The Best of You

Episode 138: Breaking Free from Overfunctioning—Discover the Hidden Costs of Always Being 'The Responsible One’


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Are you always the one taking care of and fixing problems for everyone else?


Today, I'm taking a deep dive into the heart of overfunctioning—exploring why so many of us feel compelled to take on excessive responsibilities, often at the cost of our own well-being. I delve into parentification, which I believe often lies at the root of overfunctioning. I also share how understanding these dynamics through Mel Robbins' "Let Them Theory" can offer powerful insights for change.


Whether you're tired of always being 'the responsible one' or you're seeking to understand your deep-seated need to please others, this discussion will clarify the roots of these behaviors and guide you toward a path of healing and freedom.


Here’s what we cover:


*What is overfunctioning, and how does it impact your life?

*How childhood parentification fuels overfunctioning in adulthood

*5 clear signs you were parentified as a child

*3 practical steps to start healing

*How Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory transforms boundary setting


Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here.


Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.


If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 5: What is Codependency and Why Does it Matter?


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