January 28, 2025

Episode 290: Ten Ways to Build and Use Mental Toughness Plus LIVE QA

53 minutes

This LIVE QA intro is about the Top Ten Ways (I think) that you can build mental toughness. Check it out - ask questions after the intro. Check out https://www.stewsmithfitness.com for more information found in article, books, ebook, coaching, and membership pages.

Setting high standards is a commendable goal, but you are not going to win everything. You will have good days and bad days. Perfectionism can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and imposter syndrome. Instead of striving for unattainable ideals, aim for excellence. This means accepting that mistakes (and failing) are part of the process. Setting high, ever-progressing, and achievable standards creates a more sustainable path that allows for growth. Break your goals into smaller, actionable steps, and celebrate every achievement. This practice reinforces a sense of accomplishment and combats self-doubt. It is not uncommon to see highly talented people attempt challenging programs like SEAL training and medical school and attend demanding learning institutions and not be able to handle the inevitable failures and setbacks BECAUSE they have never experienced failure before nor had to work hard to excel at anything.

Some of my favorite quotes on failing:

"Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be." - John Wooden

"Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly." - R.F. Kennedy

"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." - Edison

"The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure." - John C. Maxwell

"Failure is success in progress." - Albert Einstein

We Are Human and Make Mistakes - Be Kind To Yourself and Don't Dwell on It

When facing tough times, forgiveness is key. It’s easy to be critical of yourself when things don’t go as planned, but self-compassion is an antidote to failure. Understand that everyone makes mistakes; it’s part of being human. Recognizing what you can learn from your experiences is a way to reframe past failures so you do not dwell and waste one thought on the negative. Acknowledge your disappointment, and permit yourself to move forward - now smarter to continue the process. Personally, reading Edison's quote on failing does it for me. Finding ways that do not work is a success - not a failure. This keeps your self-confidence high, and you see the fuel to keep on going again.

The very definition of mental toughness (in my opinion) is:
Finding the fuel when the tank is empty.

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