The Best of You

Episode 115: 4 Ways to Transform Your Relationship—Expert Tips to Heal Pain Points and Deepen Intimacy


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Do you want to learn how to strengthen your relationship over time?

Do you want to have better communication and deeper intimacy with your partner?


In this very honest episode, you'll learn strategies from top marriage & relationship experts combined with Biblical wisdom to work through pain paints, set realistic expectations, and practice constructive conversations with your partner.


Here’s what we cover:


1. The most important way to improve your relationship (6:11)

2. How to identify bad advice vs. a helpful confidant (13:34)

3. Naming paint points in a healthy way (15:12)

4. 3 ways to frame a relational pain point (24:34)

5. The 4 most destructive qualities to a relationship (29:04)

6. The 4 most important skills to a vital long-term relationship (32:24) 


Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.


If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love:

Episode 105: 4 Lies We Tell, the Mental Health Benefits of Honesty, & How to Stop Lying In Your Relationships

Episode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource Yourself


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