences authentically.

• How conventional success metrics can lead to personal emptiness.

• An invitation to explore the King's Code, for profound personal growth.

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Dive into this episode for a deeply moving conversation that we hope will inspire, expand and ignite you on your spiritual path. We'd love to hear what you receive from listening!

Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast! Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week we're diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfillment. Ellie sat down with an amazing guest expert: Penelope Jane Smith. She's a true thought leader in the realm of financial freedom, empowering countless female entrepreneurs with her unique strategies. Penelope shares her incredible money journey, from building a real estate empire to navigating tough times during market crashes. Her story is a testament to resilience and determination, and we hope it inspires and educates you. Find out what's in store for you in this episode:

• Visioning a lifestyle without the need to trade time for money
• Why it's not as difficult as it might seem to understand, manage, and grow your wealth
• Create ideas for how to create passive income and become financially free
• Penelope's "MESS" system for accelerating wealth creation and financial freedom
• The importance of having the right mindset about money and prosperity

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The Financial Freedom (free ebook) by Penelope Jane Smith: In this training, you'll discover exactly what it'll take for you personally to

become financially free so that you don't have to depend on your business,

a job, the government, a partner, or anyone else for money. You'll also learn:

• The Two Types of Passive Income (and How to Get More of Each)
• Why It's Important to Create a Clear Financial Freedom Vision
• 3 Keys to Accelerating Your Journey to Financial Freedom
• Simple Steps You Can Take Right Now That Your Future Self Will Thank You For

(She'll Have an Abundance of Money and Choice In Her Life!)

Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, often uncomfortable shifts that have defined their paths.

The concept of "coherence" becomes a beacon of hope and a guide towards authenticity. But what does it really take to align your life and work with your deepest truths? Aimee, Ellie, and Rob don't just tell you; they take you on a journey through their own battles with resistance, fear, and the quest for authenticity in a world that often demands conformity.

This episode is more than just a conversation; it's a gateway to a transformative experience. If you've ever felt the pull between who you are and who you're meant to be, between the safety of the known and the exhilarating fear of the unknown, then this is for you. Step into a space where the transformation is real, the vulnerability is palpable, and the journey towards authenticity is anything but linear.

Prepare to be intrigued, challenged, and inspired!

In this episode, you'll discover:

• The importance of stepping back and reflecting on the hidden wounds that may be driving our behavior and actions
• How identifying a "virus" at Aimee's birthday party sparked business changes and massive growth for all of us
• What we're learning about polarity— what it actually means to us and how it's playing out in our lives

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We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!!

If you've been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, you're probably aware that we've been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee new level.

And Ellie's husband Rob has been a key player who has catalyzed and supported this deep transformation (while simultaneously undergoing his own changes + awakening!).

So, we invited Rob onto the podcast so that we can dive deep with him, and really let you into the behind-the-scenes of this journey of what it's REALLY looked like for each of us (the messy, real and raw!)

In this episode, Rob opens up about his own journey of healing, personal growth and finding coherence.

Rob shares how the power of masculine and feminine energies has helped him overcome generational wounds, enabling him to break free from harmful cycles, and helped him become the amazing husband and father that he is today—as well as his passion for bringing this work to the world, to impact future generations.

Get ready to be moved by Rob's story!

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What past experiences changed Robert's life

• How one tough family dinner conversation showed the need for healing

• Why it doesn't end with addressing relationship issues and why it needs commitment

• How the "Sacred Initiation" retreat was the 'setup' he needed

• The unfolding of the 'medicine for the collective'

• What shaped his new life principles as husband and father

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To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world.

To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition.

But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and safe with his life. He knew he was meant for more.

So he took the leap into his own healing and evolution, and it's never been more clear to him that he made the right choice.

Today, Jordan facilitates The Path, a men's coaching program that helps men heal old wounds, open up new possibilities and true purpose, and gain the maturity and confidence they need to live full-on in their lives and relationships.

Aimee sat down with Jordan in Austin for a wide-ranging and intimate conversation about why men's personal growth work matters now more than ever, and why healthy brotherhood is so essential for men to thrive.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• How Jordan went from high-powered corporate life to coaching men

• Who he had to disappoint — and why he got okay with it

• What propelled him into this work

• The main issues that get addressed when coaching men

• Jordan's view of porn (and what he thinks men should do)

• How he deals with controversy, failure, and criticism

Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX! Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experience

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In today's episode we sat down with our client and a college friend of Aimee's, Makayla Davis.

She's in one of our all-time favorite photos taken at a Desire On Fire Live event. She's crying, fully immersed in a private moment of reckoning, and she's holding the hand of her good friend.

It's an image that perfectly encapsulates what we do and why we're here: to help women thaw out, connect deeply with their aliveness in every area of life, and do it all together, held in a powerful container of real sisterhood.

What Makayla reveals in today's conversation is that that moment happened at last year's Desire On Fire experience, in response to a question from Ellie onstage.

For 30 years, she had been standing on the sidelines with her desires. When she reconnected with Aimee on social media and started seeing her posts, she experienced a whole range of feelings: judgment, envy, resistance, curiosity.

The loudest message in her head was: That's not for you. For someone else, maybe, but not for you.

Today we sat down with Makayla to get the whole story — what brought her here, what held her back at first, what had her finally say "yes," and why that's made all the difference for her in her life, work, and relationships.

Makayla's journey is perfectly her own, and also super relatable. She's finally finding her center; discovering what it's like to look people in the eye for the first time and ask for what she wants; practicing saying what needs to be said, even when it's hard and messy; and finally buying lingerie.

It's been a year of small steps that have added up to big transformation, with so much more ahead. If you're wondering if this work is for you, or you're curious but stuck because it feels way to edgy or taboo to talk about these things — we think you're going to love this conversation.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• All the doubts, judgments, and fears that kept Makayla on the sidelines for so long… and what finally had her jump in

• The question on the first day that changed everything for her

• What's shifted for her in the year since she said yes to Desire On Fire

Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX! Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experience

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