The Best of You

Episode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource Yourself


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We need attachments to other people, places, and to God. Yet transitions have a way of shaking up those attachments—even healthy ones!

Today we’re talking all about how to balance our need to hold on to others - and also the need to let go. It takes skill and self-compassion to navigate these seasons of wrestling for more health, more connection, or more freedom.

Here’s what we cover:

1. Healthy & unhealthy attachments (9:34)

2. The 2 competing relationship needs everyone has (21:45)

3. Attachment voids (28:12)

4. Practices to anchor yourself (33:50)

5. The role of liminal figures (40:08)

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Related Episodes:

Episode 16: What are Attachment Styles and Why Does it Matter?

Episode 88: Navigating Transitions—What to Do When Change Stirs up Anxiety, Uncertainty, or Confusion


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