I don't think I've ever been ready to talk about this. And I think the reason is I hadn't done the work yet myself.

I'm talking about my software (that's what I call the nervous system) and why postpartum was harder than it ever needed to be for me. 

I get into fight or flight and shutdown, the two states my system defaults to, and why sitting on the floor showing my daughter high contrast images felt like a threat when logically there was none.

I talk about what it looks like to shift from reactive to proactive with your nervous system, and why the state of your software directly impacts the software of your kids.

In this one:

• Why postpartum jarred my system in a way I didn't have words for at the time
• What it means for your nervous system to have a tempo it thinks it needs to survive
• Why modeling dysregulation to your children matters more than you think

If you've ever felt like something is wrong but you can't find the words for the discomfort, this one's for you.

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I've been stewing on recording this one for a couple weeks. So this time, I actually took notes first.

I'm talking about everything in my life that changed once I finally stopped being an emotional eater and a stress eater. 

In 2017, I was 95 pounds heavier, eating in my car between sales calls, hiding in baggy blazers because of the shame. I get into what actually shifted once I fixed the root of the problem: nervous system dysregulation, not willpower.

I also share why I created my new 10-day program, Pantry Goblins, built to be what I needed back in 2017.

In this one:

• Why emotional eating isn't just about negative emotions, sometimes it shows up when you're celebrating
• The Christmas party memory I'll never forget
• Why willpower was never the actual problem

If you've ever eaten in secret, avoided photos, or panicked your way through a potluck table, this one's for you.

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I spent 30 minutes this morning going back and forth on whether to cycle. I'm gonna do it. No, I'm not. I'm gonna do it. No, I'm okay.

I get into the lesson I've learned from that: if you're spinning your wheels going back and forth on something, that's your answer, you just need to do it. 

I also talk about the difference between talking yourself out of a feeling and feeling your way through it, and why your body doesn't speak the same language your brain does.

In this one:

• Why the pendulum swing itself is the answer
• The difference between talking yourself out of a feeling and feeling your way through it
• What it means to break a pattern of not following through on promises to yourself

If you've ever talked yourself in circles about something simple and still couldn't get yourself to do it, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I was gonna put this in an email, but I couldn't get it to type out right. So here we are.

I'm talking about letting your body lead you instead of your brain, and why that's actually messier than it sounds. 

I get into a conversation I had with a client about alcohol and all or nothing thinking, why I caught myself shaming my own choice to work at the dining room table instead of my office, and why regulation isn't neat and tidy, dysregulation is the thing that's actually rigid.

In this one:

• Why letting your body decide instead of your brain can feel like an aha moment
• The day I sat on the floor of my closet to work and why that was exactly right
• Why regulation is messy and dysregulation is what actually follows strict rules
• Giving yourself permission to do something imperfectly instead of not at all

If you're high-functioning, overachieving, and stuck in strict guidelines and control, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I want you guys to think of that song, under pressure, di di di di di, while you listen to this one.

I'm talking about the brain and pressure, specifically why we need the just right amount to actually operate at our peak. 

I get into why motherhood ended up being the exact pressure I needed to finally step out of a burnout cycle I couldn't shake for years, and what happened when I started unraveling my need to always be doing, always producing.

In this one:

• Why not enough pressure and too much pressure both lead to giving up
• The difference between doing a lot and drowning versus doing the same amount and feeling capable
• Why your just right amount is completely unique to you

If you've been burnt out at the peak of your success and wondered how being successful could feel this miserable, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I'm doing this episode while I'm finishing my makeup. Benefits of podcasting from your phone.

This morning I watched Pride and Prejudice before starting work, and it got me thinking about how much stress has evolved since the 1800s, and whether our ability to manage it has evolved at the same pace. Spoiler: it hasn't.

I get into the mental tabs that stay open all the time once you become a parent, and why the stress management strategies you've been using for the last 10 years clearly aren't working anymore.

In this one:

• Why the techniques that worked in 2010 aren't going to work at today's pace
• The mental tabs that never fully close once you're a parent
• Why HBA is for literally everyone with a brain

If you're tired but wired, forgetting things constantly, and can't figure out why nothing you've tried actually works anymore, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I sat down with Katie, a licensed clinical social worker who's been in practice for nine years, to talk about her experience in HBA.

We get into what actually pushed her to say yes after being a lurker for so long, the self narrative she'd been carrying (I'm not a runner) that she finally challenged and ran straight through, and why she's now choosing brain zaps over a trauma training she's currently enrolled in.

We also nerd out on the lifeline feature from both a personal and professional lens. Why that instant relief moment matters so much, and what it looks like from a therapist's perspective when someone gets rewarded just for recognizing they're dysregulated in the first place.

In this one:

• The self narrative she challenged that led to running three and a half miles
• Why the lifeline feature works as a positive reinforcement loop
• What she'd say to anyone stuck in fear of disrupting their pattern

If you keep telling yourself you're not capable of something you've genuinely never tried, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba

I'm here with my husband, and I just told him I scheduled a color analysis appointment for tomorrow. His response: "You don't even buy yourself a winter jacket."

We get into it. The denim jacket versus a real winter coat, the concept of being "below the line" (a workplace training term he brought home that sounds a lot like nervous system states), and why I'll spend $325 on a color analysis but won't schedule the massage gift card I got for my birthday last year.

In this one:

• The denim jacket defense that makes zero sense but I'm sticking with it
• What "below the line" actually means and why it's not as binary as people think
• The negotiation over what color my next winter coat is allowed to be

If you've ever justified an impulse purchase while still avoiding the practical thing you actually need, this one's for you.

This year has been hard. Really hard. Childcare issues, sickness, a stalker, court, and most recently my 14-month-old going to the ER for what appeared to be seizures.

I'm continuing the conversation from last episode about self-sabotage, and why intellectualizing why you're struggling only gets you so far. 

At some point, you have to stop thinking about it and just move. I get into why it's so easy to take mindless action (scrolling, organizing the pantry) but so hard to move on the things you actually want.

In this one:

• Why perfectionism is really just procrastination and avoidance in disguise
• What one tiny action step actually does for momentum and motivation
• Why you don't need 100% momentum, you need 1%

If you're overthinking something instead of just getting up and doing one small thing about it, this one's for you.

Caught up with Valerie, a business owning mom of multiples that saw incredible change in Healthy B*tches Anonymous.  

She initially thought HBA was a fitness program. Spoiler: it's not, and she'll be the first to tell you.

We get into what actually pushed her to sign up (a moment of throwing a box of cereal across her kitchen and realizing she didn't want her kids growing up in that environment), the zero to a hundred pattern she'd been Googling "am I autistic" trying to explain, and what changed once she understood it as a capacity issue instead.

We also nerd out on the lifeline feature, including the very first one she used while hyperventilating in the fetal position the Sunday before HBA officially started.

In this one:

• The cereal box moment that made her sign up
• Why procrastination on things that "don't even make sense" finally started to make sense
• What her husband and four-year-old have noticed different about her
• Her advice for anyone on the fence

If you've ever Googled what's wrong with you trying to explain why small things send you from zero to a hundred, this one's for you.

HBA: https://www.mnmfitnessco.com/hba