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Stepparenting guilt can lead you one of two ways: down into a vicious shame spiral, where you end up silent, scared, and paralyzed. OR you can let that guilt propel you upwards, forgive yourself for your mistakes, and keep growing.

Just like regular parents, stepparents mess up sometimes. Just like regular parents, stepparents are making this shit up as we go. And just like regular parents, perfection isn't possible.

Today, please try to let go of all those "shoulds" you keep piling on yourself. Stop “shoulding” all over yourself, as the saying goes. All you can do is the best you can do. Don't waste your time beating yourself up for not knowing then what you know now. Now that you know better, you’ll do better. And you’ll keep doing better, because that's who you are.

If you’re struggling in your role, I recommend checking out my free stepparenting survival guide. A lot of the guilt we go through as stepparents is because we don’t realize that what we’re thinking, feeling, and experiencing is actually completely normal. This survival guide is like a cheat sheet for the biggest things I wish I’d known back when I was just starting out as a new stepmom. I really hope it helps. xo

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