We discuss therapy trauma with a friend who is also a clinician with lived experience. We explore the impact of previous therapy trauma on new therapeutic relationships, and how therapy trauma makes it so difficult to re-engage with a new therapist. We discuss how relational wounds can still hurt, even when the person wasn’t doing it maliciously like our abusers did. We discuss how the most technically skilled therapists are not always the best therapists. Trigger warning for therapy trauma discussion, with passing reference to examples, but no disclosures made in depth or detail.