The Honest Pod

Episode 118: Q & A Part 2 with Cathy Loerzel & Shara Photias


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Another fun Question and Answer with Karrie, Cathy, and Shara. In today's episode, they answer the question about seeking healing and restoration in relationships with parents who deny past trauma. The hosts emphasize the importance of doing the inner work before engaging in conversations with parents, as well as the possibility of healing without their acknowledgment. They also highlight the need for time, outside perspective, and setting boundaries in order to navigate these complex dynamics. In this part of the conversation, Cathy and Karrie discuss the importance of understanding and accepting the limitations of relationships, especially with parents. They emphasize the need to grieve the reality of what could have been and to release expectations of redemption. They also explore the process of working with clients who have multiple layers of shame and how to decide where to start. They highlight the significance of following the thread of a story and the themes that emerge. They conclude by encouraging listeners to take small steps towards their redeemed selves through honesty and self-reflection.


Takeaways

  • Healing and restoration in relationships with parents who deny past trauma may not always be possible, and it's important to prioritize one's own healing regardless of their response.
  • Engaging in conversations with parents about past trauma should be approached with caution and only after doing the necessary inner work.
  • Setting boundaries and taking time for oneself can be crucial in navigating complex family dynamics.
  • Seeking outside perspective from a trusted source can provide valuable insights and guidance in dealing with challenging family relationships. Understand and accept the limitations of relationships, especially with parents, and grieve the reality of what could have been.
  • Release expectations of redemption and focus on personal healing and growth.
  • When working with clients with multiple layers of shame, start with the story that feels the most available and follow the thread to uncover themes.
  • Honesty and self-reflection are key to personal healing and growth.
  • Take small steps towards your redeemed self by being more honest and creating spaces for honesty.
    • Understanding the underlying issues that lead to addictive behaviors is crucial for healing and finding healthier coping mechanisms.
    • Setting boundaries and limitations can be an act of self-care and self-compassion in navigating addiction.
    • Societal acceptance of certain addictions, such as alcohol and sugar, can make it challenging to recognize and address unhealthy patterns.
    • Self-awareness and reflection are key in identifying and addressing addictive behaviors.

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