In this lively, outdoor episode the team greets a curious raven and riffs on corvid fascination—before diving into a deep review of Heather Shumaker’s game-changing parenting guide It’s Okay Not to Share & Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent & Compassionate Kids. They unpack Heather’s surprising background (from Antarctic trash-collector to oral-history biographer), the book’s bite-sized chapters and practical “what to say” boxes, and the fundamental Renegade Rule: children’s right to choose how (and whether) they share. Along the way they explore setting limits while respecting autonomy (even “doggie” dinner play), conflict resolution scripts that give victims a voice, signage strategies for “no boys/girls allowed” scenarios, flexible blackboard waitlists, and the book’s bold takes on rough-and-tumble, bomb/gun play and even preschool sex ed. Finally, they invite listeners to join their workshop at the Somerset Play Forum on June 19th.

⏱ Chapter Timings:
00:07 – Raven sighting, corvid obsession & Google’s “befriend a crow” top autofill
00:27 – Introducing It’s Okay Not to Share & Heather Shumaker’s bio
00:47 – Heather’s eclectic past: sailor, llama-trekker, Antarctic trash-collector, oral-history author
01:23 – Surprising non-psychology background vs book’s authoritative voice
01:54 – Book structure: standalone chapters & “words to use/avoid” boxes
02:46 – Renegade Rules: permission to skip forced sharing & reclaim play rights
03:40 – Key rule deep-dive: “It’s okay not to share”—protecting children’s play autonomy
04:48 – Language tips: short, simple, non-judgemental statements to set limits
05:36 – Balancing limits and imagination (“doggie dinner” case study)
06:44 – Adult advocacy: defending a child’s turn without penalising others
08:23 – Conflict resolution scripts: giving victims a voice & coaching both parties
09:59 – Exclusion play: signage & gentle interrogation of “no boys/girls allowed” myths
11:11 – Blackboard waitlists: portable, flexible turn-tracking tool in group sessions
12:39 – Other standout chapters: rough-and-tumble, bomb/gun play, preschool sex ed, dead-bird buddies
13:28 – Coming up: Somerset Play Forum workshop on 19 June—join us!

🌲 Keywords: Renegade Rules, child autonomy, sharing rights, conflict resolution, waitlists, exclusion play, rough-and-tumble, play signage, non-judgemental language, Heather Shumaker, play pedagogy, Somerset Play Forum

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