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In this bold and thoughtful episode of The Forest School Podcast, Lewis and Gemma explore one of the most controversial topics in early years education: war play, fighting, and weapons in Forest School. From stick swords to imaginary AK-47s, they dive deep into why this kind of play emerges, how it can be supported ethically, and why banning it outright may actually hinder emotional development. Drawing on research, personal stories, and years of experience, they unpack the nuances of aggressive play versus real aggression, the impact of media and advertising on children’s imagination, and the importance of reading consent and body language in play. They also explore the therapeutic potential of war play for trauma recovery, gender dynamics in rough play, and the development of leadership, empathy, and collaboration through strategic “battle” games. Far from encouraging violence, this episode makes the case that trusting children with complex, sometimes dark, imaginative play might just be essential for raising emotionally intelligent, resilient adults.
⏱ Chapter Timings:
00:00 – Introducing the “controversial” topic: war and fighting play
01:03 – Can Forest School be “proper” with a no-guns rule?
02:00 – School settings vs autonomous spaces
02:36 – Influence of It’s OK Not to Share on permissive practice
03:15 – Power, identity, and exploring dominance through play
04:03 – The media’s impact on specificity in war play
05:26 – Banning doesn’t stop it—it shifts form
06:44 – Why children naming weapons feels confronting
07:02 – What we allow in our setting and how children actually play
08:12 – Strategy, cooperation, and how war play evolves
09:29 – Safe play boundaries: guns vs swords
10:10 – Teaching emotional literacy through facial cues and consent
10:44 – Roleplay, trauma recovery, and emotional rehearsal
11:32 – Gender dynamics and participation in war play
12:11 – Pecking orders, “aggression display,” and play evolution
13:24 – Defending bases, social learning, and delegation
14:17 – Empathy through family military connections
14:40 – War play as trauma processing and regaining control
15:35 – Repetitive play and supporting what children need
16:28 – Aggression concerns vs real harm
17:03 – Real-life context: parenting concerns in violent communities
17:56 – Remembering the wildness of our own childhoods
18:34 – Dark play, fear, and learning through high emotion
19:45 – Building trust to explore safe peril
20:55 – Practising emotional regulation through pretend peril
21:52 – Risk-taking as preparation for adult life
22:34 – Stress, adrenaline, and movement-based regulation
22:53 – Boys, excitement, and systemic suppression in schools
23:28 – Excited storytelling vs forced calm
23:46 – Wrap-up: war and fighting are fine—if no one is hurt
🌱 Keywords: War play in Forest School, fighting play, weapons in early years, aggressive play, child-led learning, emotional literacy, risky play, trauma-informed practice, pretend play, boys in education, empathy in roleplay, play consent, rough and tumble, outdoor education, Forest School strategy games
🔖 Hashtags:
#ForestSchool #RiskyPlay #WarPlay #OutdoorEducation #EmotionalLiteracy #ChildLedLearning #TraumaInformed #AggressivePlay #PretendPlay #ConsentInPlay #EarlyYears #WeaponsPlay #BoysInEducation
💬 Get Involved:
Got a topic or question for us to unpack next? Email us at [email protected]
🌐 Find more at:
www.theforestschoolpodcast.com
Support the show at www.patreon.com/theforestschoolpodcast
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In this bold and thoughtful episode of The Forest School Podcast, Lewis and Gemma explore one of the most controversial topics in early years education: war play, fighting, and weapons in Forest School. From stick swords to imaginary AK-47s, they dive deep into why this kind of play emerges, how it can be supported ethically, and why banning it outright may actually hinder emotional development. Drawing on research, personal stories, and years of experience, they unpack the nuances of aggressive play versus real aggression, the impact of media and advertising on children’s imagination, and the importance of reading consent and body language in play. They also explore the therapeutic potential of war play for trauma recovery, gender dynamics in rough play, and the development of leadership, empathy, and collaboration through strategic “battle” games. Far from encouraging violence, this episode makes the case that trusting children with complex, sometimes dark, imaginative play might just be essential for raising emotionally intelligent, resilient adults.
⏱ Chapter Timings:
00:00 – Introducing the “controversial” topic: war and fighting play
01:03 – Can Forest School be “proper” with a no-guns rule?
02:00 – School settings vs autonomous spaces
02:36 – Influence of It’s OK Not to Share on permissive practice
03:15 – Power, identity, and exploring dominance through play
04:03 – The media’s impact on specificity in war play
05:26 – Banning doesn’t stop it—it shifts form
06:44 – Why children naming weapons feels confronting
07:02 – What we allow in our setting and how children actually play
08:12 – Strategy, cooperation, and how war play evolves
09:29 – Safe play boundaries: guns vs swords
10:10 – Teaching emotional literacy through facial cues and consent
10:44 – Roleplay, trauma recovery, and emotional rehearsal
11:32 – Gender dynamics and participation in war play
12:11 – Pecking orders, “aggression display,” and play evolution
13:24 – Defending bases, social learning, and delegation
14:17 – Empathy through family military connections
14:40 – War play as trauma processing and regaining control
15:35 – Repetitive play and supporting what children need
16:28 – Aggression concerns vs real harm
17:03 – Real-life context: parenting concerns in violent communities
17:56 – Remembering the wildness of our own childhoods
18:34 – Dark play, fear, and learning through high emotion
19:45 – Building trust to explore safe peril
20:55 – Practising emotional regulation through pretend peril
21:52 – Risk-taking as preparation for adult life
22:34 – Stress, adrenaline, and movement-based regulation
22:53 – Boys, excitement, and systemic suppression in schools
23:28 – Excited storytelling vs forced calm
23:46 – Wrap-up: war and fighting are fine—if no one is hurt
🌱 Keywords: War play in Forest School, fighting play, weapons in early years, aggressive play, child-led learning, emotional literacy, risky play, trauma-informed practice, pretend play, boys in education, empathy in roleplay, play consent, rough and tumble, outdoor education, Forest School strategy games
🔖 Hashtags:
#ForestSchool #RiskyPlay #WarPlay #OutdoorEducation #EmotionalLiteracy #ChildLedLearning #TraumaInformed #AggressivePlay #PretendPlay #ConsentInPlay #EarlyYears #WeaponsPlay #BoysInEducation
💬 Get Involved:
Got a topic or question for us to unpack next? Email us at [email protected]
🌐 Find more at:
www.theforestschoolpodcast.com
Support the show at www.patreon.com/theforestschoolpodcast
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