The Alpha Male Coach Podcast

Episode 346: Holding Space - Relationships From the Alpha State


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In this episode, Kevin opens the year with a powerful transmission on relationships, masculinity, and what it truly means to live - and love - from the Alpha state. This is not a dating tactics episode. It’s a foundational teaching on consciousness, polarity, and why relationships exist in the first place.


Kevin begins by grounding the listener in Universal Truth: circumstances are neutral, out of our control in the moment, and separate from the meaning we assign to them. From there, he revisits the Model of Alignment and the beta condition - automatic thought-feeling-action loops that shape our experience of reality. This sets the stage for a deeper exploration of how relationships, especially with women, act as mirrors for our inner world.


As the episode unfolds, Kevin introduces the three worlds framework: the outer world of circumstance, the inner world of thought and emotion, and the energetic world that subtly governs how we move through life. He explains how most men try to navigate relationships from the bottom up - seeking validation, approval, or completion - while remaining unconscious of the deeper energetic and intentional forces at play.


From a top-down perspective rooted in unity consciousness, relationships are reframed entirely. They are not about getting something, fixing someone, or proving worth. They are the universe loving itself awake through form. Every approach, conversation, attraction, and conflict becomes an invitation to notice where we are still operating from ego, identity, and conditioning.


Kevin explores the masks men often wear in dating and relationships: the savior, the wise sage, the wounded hero, the chameleon. These personas may work temporarily, but they ultimately collapse because they are rooted in separation rather than truth. When the mask falls, the relationship reveals what is actually being worked through - unmet needs, unexamined beliefs, and unconscious patterns seeking awareness.


A central teaching of the episode is masculine polarity as containment. Masculine energy is space. It holds. It does not chase, fix, or collapse. To be in the Alpha state is to hold space for all three worlds at once: the external interaction, the internal reactions, and the subtle energetic field connecting everything. From this place, connection becomes effortless, honest, and grounded.


Kevin also shares his personal mythology around reincarnation, choice, and remembrance - not as doctrine, but as a lens through which to understand love, suffering, and awakening. In this view, we are not here to atone or be punished, but to remember, again and again, who we are through relationship.


This episode closes with a simple but profound invitation: enter relationships not to complete yourself, but because they are in front of you. Hold space. Watch. Wait. And see if remembrance arises.


If you want to understand relationships beyond strategy - if you’re ready to embody grounded masculinity, conscious presence, and real connection - this episode lays the foundation.

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