Ryder Fox beckons us to step into deeply nuanced spaces with bravery and heart—to ensure that lives are not only saved, but poised to thrive.

Today’s episode features a moving and deeply human conversation with Ryder Fox, founder of Stronger U and co-founder of Thrive Lifeline—a community-rooted, non-carceral crisis support organization prioritizing safety, consent, and agency for multiply-marginalized communities including DID/OSDD systems.

Ryder invites us to rethink everything we’ve been taught about “safety,” crisis intervention, and care. They speak from a place few are willing—or able—to go: lived experience that includes extreme trauma, forced intervention, chronic illness, and surviving without language, housing, or community.

Now, as a peer support trainer and advocate for plural systems, Ryder offers a path toward crisis response rooted in dignity, dimensionality, and real respect for autonomy.

Together, we explore:

* Why traditional crisis response often retraumatizes plural systems

* The difference between “managing risk” and actually offering support

* What it means to hold space for complexity instead of controlling it

* How to train helpers to recognize plurality and internal experience

* Why forced care often perpetuates the very harm it claims to prevent

* What dimensionalized, relational care actually looks like

This conversation isn’t easy—but it’s necessary. Ryder leads us there with clarity, fierce compassion, and an unwavering belief that we can—and must—do better.

💬 Whether you’re a DID/OSDD System, clinician, or supporter, —this episode is for anyone ready to reimagine what real crisis care can be.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — Welcome & intro to Ryder Fox (Thrive Lifeline + Stronger U)

01:00 — Growing up marginalized & surviving extreme trauma

06:00 — Why crisis support systems continue to harm plural people

10:00 — How traditional responders misread DID/OSDD crises causing escalation

14:00 — Forced hospitalization: retraumatizing instead of protecting

18:00 — Carceral vs non-carceral crisis care: what the terms really mean

20:00 — What actually happens when a plural system contacts Thrive Lifeline

26:00 — Dimensionalizing care vs flattening a person to the crisis

33:00 — Systems as experts of their own survival

41:00 — Forced care and the mandate of silence

43:00 — “Keep the body breathing” vs honoring the actual human

44:00 — Stronger U Wellness: pathways for plural healing + clinician education

47:00 — How to connect with Stronger U (even when your brave window is tiny)

50:00 — From survival to thriving: relational pathways for plural systems

Resources:

Thrive Lifeline Non-carceral crisis, warmline, and group support, centering multiply marginalized communities. Fully grassroots. Built by and for community.

Stronger U a liberatory wellness and education collective providing immersive, trauma-informed, and non-carceral services to organizations, private practices, individual practitioners, and survivors. Our mission is to co-create sustainable systems of care that uplift those who are most often excluded by traditional models—through strategic consulting, certification programs, coaching, and community-based programming. Book a Discovery Call

Stronger Together Discord non-carceral discord server centering complex trauma survivors and multiply marginalized people

TRANS Discord server non-carceral discord server for anyone of trans experience.

Thrive Lifeline's Resources

Stronger U Free Resources

📣 Episode Summary

In this rich and wide-ranging conversation, we sit down with social worker, author, and therapeutic guide Greg Nooney, MSW, LISW, LCSW—a deeply respected clinician with over 40 years in mental health and a specialty in working with people with dissociative identities. Greg’s gentle, curious presence and humility make this episode a grounding, refreshing listen for both therapists and systems alike.

Together, we explore topics including:

* How early experiences shaped Greg’s approach to DID care

* Why curiosity over certainty is essential in system-informed therapy

* The three C’s for system care

* How clinicians can practice asking helpful—not harmful—questions

* The impact of privilege and singular identity in treatment

* Thoughts on IFS, integration, and why fusion is not the “only path.”

* Creative stories from the inner world (yes, including fixing windows 🪟😄)

* Tips for therapists new to working with DID or OSDD

Greg also shares his latest book project geared toward people with lived experience—and invites listeners to help shape early drafts. There’s an opportunity in here for *yous*!

⏱️ Time Stamps

* 00:00 – Welcome & Introduction

* 01:00 – Meet Greg: His 40-year journey in mental health

* 05:00 – Trauma in the 80s & 90s:

* 13:00 – Outsider vs. Insider Knowledge & Naming Privilege

* 22:30 – The Single Identity Bias in Mental Health

* 29:00 – IFS, DID, and the Problem with Assuming a Core Self

* 32:00 – Parts vs Alters: Helping therapists navigate the difference

* 39:00 – Plural Resources and the 3 C’s

* 50:00 – Inner World as a Real World: Its Healing Power

* 55:00 – Caring for Littles and Internal Attachment Work

* 01:00:00 – Greg’s Books + New Harbinger Project

* 01:03:00 – Community Q&A Zoom on November 24th

* 01:04:00 – Final reflections & where to find Greg’s resources

📚 Resources Mentioned

* Connect with Greg at https://www.gregnooney.com/

* 📘 Diagnosing and Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder: A Guide for Social Workers and All Frontline Staff – [NASW Press]

* 📘 An Introductory Clinical Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder: Best Practices for Working with Multiplicity – [PESI Publishing]

* 🧠 Upcoming Self-Help Book – Interested in reviewing early chapters?➡️ Email Greg directly at [email protected](Please do not redistribute unpublished content.)

* 💻 Join Greg’s upcoming Community Conversation on DID🗓️ November 24th One hour discussion on plural identities | $15 for therapists | FREE for lived experience with code: LIVED100🔗 Register Here

* 📝 Download Greg’s DID Dimensional Scales, Categorical Model & 10 Aspirations🔗 Available free in the episode notes on healingmyparts.substack.com

🎧 Listen & Share

If this episode speaks to you:

* ❤️ Share it with a system friend or your therapist

* 📢 Tag us on Instagram @healingmyparts as you listen

* 🧠 Subscribe on Substack for more tools, blogs, and stories at healingmyparts.substack.com

* 🌙 For consults, services or training requests, visit healingmyparts.org services page

Thank you for listening! 🩷🫶💜

In this heart-shaking, wisdom-soaked episode, we’re joined by the incomparable Karla Fleshman (they/she) — a licensed clinical social worker, EMDR therapist, irreverent reverend, published author, and breast cancer survivor thriving in community.

What unfolds is part interview, part sermon, part love letter to queer and dissociative youth — and a fierce call to action for therapists, schools, and adults everywhere.

We explore:

* Karla’s cancer diagnosis and system discovery anniversary

* Their journey through severe school bullying, trauma, and survival as a queer teen

* How dissociation shows up as a somatic, adaptive response to systemic harm

* A powerful reading of their poem “Who Was Nex? Who Is Nex.T?” honoring Nex Benedict and queer youth lost to violence ⚠️ *Content note: The poem addresses bullying, suicide, and trauma.*

* What it means to create healing community inside and outside the therapy room

* Why clinicians must break from rigid models to truly welcome all parts

* How healing happens when we slow down, get real, and stop trying to do therapy “perfectly”

Whether you’re a clinician seeking to be more affirming, a system navigating complex trauma, or someone longing to be reminded that healing is possible — this episode is for you.

00:00 – Opening + Guest Introduction08:43 – Discovering They Were a System13:10 – Bullying, Survival, and Dissociation31:31 – Poem: Who Was Nex? ⚠️ *Content note: The poem addresses bullying, suicide, and trauma.*38:47 – Queering EMDR + Therapist Clarity49:29 – Community, Not Just Clinicians1:08:40 – Closing Reflections

🔗 Connect with Karla Fleshman

* Transitions Delaware

* Be The One Campaign

* Queering EMDR Therapy Book

* “Who Was Nex?” Poem + Journal Article

🛠 LGBTQ+ & Plurality Resources

Youth Support & Education:

* GLSEN

* Welcoming Schools

* Rainbow Book Lists

* PFLAG

For LGBTQ+ Elders:

* LGBT Aging Center

Crisis Lines:

* Thrive Lifeline

* The Trevor Project

* Trans Lifeline

Legal, Medical, and Community Support:

* Point of Pride

* Trans Equality Legal Network

* Transgender Law Center

* FOLX Health

* WPATH

💥 Are you a System or Therapist looking for more?

Visit HealingMyParts.org — a hub for professional consults, trainings as well as system-led groups, unapologetic blog posts, and merch with a pulse.Built by a therapist living with DID and 25+ years of experience in the field.

Whether you’re a therapist seeking advanced trainings or a system craving a community — you’re welcome here. 🩷🫶💜

Visit us on Substack at healingmyparts.substack.com

Visit us on Instagram for bite sized healing nuggets @HealingMyParts

In this heartfelt and affirming episode, we sit down with the Shadow System, a guest navigating the early stages of discovering they’re a system. Just over a year and a half into their journey, they share openly about the confusion, curiosity, relief, and emotional labor that come with realizing you have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) or OSDD.

✨ What We Talk About

* Journals, handwriting, and the clues that didn’t make sense—until they did

* The “am I making this up?” spiral (and why it’s so common)

* What happens when your system knows before you do

* System communication through writing, art, sensation, and intuition

* Why some parts step forward—and others stay hidden

* The pain of not being believed by a therapist… and the power of finding one who does

* How to talk to loved ones (even when they’ve only seen the media version of DID)

* Taking up space, offering feedback in therapy, and building trust at your own pace

This episode is an honest, deeply relatable look at the messy, sacred beginning of system awareness. If you’re newly navigating DID or OSDD—or supporting someone who is—you won’t want to miss this one.

⏱️ Timestamps

* 00:50 – Meet the Shadow System + Early Clues of Multiplicity

* 03:00 – Journaling, handwriting shifts, and confusing memories

* 08:30 – Realizing: “Wait… this is real”

* 12:00 – System denial, self-trust, and questioning your own mind

* 17:00 – Journals, art, and making space for parts to speak

* 22:30 – Therapy: What helped, what didn’t, and finding a safe fit

* 28:00 – “Do you think I’m just bored?”: Humor + honesty in healing

* 36:00 – Telling her husband she’s a system—and his loving response

* 44:30 – When parts front at home + parenting through system dynamics

* 50:00 – The inner world, the conference table, and communication struggles

* 55:00 – Advice for newly aware systems: “Slow down, trust your parts”

01:00:00 – New hope: What feels possible now

📲 Follow & Connect

* Follow the Shadow System on Instagram: @exploringmyshadows

* Subscribe for weekly blogs, downloadables, and community support: healingmyparts.substack.com

* Explore our website for free resources, support groups, consultations, and more: www.healingmyparts.org

* Shop our merch for cozy, conversation-starting gear made by and for systems: healingmyparts.org/merch

* Follow us on Instagram @healingmyparts for bite sized nuggets to support your healing.

🛠️ Want support for your system or your clinical work?We offer consultations, workshops, and speaking engagements for both systems and professionals. Find what fits your needs at Healing My Parts Services

🛑 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and support purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. Please take good care while listening.

📝 Episode Overview

What does it really mean to live as a system in a world obsessed with being “just one person”? This week, we’re joined by psychologist, researcher, and unapologetic plural Sandi James. Together, we dive deep into the lived realities of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and plural life—unpacking treatment trauma, internal disconnect, and the everyday magic (and chaos) of showing up in a world that often doesn’t see you.

Sandy shares unfiltered truths about:

* Surviving—and thriving—after treatment that missed the mark

* The funny and frustrating sides of dissociation (like dog-sitting for strangers!)

* The real reasons systems “drop off the planet”—and why connection still matters

* Practical tips for co-fronting, calendar hacks, and making therapy work for your system

* How therapists and allies can better show up for plurals

Whether you’re a system, a clinician, or someone who loves and supports either—this conversation promises validation, laughter, and hope.

🕰️ Episode Timestamps

* 00:00 – Welcome! Meet Sandi James and today’s big questions

* 01:00 – Sandi’s story: treatment-resistant research, and why labels matter

* 03:15 – Deconstructing myths: “Manipulative,” “attention-seeking,” and “resistant”—what’s really going on?

* 06:00 – The clinical blind spot: “I don’t remember” ≠ lying

* 07:00 – Loneliness, masking, and the ache for connection in plural life

* 10:30 – Getting out the door: swings, surfboards, and sensory hacks

* 13:30 – Bright shoes and reclaiming the gaze: system pride in public

* 16:00 – Negotiating who fronts in social settings—and building internal trust

* 21:00 – System imposter syndrome: Who’s the “real” me, anyway?

* 28:00 – Holding space for others, even with internal doubt

* 33:30 – Calendar color-coding, alarms, and planning for plural life

* 42:00 – Partners who don’t know you’re plural: navigating silence and safety

* 51:00 – Friendships, “ghosting,” and parts with different social needs

* 57:00 – Hope for systems who feel like “too much”

* 1:04:00 – Harmony isn’t perfection: it’s persistence

* 1:12:00 – “I don’t want to go back—I want to discover who I am now.”

* 1:16:00 – Closing: Healing doesn’t require perfection or performance

💡 Who Should Listen?

* Plurals and systems seeking real talk and solidarity

* Therapists, case managers, and support teams wanting deeper understanding

* Friends & loved ones who want to show up better for the systems in their lives

🌈 Why You’ll Love This Episode

Prepare for laughter, honesty, and a gentle reminder: you’re not too much, and you’re definitely not alone. Tune in for validation, practical tips, and hope—no matter where you are on the journey.

Listen now, and re-discover what it means to be plural and becoming.💫

Episode Overview

What happens when therapy isn’t accessible—or when it just doesn’t fit? Jade Miller joins us to talk about the power of peer support for people with dissociative identities, why healing doesn't have to follow a clinical script, and how redefining recovery can lead to real transformation.

This is a conversation about choice, internal trust, and the radical act of loving all your parts.

💡 Key Topics

🔹 Peer Coaching vs. TherapyWhat peer support is—and what it isn’t.

🔹 Redefining HealingWhy integration isn’t the only (or best) outcome.

🔹 Lived ExperienceHow peer work fills gaps traditional therapy can’t.

🔹 Provider PitfallsWhat not to assume when working with systems.

🔹 Daily Life as HealingMicro-moments, not checklists, keep systems steady.

🔹 Internal ConnectionRespect among parts is foundational for healing.

🔹 Jade’s DreamListen in to find out!

🧰 Tools & Resources

* System Synergy Workbook – 150+ pages of printable tools for systems, from check-ins to coloring pages.

* Dear Little Ones – A gentle, beloved book for littles and systems everywhere.

* Medical Provider Letter Template – Free download to support safe, trauma-informed care.

🌐 Connect with Jade

* Website: PeerSupportForMultiples.com

* Instagram: @peersupportformultiples

* Facebook: Peer Support for Multiples

* Support Safe Harbor Peer Respite

💬 Why Listen?

If you’re a system, provider, or someone who loves a system—this episode is a gentle but powerful reminder:There’s no one right way to heal. Only your way.And you’re not alone.

🎧 Hit play and share with someone who needs to hear this.

What Moved in the Room

In this episode of Healing My Parts, we sit down with Fawnn Bryant—a plural system living with OSDD—who shares their transformative journey with EMDR therapy.

Fawnn’s story begins with the search for safety: leaving an unsafe marriage, creating a home where all parts could finally exhale, and finding a therapist who truly saw them. That safety opened the door to a flood of memories, the sudden emergence of Littles and the raw reality of disorganized attachment.

Together, we explore the chaos of early system discovery, the rupture-and-repair cycle in therapy, and how EMDR became a lifeline—tailored to honor each part. Over three years, Fawnn’s world shifted from constant crisis to cautious hope. As they put it, the progress is “only half-magical,” but even that marks a profound move from drowning to beginning to breathe again.

This conversation is both tender and practical, offering validation for systems and insight for clinicians: healing is slow, nonlinear, and messy—but movement and connection are always possible.

Moments That Moved Us

* System Discovery & Safety (00:01:00–00:04:00)Leaving an unsafe relationship, creating a safe home, and the moment a gatekeeper stepped back—ushering in younger parts and sudden system awareness.

* Attachment Wounds & Therapy Ruptures (00:04:30–00:07:00)The turmoil of disorganized attachment and the uphill work of rebuilding relational safety.

* The Role of EMDR (00:08:20–00:13:00)Why EMDR was a game-changer for a blendy, often non-verbal system—and how one therapist adapted sessions to meet every voice.

* Three Years In: Half-Magical Progress (00:18:00–00:22:00)From 30 simultaneous crises to one topic at a time—journaling, trust-building, and authentic connection.

* Statistics & Soapbox (00:27:00–00:31:00)Eye-opening numbers: 12% of the population is dissociative, 48% live with insecure attachment—underscoring the need for trauma-informed training.

* Consent & Modality Fit (00:44:00–00:47:00)Why systems must advocate for themselves, why CBT often falls short, and why true healing requires consent and pacing.

* Emerging Into Connection (00:39:00–00:42:00)From derealization as an infant survival strategy to building real friendships in adulthood for the first time.

Did This Move You,Too?

If you’re part of a system considering EMDR — or a clinician wanting to better support dissociative clients — this episode brings both reality checks and grounded hope. Healing rarely unfolds in straight lines, but Fawnn’s story shows how safety, connection, and relational repair can crack open a truer sense of your system — and create space for more of your selves to be seen and supported.

What moved you(s)?

Resources:

Healing Together Conference Annual gathering centering lived experience and professional support for dissociative systems.

Dissociative Writers A growing network of writers with lived experience navigating OSDD/DID and complex trauma.

Hearts Multiplied – A community for systems, offering support, connection, and collective healing.

Peer Support for Multiples -Jade Miller – Peer coach and system advocate known for her accessible resources on system navigation and inner safety.

Crisses – Longstanding voices in the dissociative community offering tools, classes, and foundational education for systems and supporters.

Healing My Parts on Instagram – @healingmyparts — soft, sometimes sassy system-affirming content, tools, and connection.

Healing My Parts on Substack – Weekly blogs, downloadables, insights and tools by a therapist with living with DID.

Healing My Parts Website – Consultations for both professionals & systems, workshops, support groups, merch, and more.

Join us for a rich, unfiltered conversation with Katie Keech, LMFT—queer, neurodivergent, and plural therapist—on what system-affirming care really means. From the politics of difference to the power of parts, this one goes deep.

In this episode of Healing My Parts, we sit down with therapist Katie Keech, LMFT (they/them), a queer, neurodivergent, and plural clinician whose presence is nothing short of magnetic. Together, we unpack what system-affirming care actually looks like—from bodyminds to backlash, trauma to truth—and why embracing difference is a deeply political and healing act.

Whether you're a system, supporter, or a clinician walking with us, this conversation is an invitation to rethink what safety, dignity, and authenticity can look like in the therapy room and beyond.

⏱️ Timestamps

* 00:00 – Welcome & Guest Intro

* Meet Katie: plural, queer, neurodivergent therapist + advocate

* 02:00 – Beyond the Binary: Neurocomplexity and Bodymind

* Katie shares how intersections of neurodivergence shape identity

* 05:00 – System-Affirming vs Singlet-Performing

* Why masking and blending aren’t signs of healing

* 07:00 – The Politics of Difference

* From eugenics to neurocosmopolitanism: why sameness is a control tactic

* 10:30 – Scared of Consciousness?

* The real reason people resist DID visibility

* 12:30 – Are Parts Inherently Good?

* Nuance around “evil,” groomed systems, and complexity

* 14:00 – Misunderstood Parts & Therapist Misattunement

* Why teen parts and risky behaviors are often mislabeled

* 17:00 – Projection in the Therapy Room

* Countertransference, burnout, and why “resistance” is a therapist’s issue

* 20:00 – When DID Isn’t Believed (or Treated)

* Katie + Monika share personal and client stories of invalidation

* 23:00 – Fusion vs Choice

* Performing healing to appease therapists vs honoring internal truth

* 26:00 – What Burnout Really Looks Like

* Autistic & system burnout as nervous system overwhelm—not depression

* 31:00 – Plural Friendship & “Too Much”

* What people get wrong about being friends with systems

* 36:00 – Disclosure, Safety & Groomed Systems

* Navigating who to tell, how to protect young parts, and relational risks

* 41:00 – Endogenous vs Traumagenic

* Why the binary may be a false split—and why it matters less than you think

* 46:00 – Cultural Models of Plurality

* A look at colonialist roots of the DSM and erasure of plural worldviews

* 50:00 – The Neurodivergence Web

* Autism, DID, ADHD, daydreaming, and the brilliance of the brain

* 56:00 – Shame, Fixing, and System Flattening

* ABA, conversion therapy, and the violence of “normalizing”

* 1:01:00 – Creating Plural-Friendly Worlds

* Why we need spaces where we can drop the mask, and just be

* 1:04:00 – Final Reflections from Katie

* A tree that splits from lightning isn’t broken—it’s adapting. So are we.

Connect with Katie!

Website: katiekeech.com

Instagram: @katiekmft

TikTok: Neuroqueer Therapist

X: @keechmft

In this episode, we sit down with the incredible System of Gardens and Flowers—a French polyfragmented system of over 900 parts and a RAMCOA survivor—to explore what it really means to live, work, and heal while navigating complex dissociation and programming.

Together, we explore:

* How they discovered they were a system and began mapping 900+ parts (00:02:03)

* The difference between “parts” and “fragments”—and how they manage internal communication (00:04:10)

* What it’s like to be out at work as legal counsel while managing internal dynamics (00:16:00)

* How programming shows up in everyday life (and what helps dismantle it) (00:23:00)

* The real-life emotional toll of navigating therapy, memory loss, grief, and trauma (00:24:00)

* Why love, compassion, and community are lifelines in recovery (00:40:00)

This is a deeply human, unflinchingly honest, and profoundly hopeful conversation. Whether you're a provider, a survivor, or a fellow system, we hope you'll feel seen here.

Content Warnings: This episode includes references to trauma, RAMCOA, programming, and grief. Please listen with care and take what you need.

Resources Mentioned:

* Hearts Multiplied Forum

* Couple of Multiples Podcast

* Follow System of Gardens and Flowers on Instagram: @systemofgardensandflowers

* Follow Healing My Parts on Instagram

@healingmyparts

* Visit our website for more resources

healingmyparts.org

What happens when eating disorders and dissociative disorders meet?

In this deeply human conversation with Annie Goldsmith, RD, LDN, we explore how food, body, and trauma are wired together—and what healing can look like when care is somatic, polyvagal‑informed, and truly system‑aware.

✨ Whether you’re a system, a clinician, or someone navigating mealtimes in a nervous system that’s been through a lot—this episode is for you.

💬 We talk about:▫️ Why eating disorder care so often misses dissociation (07:00)▫️ How parts experience food differently (yes—some don’t have a body) (22:00)▫️ What it means to build safety before behavior change (57:00)▫️ Intuitive eating in systems—does it work? (44:26)▫️ Health at Every Size in the context of systems (48:50)▫️ Why healing isn’t one size fits all (1:02:45)

🎧 Listen now: 💌 Let us know your thoughts—drop a comment or DM. We’d love to hear what resonates.

🖤 No parts left behind. Always.

👉 Annie’s Practice: Second Breakfast Nutrition

#DID #OSDD #EatingDisorderRecovery #PolyvagalTheory #SomaticHealing #TraumaInformedCare #HAES #IntuitiveEating #HealingMyParts