In this episode of the Joy Lab podcast, we explore the complex emotions of envy and gratitude. We'll discuss how practicing gratitude can serve as a powerful antidote to the corrosive effects of envy, and delve into the evolutionary purpose and varieties of envy, including benign and malicious forms. We also take a quick (and hopefully helpful!) detour into the concept of counterfactual thinking and its role in both fueling and easing envy, with a focus on the use of mindfulness and gratitude to transform negative emotions into positive action. Best of all, we'll end with a really helpful way to reframe envy as a signal for self-care and gratitude.

Sources and Notes:

• Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.
• More episodes on uncertainty:
• Getting Comfy with Not Knowing (ep. 162)
• Mental Health & The Male Hubris, Female Humility Effect (ep. 157)
• Seeing the Goodness in Others, Yourself, & The World (ep. 66)
• You Are That Vast Thing You See with Great Telescopes (ep. 18)
• The Surprising Benefits of Not Knowing (ep. 16)
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• Xiang, Y., Dong, X., & Zhao, J. (2020). Effects of Envy on Depression: The Mediating Roles of Psychological Resilience and Social Support. Psychiatry investigation, 17(6). Access here.

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