Married After Kids

Ep. 77: Why “Men Helping More” Is Actually Super Dangerous For Moms


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You may have heard the headlines: men are doing more housework than ever before. Sounds like great news, right?


But in this episode, I’m breaking down why this seemingly positive trend can actually be really harmful for moms, and the very important piece that’s missing from the conversation. If you’ve ever been told you should feel grateful for your partner’s “help” but still feel unsupported, unseen, or like you’re carrying the mental weight of everything, this one is for you.


I’m sharing personal stories, research, and practical tools to help you move beyond “help” and toward true co-leadership in your home and relationship.


Tune in to discover:

  • Why it’s not just about doing more—it’s about who’s managing it all
  • The dangerous message moms get when they’re still overwhelmed but told to “be grateful”
  • The key difference between household chores and the mental load (and why it matters)
  • How to talk to your spouse about sharing the invisible weight (without a fight)
  • The surprising long-term risks of ignoring this dynamic in your marriage


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