It's 9pm on a weeknight. I'm sitting here with my husband, both of us basically bedtime-ready, and we thought it'd be fun to do a joint episode on the difference between newborn parenting and where we're at now with toddler parenting.

We get into the mental marathon of the newborn stage versus the different breed of chaos that comes with a toddler. 

My husband on realizing how selfish he didn't know he was before becoming a dad. 

And a whole tangent on perfectionism, all or nothing thinking, and why cutting a walk short on purpose taught him more than hitting his mileage goal ever did.

In this one:

• The real difference between mom and dad in the newborn stage versus now
• Why my husband spent months trying to rediscover himself outside of the gym, guitar, and video games
• The walking habit that changed how he thinks about everything
• Why perfectionism might just be an excuse to avoid doing the thing

If you've ever felt like you gave up all of yourself the second you became a parent, and you're still trying to figure out how to get some of it back, this one's for you.

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So… I’ve been sitting on this one.

Because I wanted to say it perfectly, which, spoiler alert, is exactly the shit this episode is about.

I talk about the silent battle so many high-achieving women are fighting, chasing the promotion, the client, the income thinking it’ll finally be enough… and still feeling hollow AF after.

I share things about my career as an entrepreneur I have never said out loud. 

If you’ve ever had a “win” that made you want to cry instead of celebrate?

Yeah. You need to hear this one.

I just finished a 45 minute full body lift I didn't want to do. But this episode isn't really about the workout.

I'm talking about a client, a working mom in a high pressure role, who told me about the day she got to drive home in complete silence before switching into mom mode. She said it changed everything about how she showed up at home. 

That got me thinking about mental speed bumps, the buffers we need throughout the day that don't require a 30 minute drive alone or begging your husband for an hour to yourself.

I get into why motherhood is overstimulating (yes, even when you love it), why waiting for those rare silent moments isn't a real strategy, and what it looks like to build internal pauses into the middle of a chaotic dinner or a stressful workday.

In this one:

• Why performative rest (errands done in silence) isn't actually rest
• Two client screenshots of catching a spiral mid-way and using a buffer instead
• Why building resilience matters more than trying to make the load lighter

If you love your work, love being a mom, and still feel like you're holding way too much most days, this one's for you.

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I'm on a walk right now. But inspiration struck and I had to get this out.

Yesterday I was ravenous. Had a hard day, ate some Oreos.

This morning, while adjusting my bracelet, I got transported straight back to 2015-2018. A version of me who used food to survive commutes I cried through. A marriage that wasn't working. A version of myself I didn't recognize.

I talk about what that cycle actually felt like. Waking up feeling like I wanted to crawl out of my skin. And why I don't live that way anymore.

I get into why every single thing we struggle with (emotional eating, procrastination, time management, self-sabotage, dating patterns) is a symptom of the same underlying programming issue. Why I can't put HBA in a box. It tackles the programming of your unique software and helps you rewrite it in a way that actually serves you.

In this one:

• The memory that hit me mid-walk
• Why food was never really the issue back then
• What it actually looks like to pause before a pattern takes over
• Why HBA touches everything from emotional eating to how you show up in relationships

If you've ever felt like a puppet controlled by your own patterns, fully aware but unable to stop, this one's for you.

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I'm usually not one to respond to drama. But this one, I'm responding to.

It's been brought to my attention that some people don't like what I have to say about motherhood and career. Some people think I'm choosing everything over my daughter.

To that, I'd say fuck you.

I get into the whiplash of scrolling Taylor Swift excitement straight into the state of the world this morning, why I'm allowed to call sleep deprivation a burden without resenting motherhood, and why "we're just sharing our experience" while throwing stones at other moms is still toxicity.

In this one:

• The claim about my career that made me want to respond
• The moment of emotional whiplash that shaped this whole episode
• Why I don't shame any mother for her choices, but I won't stay quiet either

If you've ever felt shamed for having passions outside the four walls of your home, this one's for you.

We're two weeks out from the one year anniversary of this podcast. And this morning I sat down and asked myself something I haven't fully answered yet: what is my actual zone of genius?

I talk about the women who land in my work, composed on the outside, but one podcast, one Pinterest quote, and one cortisol spike away from combusting.

Women who've done the coaching, the books, the breath work, the therapy, and are still spiraling mid carpool, mid pickup, wondering why they feel so disconnected from a life they technically chose.

I get into the lie we've all been taught, that healing has to hurt to work, that if it doesn't break us in half, split us down the center, we must not have gone deep enough. And why my genius actually lives in the tiny micro pivots, the shuffle steps.

In this one:

• The shift from rage cleaning to pausing, my personal favorite
• Why I don't fix you, because there's nothing broken about you
• What it actually means to stay within your lived experience, even when it's uncomfortable, even when it's messy

If you're hyper capable, put together on the outside, and quietly unraveling underneath, this one's for you.

Judge me for this, resisting the Xanax urge today.

Yes, that's happening. Right at the start of this new season of business, I felt excitement, courage, delusional confidence. And now? Freeze has also entered the fucking chat.

I get real about what a freeze response actually feels like, why the work I'm avoiding isn't even hard, and why I almost didn't record this episode because of shame.

I talk about the cycle so many of us live in. Super excited about something new, then panic, then walking away and not even being able to explain why. And why that cycle, more than anything else, is what fuels the inner critic that says you're just never going to figure it out.

In this one:

• Why I'm walking away from my work today, and why that's not the mistake it sounds like
• The difference between brain work and body work when it comes to real change
• Why perfect doesn't exist, and what I'm choosing to do instead of chasing it

If you've ever gotten excited about something new, then quietly ghosted it a few days later without knowing why, this one's for you.

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I'm getting ready for work right now, and I was like, you know what, I kind of want to do this episode right now.

I'm telling a story about my relationship history and what actually changed between the men I used to date and meeting my now husband. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with love languages.

I get into the justification pattern I lived in for years, the moment in 2021 when I said enough is enough, and why your nervous system pairs you with people who match your baseline.

In this one:

• Why you don't actually struggle with self-love, you struggle with having the capacity to practice it
• What it actually means to become someone you can trust and rely on
• Why the survival pattern you're stuck in isn't your fault, but it is your work to do

If you keep finding yourself in relationships you know you don't deserve but justify anyway, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I'm actually rage cleaning right now. True story.

I made a decision 15 minutes ago. A huge investment in my business. And I'm terrified. There's no reason why I should be terrified, but here we are.

I get into revisiting the list of intentions I made a year ago when I committed to a business coach, why sometimes we don't sabotage things because they're hard but because we've made a lot of progress, and what it feels like to step into a new identity as an entrepreneur that runs a more sophisticated business.

In this one:

• Why sabotage shows up most when you've actually done exceptionally well
• The roller coaster feeling of creeping up to the drop, knowing you'll survive
• Why I can't white knuckle my way to bigger without sacrificing presence with my daughter
• What it means to trust evidence you don't have yet

If you know you need to do the big scary thing and you don't know what to do with the scary excitement energy, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I welcomed a guest today, long time friend & fellow business owner Sammie Rodriguez.   She just celebrated two years in her business & I can vouch for how INCREDIBLE her product is!  We talked about the early grind of building a business & the time sacrifice involved, lessons learned along the way, & the difficult balance of scaling a business & still mothering at home.  

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