Why do we sabotage relationships that matter most? Why does success feel empty when our inner world is in chaos?

This week on the podcast, we’re joined by Dr. Nima Rahmany, a chiropractor turned trauma-informed coach who teaches people how to become “trigger-proof.” After a personal breakdown and painful divorce, Dr. Nima discovered the real healing work begins inside—and it changes everything.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, unsure why you overreact, or struggled to connect deeply with your kids, partner, or yourself… this conversation is for you.

Tune in now and learn the ONE skill that will change how you lead, love, and live.

Quotes:

• "Anything that I keep avoiding, I get to keep repeating." - Dr. Nima Rahmany
• "If a person does not make it their business to learn the skill of self-regulation, they're going to use reactive behavior to try to regulate." - Dr. Nima Rahmany
• "When you're aiming for something, even if it's not the finished product, the fact that you're aiming towards something, you are far ahead of others." - Dr. Nima Rahmany

Key Takeaways:

• Start doing “Shadow Work” – Identify a recent moment when you were triggered. Ask yourself: “What am I making this mean about me?” Follow the thread back to a childhood belief (e.g., “I’m not enough”) and bring compassion to that younger version of you.
• Rewire your reactions by parenting your inner child – When you're emotionally reactive, it's often your 4-, 5-, or 6-year-old self responding. Pause. Breathe. Then ask, “What does this part of me need right now?” Practice self-soothing before responding.
• Reframe love as “making the effort to understand” – Whether with yourself or others, love isn’t just about comfort—it's about understanding what’s really going on underneath the surface.
• Break generational patterns – The best gift you can give your children isn’t perfection—it’s a parent who’s doing the work. Ask yourself: “Am I treating myself the way I want my child to treat themselves?”
• Watch your default stress response – Do you fight, flee, freeze, or fawn when stressed? Identify your pattern and reflect: “Where did I learn this? Is it still serving me?”

Conclusion:

This episode with Dr. Nima Rahmany reminds us that true leadership and emotional strength don’t come from suppressing our pain—they come from understanding it. The real work starts inside: learning to regulate ourselves, facing the younger parts of us we've locked away, and choosing to respond instead of react.

Whether you're a parent, a partner, or simply someone trying to break cycles and live with more intention, the journey to becoming "trigger-proof" is one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself—and those you love. As Dr. Nima said, “The greatest gift I can give my son is a father who loves himself.” That starts with you.

Discover your attachment style and learn how it impacts your relationships, your leadership, and your ability to connect—with yourself and others. Dr. Nima created a free, eye-opening assessment to help you begin your healing journey.

Take the quiz now: https://drnima.com/lp/attachment-style-assessment/