Defensiveness is one of the fastest ways conversations shut down in marriage. One minute you are trying to communicate, and the next you feel blamed, misunderstood, or completely disconnected. Many couples get stuck here and assume there is no way forward once defensiveness shows up.

In this episode, I’m sharing the specific tool I use when my spouse becomes defensive and why it works. I break down what defensiveness is actually protecting, why pushing harder makes things worse, and how this tool helps deescalate conflict so real connection can happen again.

Tune in to discover:

• Why defensiveness shows up so quickly in marriage

• What defensiveness is actually protecting underneath

• The common mistake that escalates conflict

• How to lower defenses in the moment

• Ways to keep conversations productive instead of shutting down

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