F*ck off and die

F*ck off and die is a crude cosmic hug for anyone going through heart break. It's based on a break up activity book made by Sarah Robinson and Jade Foo. Each episode features unsolicited advice, kinda loosely backed by science, and a listener question answered by someone with no qualifications. It's funny, heartfelt and inappropriate.

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Sarah and Jade are excited to be in the same room but also very bummed out about the state of the world. They make a special announcement that gets them back to being excited. Sarah talks about why setting things on fire makes you feel good, and how responsibly lit fires can help release the pain and upset of a broken heart.

Jade answers a listener question about how to handle being trash talked by your ex. Sarah suggests murdering them. They later agree this is not okay, then settle on some actual good advice you may or may not want to take. At the end they say quotes other people made up, because other people say it better than they do.

Show Notes

• Buy self-esteem – our mirror decals that tell you you’re Sexy As Fuck or Hotter Than Hell are cheaper than therapy.
• Burn Baby Burn – the final Chapter of our book, Fuck off and die.
• The Power of Fire Ceremonies – why lighting shit on fire feels good after a break up.

Quotes

“Whatever you are looking for is looking for you too.”

Saul Williams

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

Maya Angelou

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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In this ep Sarah talks about being in a dark place and trying to find a silver lining amidst all the COVID BS. She tells listeners to do the same, then wonders if the whole activity is patronising. In between Jade and Sarah put on lipstick to look like glam whores.

Jade answers a listener question about how to date in ISO. She delves into the importance of staying safe and heeding the wisdom of pod-God Dan Savage. Sarah talks about not having sex with an ex in the sand dunes and doing kinky shit with a German Dom online.

This episode is a bit dated ‘cause state regulations have changed now, but whatever.

Show Notes

• Sarah thinks some things are better in iso and takes 4 hours to make a coffee.
• Jade buys Fat Boi Brownies for our web genius MoMo.

Listener Questions

"Dear Jade & Sarah, I have been connecting with my Hinge buddy really well, and was about to go on a date. And then suddenly COVID-19 hit. Should I still meet up physically?" 

"What does it mean to look for a relationship now? Can it really be done in just text and chat? How important is physical contact in initial dating?"

• Podcast legend Dan Savage has great advice on keeping safe while dating during COVID-19. (We also nominate him for Queen of the Universe.)
• Bumble and Tinder both recommend people don't meet up in person at the moment.
• Our blog on dating as a highly sensitive person. 
• Go on a virtual date at The Met Museum or check out these museum and art gallery recommendations from The Guardian.
• KinkD is an app for members of the kink community. You can select your kinks and find other people who align with what you desire.

Quotes

"I love you. Breathe. I am here, and I always will be."

- Sarah’s diary to her inner child

"Please take care of yourselves, take care of the people around you, and wash your damn hands."

- Dan Savage (Savage Love)

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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In this episode Sarah discusses sexting a 23 year old interested in older women and shares an activity to make you feel better in iso. She also tells people in healthy, loving relationships to get fucked.

Jade answers a listener question about coping with isolation when most of your friends are partnered. Sarah suggests getting new friends, but Jade has some actual good ideas. This is another episode in our series on ‘breaking up with your life’, thanks to COVID-19.

Show Notes

CURATE YOUR SOCIALS YO, how to be single in iso. Where we talk about Instagram forever.

• Not Engaged
• Free as Fuck
• Before and after being called a good boy

Artists we love to follow (and you should too!)

• @rubyetc.
• @violetclair
• @auntsarahdraws
• @rubyetc_
• @bodeburnout
• @bymariandrew

Good bois living better lives than all of us...

• @paulthecorgi
• @amospearce
• @henrythecoloradodog

Hot guys

• @jakegyllenhaal
• @chrishemsworth
• @amitrahav8

Nominations for Queen of the Universe

• @jvn
• @jacindaardern
• @jameelajamilofficial

Quotes

"Don’t forget to wash your hands and block your ex."

- Violet Clair

"If you want bread, have some bread. It’s a global crisis, frankly do whatever makes this easier: wank, eat, sleep, repeat. We don’t need to come out of this thin, we need to come out of this alive. That’s our only job. Stay safe. Be gentle with yourself. Love you."

- Jameela Jamil

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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In this next series, Jade and Sarah talk about breaking up with their lives in the wake of COVID-19. Sarah goes through the Kübler-Ross Grief Cycle and tells everyone it’s okay to feel f*cking crazy, since the whole situation is, well, f*cking crazy.

Jade answers a listener question about how to be happy in your own company. Sarah suggests sniffing Sharpie pens and drawing bad pictures. Jade says being busy and having too many pets is the answer. A lot more happens in between.

The point of making this is to make people feel a little bit better about life right now.

Show Notes

• Kübler-Ross Grief Cycle 'Corona Edition'
• School of Life - How to Be Alone by Sara Maitland

Quotes

“Let everything happen to you. Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final”

― Rainer Maria Rilke

"Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."

― Maya Angelou

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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Sarah talks about why your wild post-break up ideas should be put on pause, so you don’t completely f*ck up your life. And how these ideas can be used to power an amazing life, after the heart break has settled.

Jade answers a listener question about how to handle getting an STI from an ex. Turns out, herpes is just a rash, and loads of people in Australia have it. In between, Jade tells everyone that fucking a Nazi is not okay. Everyone agrees.

Show notes

1.   F*ck off and die – find the book here.

2.   More information about herpes.

• The Overblown Stigma of Herpes  
• What is it like to have Herpes
• Dating and the H Bomb
• 2020 Top 6 Herpes Sites

3.   What a Time to Be Alone: The Slumflower's Guide to Why You Are Already Enough by Chidera Eggerue, 2018

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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Sarah talks about why it’s easy to lose your sh*t when a song that reminds you of him comes on in the tampon aisle of the supermarket. And, why taking back your playlist is a step towards healing.

Jade wonders whether it’s okay to ask someone how many people they've slept with on the first date. We discover only Jade asks this question, and it's probably not okay. 

Show notes

1.   F*ck off and die – find the book here.

2.   Get the F*ck off and die playlist here.

3.   Music Brings Memory Back to the Injured Brain

4.   A snapshot of the sexual health and well-being of the Australian population.

5.   The Numbers Game published in The Sydney Morning Herald, 2012

6.   The Peril of Magnificent Love by Emma Magenta, 2004

7.   Tips for Getting out of Bed by Healthline, 2018

8.   How to Get Out of Bed When You're Depressed by Vice.com, 2019

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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Sarah shares an easy activity from the book, F*ck off and die, that has saved her during a break up time and time again. Jade says goodbye to the soap scum in one of her ex's hair, and everyone rejoices.

Jade delves into what it means when an ex likes your Instagram posts or watches your stories. Sarah assumes it's because he's trying to f*ck with you, but apparently there are other, less menacing reasons.

Show notes

1.   F*ck off and die – activity can be found in the book.

2.   How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch, 2018

3.   Music Brings Memory Back to the Injured Brain

4.   Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue

5.   Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue, 2011

6.   Brene Brown's Ted Talk

Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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F*ck off and die is a crude cosmic hug for women going through heart break.

In this maiden episode, Jade and Sarah talk about the science behind why everything feels so sh*tty after a breakup, and what you can do to make life more bearable. In between, they question if they’re qualified to make a Podcast, but enjoy talking about themselves too much and power on.

Sarah walks you through an activity in the book, F*ck off and die, designed to help you through this tough time. Jade talks about whether ghosting is okay. Sarah is disappointed to discover Jade thinks it is. The pair remain friends.

This episode was dropped on Valentine's Day, because it's a stupid day and awesome, single people deserve love too.

Show notes

F*ck off and die – find the book here.

Grieving breakups – to your brain the pain of a breakup is similar to the death of a loved one. MRI studies on brain pain centres. (Fischer et al 2005).

Native American culture – we couldn’t find the podcast mentioned by Sarah, but a similar message appears in Dwellings: A Spritual History of the Living World by Touchstone Books (1995).

“Suddenly all my ancestors are behind me. Be still, they say. Watch and listen. You are the result of the love of thousands.”

― Linda Hogan 

Caveman days – rejection from the tribe meant death.

• Rush, John A. Clinical Anthropology: an application of anthropological concepts within clinical settings, Praeger London 1996, p84

Quote by Marilyn Monroe

• “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”



Our theme music is by Naomi Robinson and Josiah Padmanabham.

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