Beyond The Surface Podcast

Episode 10: Dysregulation isn’t failure. And being Zen 24/7 isn’t the goal.


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Do you ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, you still get overwhelmed, anxious, or reactive? Maybe you even catch yourself thinking, “I should be past this by now.” If so, you’re not alone.

Dysregulation isn’t failure—it’s communication. Your nervous system is always working to keep you safe, and when it shifts into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode, it’s responding to something—whether that’s stress, past experiences, or simply the demands of daily life.

In this episode, we’re shifting the way you see dysregulation and, more importantly, giving you tools to navigate it with more awareness and self-compassion.


What You’ll Learn:

  • Why dysregulation happens and what your nervous system is trying to tell you.
  • The biggest misconceptions about healing and nervous system regulation.
  • How to recognize your personal signs of dysregulation before it spirals.
  • Why avoiding discomfort keeps you stuck—and how to break free.
  • Simple, practical tools to regulate in the moment and build resilience.


Key Takeaways & Tools:

✔ Recognize Your Triggers: Pay attention to physical and emotional signs like tension, shallow breathing, or feeling shut down.

✔ Shift from Fixing to Listening: Instead of forcing yourself to “calm down,” ask what your system actually needs—movement, stillness, connection, or space.

✔ Break the Avoidance Cycle: Small, safe steps toward discomfort teach your nervous system that you can handle it.

✔ Regulation Techniques: Try grounding exercises, deep sighs, cold exposure, or humming to activate your vagus nerve and create a sense of safety.

✔ Your Bounce-Back Rate Matters: Healing isn’t about never feeling dysregulated—it’s about how quickly and effectively you can return to regulation.

Dysregulation is a normal part of being human. The goal isn’t to avoid it but to respond to it in a way that builds trust, resilience, and self-awareness. Every time you support yourself through it, you strengthen your nervous system and remind yourself: I am safe.


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