Today, we're diving deep into something that touches so many of us—why we seek external validation and approval from others, and how healing our younger parts can set us free. If you've ever found yourself people-pleasing, perfecting, over-performing, or seeking approval from others, this episode is for you.We’ll explore:


✔️ Why younger parts of us drive our overfunctioning tendencies


✔️ How unmet childhood needs shape our patterns of guilt and perfectionism


✔️ The difference between external validation and true inner security


✔️ My own journey of reconnecting with an 8-year-old part of me (and how it changed everything)


✔️ Simple, practical ways you can start reparenting your younger self today

Whether you're longing for more joy, play, and vitality—or you're ready to step off the hamster wheel of approval-seeking—this episode will give you tools to start reconnecting with the young parts of you that have been waiting for your attention.

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