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This one struck a deep chord. In today’s episode, I sit down with my dear friend Lori for a vulnerable conversation about marriage, disconnection, and the messy middle of trying to heal together. Lori shares how her relationship hit a wall, even after years of growth and doing the work. She opens up about feeling critiqued, shut down, and bitter… and how one honest, soul-baring conversation shifted everything. But healing doesn’t end with a breakthrough, it continues with the daily decision to show up differently. Together, we unpack how Lori was unconsciously playing the victim, why speaking your truth matters, and how childhood wounds shape adult relationships. This episode is tender, honest, and so relatable if you’ve ever felt stuck in the same patterns, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

You’re not alone in this. And you’re not powerless. Let’s decide to heal, one honest moment at a time.

Key moments of this interview:

0:00 Who is Lori

4:50 The truth-telling moment that changed everything

8:00 Alejandra identifies the two core issues

13:00 Realization: Lori is playing the victim

17:00 The Golden Key: “The way I relate to myself…”

22:00 Unpacking childhood origins of self-worth issues

28:00 A real-life example: the turkey burger argument

34:00 How his wound also fuels the conflict

40:00 The croissant of trauma: healing in layers

45:00 The two ways to heal

49:00 Taking her power back

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