The Best of You

Episode 126: Restoring Wonder & Play in Intimacy—Navigating Sexual Brokenness, Safety, and Vulnerability with Therapist Sam Jolman


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Did you know that by adulthood, most people have experienced some form of sexual wounding?


Today's conversation with Sam Jolman, therapist and author of the new book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got," is one of my absolute all-time favorites. Why? It truly surprised me.


It’s so rare to find a nuanced conversation about sex—especially in a world where we’re constantly tugged between a reductive view of “purity” and an equally reductive sense of “permissiveness.”


This conversation is packed with absolute gems—there’s depth, wisdom, and healing in every moment that’s relevant to all of us, no matter our stories.


Here’s what we dive into:

- How to establish safety, consent, and trust in intimate relationships

- An eye-opening statistic from Harvard about what kids long for from their parents on the topic of sex

- How to have a truly meaningful “sex talk” with your kids

- What God actually desires from us when it comes to sex

- Sam's advice for those who’ve experienced sexual wounding or brokenness and want to begin the healing process


Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love:

Episode 125: Recovering From Purity Culture: Dismantle the Myths, Reject Shame-Based Sexuality, and Move Forward in Your Faith with Dr. Camden Morgante


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