We’re often told we’re in the midst of a post-Covid “loneliness epidemic”, but what exactly does that mean? Loneliness is a profound condition that goes right to the heart of being human - it’s certainly more than just being alone, and often it isn’t something that can be addressed by just “getting out more” or volunteering at the local hospital. 

This week’s guest Dr Sam Carr became interested in attachment theory, and was then drawn to seek a deeper understanding of people who lacked attachment. He embarked on a study of loneliness that will be shared in his forthcoming book, All the Lonely People. 

Andrew and Sam discuss types of loneliness - existential, the loneliness of a difficult relationship, objective vs subjective loneliness - and look at different ways to address it, including the Jungian path of finding solace and direction in our dreams.

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⭐️How internet porn affects romantic life

⭐️Three things Sam Carr knows to be true.

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Follow Up

Attend Andrew’s couple’s retreat near Berlin in June 2026 or men's retreat in April 2026: details here

Get Andrew’s free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things 

Take a look at Andrew’s new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools  

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Sam Carr’s book All the Lonely People can be preordered here. 

Read some of Sam Carr’s articles for theconversation.com:

Loneliness, loss and regret: what getting old really feels like – new study

Parenting practices around the world are diverse and not all about attachment 

How internet porn affects romantic life

Why mourning a pet can be harder than grieving for a person

Are you a shark or a teddy? How understanding conflict styles can help you overcome fights with friends and family 

Andrew and Sam discuss The Men on My Couch by Brandy Engler. You can find it here.

Andrew also mentions other episodes of this podcast, including How to be Resilient with James Hollis and Being a Mother with Lisa Marchiano.

Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall