We all want to raise calm, emotionally regulated kids—but how calm and emotionally regulated are we? Kids don’t just learn from what we say; they absorb how we react, how we process emotions, and how we handle stress.

If you’ve ever lost your patience, snapped, or regretted a reaction, this episode is for you. Those moments aren’t failures—they’re opportunities to learn and model repair. And if you didn’t show up in the past the way you would have liked, it’s not too late to do things differently now. Growth isn’t about getting it perfect; it’s about showing up in a new way, one moment at a time.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why your nervous system plays a huge role in your child’s behaviour.

• How kids co-regulate with us and what that actually means.

• The patterns we unconsciously pass down.

• Practical ways to shift from reacting to responding with intention.

Key Takeaways & Tools:

✔ Regulate Yourself First – A dysregulated parent can’t teach regulation. Before correcting your child’s behaviour, check in with your own. Ask: ‘Am I reacting from stress, or am I responding from calm?’

✔ Grounding Techniques for Triggers – Try breathwork, movement, cold water, or an affirmation like “Peace begins with me.”

✔ Reframe Meltdowns – Instead of seeing them as bad behaviour, see them as a stress response. A child acting out is communicating an unmet need.

✔ Co-Regulation First – Before jumping to solutions, focus on connection and validation. Swap “You’re okay” with “I see you’re really frustrated. That makes sense.”

✔ Repair After Reacting – No parent is perfect, but modelling accountability teaches kids emotional responsibility. Saying, “I got frustrated earlier, and that wasn’t fair to you. I’m working on handling my emotions better,” helps them learn that mistakes are okay—what matters is how we own them.

Raising emotionally regulated kids starts with us. The more we support our own nervous system, the easier it is to guide our children through theirs. 

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