Vahavta writes, teaches, and speaks on CNC, emotional S/m, kink + chronic illness/disability, pain processing, and negotiation and communication on the edge.

She is also a creator of some wonderful resources, such as the Risk Evaluation Database, and the ‘Kink Beyond Limits’ power exchange workbooks.

We wanted to talk to her about all these, along with her choice to give up being a rope bottom, as this is a story that often happens, but is rarely talked about.

Listen to this episode to hear about:

• Her rope journey

• Her health background and why she gave up rope

• Reasons for the rope scene skewing young

• EDS and why it might be more common in the rope scene

• How being flexible in rope might not always be a good thing

• Why many people with hyper-mobile EDS are drawn to rope

• How rope bottoms can build longevity in rope

• Balancing strength and flexibility

• How the Beighton Score might help you know if you might have EDS

• Why active bottoming is critical for those with EDS

• How she views her time in rope bondage with the benefit of hindsight

• And more!

Feel free to share your thoughts on the topic in the comments <3