The Best of You

Episode 29: Perfectionism and Proving Your Worth: How to Stop Chasing Approval and Start Living the Life You Actually Want


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OK, buckle up, today's conversation on The Best of You podcast goes deep, and we both get really honest about own struggles. I could have talked with Mary for hours about how to get off the treadmill of perfecting and proving your worth—and start claiming the life you actually want.

You do not want to miss the end where we get into social media, the curse of comparison, and the approval chain from which no one is immune.

We touch on so much in this episode including:

1. The hidden fears that drive us to perfect and prove our way into belonging

2. If we let go of working to earn the approval of others, then what? 

3. The moment Mary discovered that chasing gold stars was not leading her to what she actually wanted

4. The pitfalls and perils of social media

5.  How to get out of comparison traps

6.  The voice in our heads that keeps us running in circles

7.  The real mark of emotional health (and it’s *not* never failing or never feeling hurt)

8. 3 questions to ask yourself as you stop chasing approval

Connect with Mary at www.marymarantz.com/quiz


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Music by Andy Luiten 

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

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