Doing Relationships Right

I had a plan when I started this conversation with my friend and colleague, Eli Weinstein. I figured we would begin with speaking about mental health awareness and segue into teens and anxiety, but all bets were off!

As a licensed therapist and the host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, Eli is a seasoned pro, so we chatted like old friends and touched on so many incredible (and necessary) topics.

Eli is one of those people; so passionate, engaging. I never really know where our conversation is going to go! I vibe off his energy- hang on to his every word, respect his opinions- excited to hear what "thought nugget" he will share next.

Y'all are lucky with this one, so incredibly lucky. We hit it all: from anxiety to gender stereotypes, the effect of social media on teenagers, to the stress of parenting.

Thank you, Eli Weinstein, for joining me, destigmatizing mental health issues, and debunking some of the myths and misconceptions surrounding mental health.

Feel free to email or contact Eli at:

Email - [email protected]

Website - https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/

Instagram - @thedudetherapist and @eliweinstein_lcsw

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Show notes:

[2:48] On being happy

[6:10] A fixer and a people pleaser

[11:49] Causing anxiety for your kids and the people around you

[17:17] The stigma on male anxiety

[21:30] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[22:38] The role of social media on anxiety

[28:03] On looking for therapy

[30:23] Does he think that people are overdiagnosed?

[34:27] Today's takeaway

[37:13] The Dude Therapist Podcast and where to find Eli

Are you or someone you know going through a divorce? Or just got divorced, perhaps?

Not sure whether to do co-parenting or parallel parenting?

How about the struggle to keep boundaries between you and your ex?

If you relate to any one of the above, this episode is for you! I've invited Divorce Coach Ashley Wood to discuss the many essential points of life after or during a divorce, whether it's about the kids or when a new partner comes along.

Ashley became a Certified Divorce Coach to be able to help others who find themselves where she was. Through supportive guidance and coaching, she provides you with the structure and resources you need to take back control, ensure your children's safety and well-being, and move through the divorce process in a more efficient, healthier, and less expensive way.

She has made it her mission to help you reach the other side of your divorce a stronger, more confident, and authentic version of yourself.

Find more about Ashley at:

Website: https://www.ashleywooddivorcecoach.com/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/theconsciouscoparent

IG: https://instagram.com/wix

YT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2JrcerifCghVfKZtHudkMg

Split. The After Ever After Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/split-the-after-ever-after-podcast/id1539553779

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Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

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Where to find JENNIFER HURVITZ:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7ilFqf18-z-H_e7JFIrjbQ/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doingrelationshipsright

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[0:00] Intro

[3:42] Who is Ashley Wood?

[4:43] Co-parenting with confidence

[6:23] What is the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting?

[9:52] Conflict on parenting

[12:27] On setting boundaries

[21:37] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[22:43] How to approach when the other party does not keep boundaries

[29:18] When the kids meet the new partner and how to handle their reaction

[39:08] Ashley's Total Divorce Care program

[40:28] Split. The After Ever After Podcast

[41:53] Outro

I love having my colleagues from the dating and relationship world on the show; it's vital to have different points of view, especially when the rules of relationships have changed so drastically as of late.

Meet my friend and fellow dating coach, Elizabeth Overstreet, the Love Strategist. As a published author, keynote speaker, and relationship expert, we have so much in common, and our conversation is packed full of actionable value!

"Observing these experiences gave me a unique look into my lens and experience in a relationship and those of others who had longevity and happiness in their relationships. Through these experiences and coaching others in their relationships, I hope to shorten your learning curve of what it takes to find love. Finding love can be challenging, but it can be more comfortable when you understand what works and doesn't work."

~Elizabeth Overstreet

Thank you, Elizabeth, for joining me on the Doing Relationships Right podcast to discuss practical strategies for healthier, more rewarding relationships!

Learn more about Elizabeth and her work:

Website: elizabethoverstreet.com

Book: elizabethoverstreet.com/books

Instagram: @elizabeth__overstreet

Get my FREE NON-negotiables collab with my sponsor SOBERLINK by clicking HERE!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[4:28] What happens when we're ready to give up on love?

[7:12] Jennifer's experience of being "pretty"

[9:51] A big problem: people assume and don't ask questions

[13:01] Learn to communicate and set the expectations [14:24] Realize what doesn't make you successful in your relationship

[16:20] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[17:43] The similarities between being in a relationship and being a parent

[18:43] What self-love is

[21:38] Do you want someone to compliment you vs. complete you?

[25:25] Let's talk about Love You and He Will Too: The Smart Woman's Roadmap for Happy, Healthy Relationships

This one wasn't easy, not going to lie.

Ever asked your kid a bunch of questions you didn't really want the answers to?

Ya, well, try that on a podcast with over 150K people listening. Ha.

But boy did he surprise me.

Zac was incredibly mature; self-aware and empathetic, he spoke with such conviction. I had a difficult time composing myself at times during the interview.

Zac amazed me...so brave.

So smart.

This is an important discussion that no parent should miss--even if you're not divorced. Kids say the darndest things when you ask them to be honest. When you give them the space to be authentic and when they feel secure.

I've never been more proud of my kid.

Please share this episode with anyone you know going through, thinking about, or on the other side of a divorce. It's an important and necessary conversation to hear.

xo j

Get my FREE NON-negotiables collab with my sponsor SOBERLINK by clicking HERE!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[3:42] Remembering how his parents told him about the divorce and how he felt about it

[7:25] What Jennifer thinks she did wrong

[9:22] The nesting experience

[12:22] Check out this great parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[13:26] What Zac thinks about his parent's friendship

[16:15] Would Zac choose for his parents to stay married and unhappy, or divorced but happy

[21:26] What does Zac think about parents staying together until the kids go to college

[24:45] Outro

Not that my other guests this season aren't INCREDIBLE- but I think even they'd agree that I saved the BEST OF THE BEST for last with this one!

Who doesn't love some Michelle Dempsey-Multack: best-selling author, Certified Divorce Specialist, and Co-Parenting Coach?

Michelle is on a mission to help Moms move on after a divorce, navigate high-conflict co-parenting situations and normalize leaving ANY marriage for any reason you see fit! No more "divorce guilt" or shame for doing what feels right.

I love this and Michelle's "no bullshit" approach to all of it.

Thank you, Michelle, for joining me today on Doing Relationships Right pod to dish the dirt on divorce- dating post-divorce, finding love again, surviving, and thriving. This episode was one of my favorite conversations and a fantastic way to close a great season!

Just two divorced Mommas- shooting the shit about our life's experiences and how to Do Divorce Right. ;)

Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS, is a mom, Divorce Coach, certified divorce specialist(CDS), speaker, and now the author of her first book, Moms Moving On: Real Life Advice for Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self. Michelle graduated from Hofstra University with a degree in journalism and communication and then earned a double master's degree in education from Adelphi University. She hosts the weekly podcast Moms Moving On and writes regularly for Parents, Scary Mommy, and others. A former New Yorker, she now lives in Miami with her husband, daughter, and stepdaughter.

Michelle's Website MOMS MOVING ON

Grab Michelle's Book!

Get my FREE NON-negotiables collab with my sponsor SOBERLINK by clicking HERE!

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

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Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[4:05] How did Michelle change the world of divorce?

[5:15] It's not the person; it's the life—let's dive deeper

[8:43] On getting over your divorce

[12:42] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[14:08] Why Michelle decided to write her book

[16:58] When kids experience the divorce vs. having no memory of it

[18:57] What's next for Michelle?

[21:07] Golden nugget of wisdom from Michelle

[23:28] Where to find more of Michelle Dempsey-Multack?

[23:53] Join Lasting Love at Your Level online event. Learn more at: https://bexburton.com/lastingloveatyourlevel/

Holly Hughes is an intuitive healer, award-winning author, and public speaker. She infuses her unique personal style, intuitive gifts, and personal healing stories to guide clients through a step-by-step process to help them claim their voice, passions, and self-worth. Her book REAL, NOT PERFECT How To Become Your Happy, Authentic Self will help you stop hiding behind people's expectations and discover the version of you, you want to be.

"Giving is good, but giving yourself away is not." ~ Holly Hughes

As Holly explains in today's episode, "You don't have to be the kind of mother your friend is. Or the mom you see on Instagram who appears to have it all together or anyone other than you. But it's essential to take care of yourself, stop putting yourself last on the to-do list, and be a demonstration of a woman to your children."

I am grateful to have this woman in my life and can't wait for y'all to hear this conversation- it's enlightening and authentic. Genuine and honest, just like Holly. Grab her book TODAY and share this episode!

Peace, love, and truth,

xo j

FIND HOLLY HERE!

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Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[2:52] What does Holly do and how did she start doing it?

[13:07] How does she handle it when people don't believe her?

[18:53] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[19:59] On handling your worst days

[24:39] Holly's book, Real, Not Perfect

[27:42] Unplugging from work and your phone

[30:05] Healing and relationships

[37:40] Where to find more of Holly

[39:51] Today's Holly healing tip

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️

TikTok: CLICK HERE!

Pinterest: click here!

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[3:30] You have to have some kind of financial stability

[6:10] You have to be full of surprises

[7:17] You have to be compassionate and understanding

[8:51] Women want guys who don't lie

[9:48] Women want you to appreciate them in bed

Have you been betrayed or cheated on by your spouse or partner?

Lost trust in your mate and your relationship?

Have you been feeling lost, detached, and directionless? Whether you are dealing with personal issues or challenges in your significant relationships, therapy can help you unpack feelings and thoughts in a safe environment and lead you to emotional wellness.

Gilza Fort-Martinez is a bilingual licensed marriage and family therapist in Florida with over 30 years of experience in conflict resolution, improving interpersonal relationships, and navigating life transitions.

She specializes in family therapy, women's transitions, and marital and premarital therapy. Her work focuses on helping women overcome the devastation of Betrayal to restore their self-trust and help with the decision to re-engage in relationships. Her approach to helping you rediscover yourself is honest and solution-focused so that you can focus on living a fulfilled life in emotional wellness. Aside from Gilza's one-to-one work with clients, she has a woman-owned and run practice and has focused on collaborating and encouraging other women therapists to start and thrive in their practice! She also has significant experience in public speaking and leading workshops for corporations and organizations on various topics, including stress and conflict management, improving communication effectiveness, leadership, and more. Gilza has been featured in multiple media outlets, including Self-Prevention, Greatist, Shondaland, Telemundo, Univision, People in Español, and others. Recently she has participated in several podcasts highlighting women, their challenges, and triumphs.

Thank you, Gilza, for joining me today on Doing Relationships Right; as we both know, ALL relationships take work. And thriving and loving relationships are a result of continuous effort. Whether you've been married for years or are starting your journey together, couples therapy can help increase connection and relationship satisfaction.

Find Gilza Fort-Martinez HERE

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Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[2:43] Who is Gilza?

[5:35] On her private practice and clientele

[10:57] Does she get younger couples as clients?

[17:28] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[18:28] Can a relationship survive being cheated on?

[21:20] Is it important to tell all the details about the betrayal?

[26:20] The one and done concept

[28:07] Is an emotional affair just as bad as a physical one?

[31:37] Where you can find Gilza

I am thrilled to have Saskia Nelson, the founder of Hey Saturday, on the pod today!

Saskia has been credited by Time magazine, the BBC, and world-renowned photographer, Martin Parr for creating this genre of dating photography. As the world's first online dating photographer. Saskia is recognized as the leading industry expert in the UK, Europe & US on all things online dating photo-related. Rather than a formal, portrait-style photoshoot, our dating photoshoots are more like an adventure with a good friend.

"Hey, Saturday helps you create powerful dating profiles by enabling you to visually share the story of who you are. The more stories you can tell with your online dating pictures, the more you'll be able to show people what it's like to be in a relationship with you."

What's Saskia's Story?

She spent many years online dating (until meeting her bf of many years on Guardian Soulmates). She spotted a gap in the market for a niche online dating photography business specializing in creating dating profile photos for online daters.

"For anyone doing online dating, creating a great set of visuals for your profile once you've spent a bit of time figuring out what you're into, how you'd like to come across, etc., can be a great resource to have at the ready. It's also a fun experience that often boosts confidence and gets people in the right frame of mind to have positive dating experiences." ~ Saskia Nelson

Saskia is the founder of Hey Saturday, the world's first specialist dating photography agency. They help clients create a set of dating profile pictures that help them visually tell people who they are and what they're made of.

Thank you, girl, for joining me on Doing Relationships Right Podcast and sharing your online dating profile tips and tricks!

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Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️

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You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[1:45] What is Hey Saturday?

[2:46] How did Saskia start Hey Saturday?

[5:50] How Hey Saturday helps your dating profile

[10:29] Saskia's tips on making your profile picture better

[15:38] Check out this excellent parenting tool: Soberlink (https://www.soberlink.com/partners/drr)

[16:40] On taking the perfect shot

[19:04] Be happier before going on dating apps

[20:15] Start with a full-face shot or a full-body shot?

[24:13] Saskia's thoughts on kids in dating profile pictures

[25:19] How often should you update your picture?

[30:33] Where to find Saskia

Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!

Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast

Where to find me:

Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/

Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️

TikTok: CLICK HERE!

Pinterest: click here!

You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions, at https://nextleveluniverse.com/

Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

Show notes:

[1:37] What is a situationship and how can you put yourself there?

[3:18] Can you get yourself out of a situationship?

[4:08] Tips on pulling out of a situationship

[9:11] Taking a break—podcast update