Doing Relationships Right

Talia Bombola, the Confidence and Assertiveness Specialist™, is an LMFT + Psychodynamic Coach. Talia is the CEO | Owner | Founder of Newport Counseling Center for Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy, Inc. She holds a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy. Talia has completed the post-graduate certificate program at Newport Psychoanalytic Institute in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and is currently receiving training in Infant, Child, and adolescent psychotherapy.

In addition to her clinical practices and professorship at Santiago Canyon College in Orange, Talia co-hosts The Couples Guide Podcast and a dating + relationship advice column. She is also the Pre-Licensed Director for OC-CAMFT.

Thank you, Talia, for joining me today on Doing Relationships Right podcast and sharing your endless knowledge with my listeners.

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Show notes:

[1:51] What is a confidence and assertiveness specialist, and psychodynamic therapy?

[3:17] Talia's story

[9:35] How fear affects effectivity

[11:49] The fine line between staying and letting go

[13:55] Don't expect men to be like women

[18:34] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[22:33] Men and their opinions

[24:29] Resentment: anger or envy?

[27:45] Assertive vs. aggressive

[31:52] Talia's insight masterclass

[34:10] Nugget of wisdom

Managing child behavior problems is a skill that we can learn. And the tools and resources available through EmpoweringParent.com and The Total Transformation® child behavior program ensure that you don't have to learn through trial and error. Instead, you can learn from parents and professionals who know how to effectively manage disrespect, defiance, backtalk, lying, laziness, motivation, and other behaviors.

My guest today, Kimball Lewis, is the CEO of EmpoweringParents.com. In addition to his leadership and management roles, he contributes as an editor, a homeschooling expert, and a parent coach. He resides in Orlando, Florida, with his wife and two teenage sons.

Thank you, Kimball, for joining me today on Doing Relationships Right to talk about WHY KIDS LIE and what we can do to stop it!

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Show notes:

[2:44] How Kimball started being an evangelist for James Lehman

[5:19] Kids and lying

[8:59] The importance of writing down the rules

[10:08] When you say telling the truth won't get them into trouble

[15:20] Kids only lie because of fear of being punished

[19:13] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[20:36] Shifting from white lies to real ones

[29:16] On parents being anxious about their children

Let me explain!

Of course, your divorce was the most challenging break-up EVER- but if you think your first RELATIONSHIP post-divorce breakup is any easier, guess again! Some might say it's even more complex.

Listen to today's Just Jen episode and hear me out! Then share your thoughts on my private FB Page!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

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Show notes:

[1:28] All about post-divorce breakups

[3:58] It's more heartbreaking than the divorce

[6:14] You're never prepared for the heartbreak

Did you know there is actually a process to falling in love and staying in love?

It's called the LovePath, and Kimberly Beam Holmes has been teaching people this proprietary process for the past decade. She reveals the four steps to falling in love and how individuals can use this process for better relationships in every area of their lives, including their marriage. Kimberly believes that healthy societies come from healthy marriages creating healthy families raising healthy children, and she is passionate about marriage.

I love this conversation, and you all know how I feel about Doing Relationships Right- it is possible to REFALL in love again if you have the right tools, skills, and expectations.

Kimberly Beam Holmes has her master's degree in psychology, and for over ten years, she has been acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & host of her podcast, It Starts with Attraction. Being a wife and mother herself, Kimberly uses her personal experiences along with her 200K plus following to show how attraction affects people personally and the relationships they hold dear. She is currently working on her Ph.D. in psychology. Kimberly lives in Franklin, Tennessee, with her husband, Rob, and two beautiful children from India.

Thank you, Kimberly, for joining me on the Doing Relationships Right podcast to share your insight and wisdom about one of my favorite topics- How to Have a Healthy and Happy Relationship!

Download now, and don't forget to subscribe, rate and review if you get a chance- Oh, check out the live version on YouTube!

xo j

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[2:24] Kimberly's background and how Marriage Helper started

[7:16] Can only one spouse go to Marriage Helper and put in the work?

[10:25] The stages of falling in love

[15:44] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[20:54] What happens when a partner says, "you're not fulfilling my needs"?

[23:51] The importance of being intentional in a marriage

[27:48] Marriage Helper's programs

[31:17] Kimberly's message of hope

HERE WE GO...it's YOUR turn!

PODCAST TUESDAY HAS NEVER LOOKED LIKE THIS!

You asked, and WE answered-- all your questions about our relationship. The good, the not-so-good, and the WTH is going on! We are brave, but most importantly, we are honest and want others to learn from our stories.

It's just how I roll, showing up authentically and sharing our "shit" so y'all can see even relationship experts have tough times, too.

Today, tune in to the Doing Relationships Right podcast when Jim Healey (thank you, boo) and I answer your questions truthfully.

@drr.thepodcast. It's my new podcast feed bc I have nothing better to do. LOL!!

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Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

[3:54] How do you shut out "the noise" of Jeniffer's job? And does her social media presence affect your relationship?

[7:15] What ways have you changed since you decided to get back together?

[9:05] What's one thing about your relationship that A. Works well and B. Needs fixing?

[11:53] Would you ever consider being in an open or polyamorous relationship? Why or why not?

[15:03] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[16:38] What's something you haven't done in your relationship that you like to experience together?

[21:16] What is your favorite thing about each other?

[26:38] Coaching spots available

I get asked all the time, "WHEN is the best time to start dating after a divorce?" And I have my answer, of course.

But what about the WHY? What is THE WHY? Why do you want to date? Let's unpack both questions- today on Doing Relationships Right!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[2:34] WHEN can you date again?

[4:32] What is your WHY?

[6:41] Create a list of 5 nonnegotiables

[7:50] Be a Tootsie Pop

[10:43] Your intuition is there for a reason — use it

After over 20 years as a business and personal finance manager, Carie Casden knows this much is true – when it comes to financial challenges, it's rarely actually about the money. Particularly when it comes to women and money, specific patterns tend to repeat themselves. Most of us grew up with a special relationship to our finances due to our upbringing and life events, and it sticks with us – for better or for worse.

This reality, compounded by the fact that systems are stacked against women, makes matters even more challenging. And even if we've managed to shatter the glass ceiling, find our purpose, and build a solid foundation for ourselves, life inevitably throws us curveballs.

Career changes. Divorce. Family drama. Loss. We are confronted with these matters at some point in our lives – but are we prepared for them? In Carrie's experience, most people aren't – and it's not because they're not capable.

I'm thrilled to have Money Coach and Business Manager Carrie Casden on Doing Relationships Right to discuss all things finance- and so much more!

Find Carrie Casden here: CLICK HERE FOR CARRIE CASDEN!

Get my FREE NON-negotiables collab with my sponsor SOBERLINK by clicking HERE!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[2:09] More about Carrie and what she does

[4:44] Financial literacy for women

[7:47] How to stop impulsive buying

[10:12] Money talk is the new girl talk

[14:50] Your relationship with money comes from your childhood

[16:51] Finding the balance

[20:48] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[25:45] Compounding interest

[29:44] Women and getting back in the workforce

[31:42] On learning more about budgeting

[36:55] Where to find Carrie

I had a plan when I started this conversation with my friend and colleague, Eli Weinstein. I figured we would begin with speaking about mental health awareness and segue into teens and anxiety, but all bets were off!

As a licensed therapist and the host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, Eli is a seasoned pro, so we chatted like old friends and touched on so many incredible (and necessary) topics.

Eli is one of those people; so passionate, engaging. I never really know where our conversation is going to go! I vibe off his energy- hang on to his every word, respect his opinions- excited to hear what "thought nugget" he will share next.

Y'all are lucky with this one, so incredibly lucky. We hit it all: from anxiety to gender stereotypes, the effect of social media on teenagers, to the stress of parenting.

Thank you, Eli Weinstein, for joining me, destigmatizing mental health issues, and debunking some of the myths and misconceptions surrounding mental health.

Feel free to email or contact Eli at:

Email - [email protected]

Website - https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/

Instagram - @thedudetherapist and @eliweinstein_lcsw

Get my FREE NON-negotiables collab with my sponsor SOBERLINK by clicking HERE!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[2:48] On being happy

[6:10] A fixer and a people pleaser

[11:49] Causing anxiety for your kids and the people around you

[17:17] The stigma on male anxiety

[21:30] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[22:38] The role of social media on anxiety

[28:03] On looking for therapy

[30:23] Does he think that people are overdiagnosed?

[34:27] Today's takeaway

[37:13] The Dude Therapist Podcast and where to find Eli

Listen now to Doing Relationships Right Just Jen as we unpack this and much, much more.

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[1:46] Dating is just a yes or no

[6:53] Expectations

[8:54] Benching

[11:57] You can't give 100% to a person if you juggle people at the same time

[17:12] Dating For Now

I love having my colleagues from the dating and relationship world on the show; it's vital to have different points of view, especially when the rules of relationships have changed so drastically as of late.

Meet my friend and fellow dating coach, Elizabeth Overstreet, the Love Strategist. As a published author, keynote speaker, and relationship expert, we have so much in common, and our conversation is packed full of actionable value!

"Observing these experiences gave me a unique look into my lens and experience in a relationship and those of others who had longevity and happiness in their relationships. Through these experiences and coaching others in their relationships, I hope to shorten your learning curve of what it takes to find love. Finding love can be challenging, but it can be more comfortable when you understand what works and doesn't work."

~Elizabeth Overstreet

Thank you, Elizabeth, for joining me on the Doing Relationships Right podcast to discuss practical strategies for healthier, more rewarding relationships!

Learn more about Elizabeth and her work:

Website: elizabethoverstreet.com

Book: elizabethoverstreet.com/books

Instagram: @elizabeth__overstreet

Get my FREE NON-negotiables collab with my sponsor SOBERLINK by clicking HERE!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[4:28] What happens when we're ready to give up on love?

[7:12] Jennifer's experience of being "pretty"

[9:51] A big problem: people assume and don't ask questions

[13:01] Learn to communicate and set the expectations[14:24] Realize what doesn't make you successful in your relationship

[16:20] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[17:43] The similarities between being in a relationship and being a parent

[18:43] What self-love is

[21:38] Do you want someone to compliment you vs. complete you?

[25:25] Let's talk about Love You and He Will Too: The Smart Woman's Roadmap for Happy, Healthy Relationships