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Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel challenges the modern dating landscape, offering a fresh perspective on why so many struggle to form meaningful connections. She identifies how our rigid belief systems create confirmation bias, causing us to unconsciously seek evidence that reinforces our negative relationship patterns. Perel exposes the fundamental attribution error that plagues many relationships—where we see ourselves as complex while reducing others to simple characteristics—and reveals why turning dates into "job interviews" kills authentic connection.

Perel shares transformative insights on conflict, explaining that what truly matters isn't what we fight about but what we're fighting for: care and closeness, respect and recognition, or power and control. Through illuminating examples, she demonstrates how seemingly trivial arguments about cat litter boxes or closet doors actually mask deeper emotional needs rooted in our earliest experiences. This wisdom offers listeners practical tools to break destructive patterns and build relationships based on genuine understanding rather than projected fears.

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