The GoodHard Story Podcast

Episode 84: Hope for People-Pleasers and Perfectionists with Caroline Young


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Recently I received emails from two people in very different circumstances who were grappling with (essentially) the same question: Who is telling me the story of who I should be?

Their messages struck me so deeply because, for the first half of my life, I asked other people to tell me that story. I desperately wanted to please people by giving them the power over who I was and what I should do. Then I was set free by, of all things, a massive stroke. My new physical limitations meant I was no longer capable of pleasing everyone, all the time.

And neither are you, whether you live with disabilities or not. So let’s get real about it. 

We simply cannot go any further into our conversation on identity formation without coming to terms with who we’re trying to please. My teammate Caroline Young is joining me on this week’s episode of The GoodHard Story Podcast to offer a glimmer of hope (and maybe a big deep breath) for all of us people-pleasers and perfectionists. Here’s what we get into:

  • Discerning God’s conviction from man’s condemnation
  • My honest opinion on perfect church attendance
  • Acting out of guilt versus obedience
  • Identifying the outside influences on our self-image
  • If you want to prioritize pleasing God over pleasing people, this episode is for you!


    Show Notes:

    I Shall Not Want by Audrey Assaud - https://youtu.be/e5xEYgGr6ms

    Star for Jesus and Other Jobs I Quite by Kim Stuart - https://a.co/d/4GnHtlN

    Scriptures referenced in this episode:

    Hosea 6:3

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