In this episode of Ambitious, we dive into a topic that hasn't been explored before on our show: sex and intimacy. We talk with Rena Martine, a women's intimacy coach, educator, and author dedicated to empowering women to embrace their sexuality and cultivate deeper relationships. Rena shares her journey from being a deputy district attorney specializing in sex crimes to founding Shameless Coaching, an eight-week program designed to help women achieve fulfilling, shame-free sexual experiences. We discuss why sex and intimacy remain taboo, the role of shame in our perception of sexuality, and how to reframe our understanding of pleasure. Learn about creating connections, communicating desires, and the transformative power of intimacy. This episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you strengthen your relationships and embrace your true self.

01:15 Meet Rena Martine: Women's Intimacy Coach

02:46 Diving into the Taboo: Sex and Intimacy

11:13 The Difference Between Sex and Intimacy

14:17 Practical Steps to Embrace Sexuality

21:24 Reframing Sexual Scripts

28:25 Grounding Exercises for Better Intimacy

33:09 The Role of Self-Intimacy

39:45 The Role of Communication in Intimacy

46:35 Reigniting Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships

51:30 Navigating Different Libidos in Relationships

57:53 Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire

01:03:30 The Dynamics of Dominance and Submission

Buy Rena's book: "The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love," which is available in paperback, e-book, and audiobook everywhere books are sold.

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• Website

Resources Mentioned:

• The Sex You Want by Rena Martine
• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
• Not Always in the Mood by Sarah Hunter Murray
• Gottman Card Decks App
• Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage

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