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EP: 242 Internalized Wrongness – When You Mistake Your Identity for a Flaw


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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Something about me is just… wrong”?


In this episode, I’m getting real about internalized wrongness — that quiet, exhausting belief that your identity is a defect to fix instead of something to celebrate. I’ve lived this, and I know how sneaky it is. From code-switching until you don’t recognize your own voice, to chasing every receipt and title just to feel “enough,” it’s a cycle that drains your energy, creativity, and self-trust.

We’ll talk about how this shows up in our daily lives, why overachieving can be a mask for internalized wrongness, and the exact process I use to help Black women reset their nervous systems so authenticity feels safe again. I’ll share a client story, practical steps you can start today, and the one truth that changes everything: you were never the problem — you are the blueprint.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
  • How to recognize the signs of internalized wrongness

  • Why over-preparing and over-performing never bring self-trust

  • The “safety scripts” that keep you editing yourself to fit in

  • Small, low-risk experiments to prove to your body it’s safe to be you

  • How to start stacking evidence for your worth and identity

    If you’ve been shrinking, editing, or collecting receipts just to feel worthy, it’s time to reset.

    Take Action

    Take my free quiz to discover how your nervous system and survival patterns may be blocking your clarity:

    👉🏾 brigjohnson.com/stress-quiz

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    • keywords: internalized wrongness, self-trust for Black women, authenticity and nervous system, identity and self-worth, overcoming self-doubt, black women empowerment, authenticity coaching, nervous system reset, abandoning yourself for approval, self-safety practices, stop code switching, how to be your authentic self, allostatic load and stress, signs of identity suppression, Black women leadership mindset, building self-trust, cultural and historical stress, women’s empowerment podcast, emotional safety and authenticity, breaking free from people-pleasing

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