Acknowledge that you are not crazy, making things up, or being dramatic if you are feeling like things aren’t quite right, or if you need a change. That’s your intuition talking, but people socialized as women are often conditioned by society and by the expectations of others to suppress their "drama," and are criticized for "overthinking" things when they feel that something is off. In reality, the feeling that something is off is our subconscious running up a red flag that we are out of alignment with what we truly believe in or want for ourselves.

Whether you are switching careers or reinventing another major part of your life, trust that you can land on your feet on the other side of that major change. There are scores of women who have left toxic relationships, unsupportive friendships, and terrible jobs. They are now thriving, and look back only to realize they wish they’d made the leap sooner. Trust your own ability to adapt to change.

Find your support crew. These will be people that will encourage you and support you, whatever that change looks like. Hopefully, these people are the ones closest to you–family, friends, your community–but sometimes, these are the people who will resist your change the most. Be mindful that your support crew may look differently than you hope, but there are people out there who will support you through whatever changes you want to make. And don’t forget that there are likely others just like yourself who want to change in a similar way to you–find those people and support each other.

Believe that your happiness and well-being are worth something, both to you and to the rest of the world. Don’t fall for the trap of believing that what you want should come after everyone else’s needs and wants. Your wellbeing shouldn’t be an afterthought, something to “get to” once everything else has been ticked off of your to-do list. You have a right to be here. You have a right to take up space. You have a right to show up as the best version of yourself. And when you do show up as the best version of yourself, the world benefits.

Realize that wanting something more in your life does not make you selfish for wanting it OR ungrateful for what you already have. Cultivate a gratitude practice to ground yourself in the comfort of what you do have, and savor that frequently. Do this while at the same time acknowledging that there is more in this life for you if you want it, and have the courage to pursue it. Oh, and don’t forget to have FUN with it–the possibilities for you are truly boundless and infinite.

Embrace Sensitivity & Authenticity as Your Superpower. So many entrepreneurs are highly sensitive, neurodivergent, or just looking for a way to create something outside of the box. Instead of feeling like that will hold you back, it's empowering to explore how that will help you stand out, embracing your unique ability to have an authentic brand (without oversharing your life) can help you form deeper connections in your community and audience as a refreshing presence in their life and business.

Embracing Healing As Part Of Your Business Journey. If you are a recovering people pleaser, then healing those wounds will be huge for your long-term success in setting boundaries. If you are triggered by rejection, then releasing trauma that triggered that will be part of your path. I am not a healer myself, but I support so many amazing healers and see that those who are doing the work (myself included) of physical, mental, emotional & energy healing alongside the business strategy get further faster.

Design Thoughtful Offers in Alignment With Your Mission. Designing how you package your services or sessions up into a package, program, course or membership can feel daunting. Start with having a clear mission of why you do what you do, the feeling you want clients to experience and feel, and then consider the different formats or containers, and get really good at one first (marketing, selling, onboarding & serving). Then you can branch out to other methods of support.

Welcome Your Intuition Into Your Business. There are so many decisions to make daily, weekly, monthly and ongoing as a business owner. Taking time to tap into your body, your intuition, your spiritual guidance...whatever will best serve you to make authentic and aligned decisions will make a difference in the long run. Blending intuition with strategy for decisions that feel right and align with your business vision and ethical standards will help you feel empowered and in charge of your business.

Insist on Authentic Marketing & Lean Into Automations. Create & implement marketing strategies that reflect your genuine self, drawing clients who value and seek what you uniquely offer. And don't be afraid of automations. The more you can map out and automate as far as marketing, selling & onboarding your ideal client, the more you can reserve your energy for truly serving and holding space and support. Funnels, email marketing, and sequences can still represent you, your voice and your energy...just mapped out and written in advance so that you can sit back and let the magic happen in the back end.

Being calm is not the goal, that is not what regulation means (to me). Regulation is a verb not a state. It is a set of tools that you can call on to help you when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, burnt out, etc. The goal is to feel "in control" and resilient in the face of daily stressors. For many people the goal is to slow down and feel safe enough to even define "calm" for them. But no one is regulated all of the time. The goal is feel good about your life, which you can't do without your nervous system being regulated.

Nervous system reframe is EVERYTHING! When you are dysregulated your thinking brain goes offline (that is just plain science). So if you aren't your best self in one of those moments, it isn't a character flaw, you aren't an awful human. You got dysregulated (basically you can drop the guilt!). What can you do about this? Start to learn your signs of dysregulation.

Knowing all the states of your nervous system is super helpful. What do you look like when you are super activated (a fight or flight response), what do you look like when you are regulated or in your "window of tolerance", what do you look like when you are in a freeze or shut down response? Being inside our window of tolerance often feels best, but it isn't necessarily the "superior" nervous system state. It's about knowing how your nervous system communicates with you so you can grab the right tools. And sometimes being dysregulated is the APPROPRIATE response.

We all have different thresholds for sensory input. And we actually have 8 sensory systems, not just the 5 outward facing ones we think of. Sight, taste, touch, sound and smell are your exterior facing senses. Proprioception, Vestibular and Interoception are the senses that tell you about the inner state of your body and where you are in space (two things that are really important for survival and therefore important for your nervous system). Finding your just right level of these different sensory inputs is SUPER regulating for a nervous system. It is also really important to know your thresholds, maybe a certain space is too loud or bright for you. That doesn't mean you don't go that space (unless you don't want to), but it does mean you plan accordingly for YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM. I teach something called the "nervous system bank account"- where you basically learn how to balance the input going in and out of your nervous system.

Nervous system regulation is about communication. Your nervous system is always communicating with your brain, we often miss the messages (because we haven't been taught to listen in this way) and then the nervous system speaks louder. The louder could be things like panic attacks, adult temper tantrums, elevated heart rate, difficulty taking a deep breath, chronic inflammation, chronic stress, difficult sleeping and so on. When you live in a chronic state of fight/flight you often end up feeling like one misstep and you will came crashing off a cliff. Your nervous systems job is to keep you safe and alive, so it is trying to protect you. Learning to speak this language is a game changer. So next time you "freak out", afterwards, instead of judgement get curious. What is your nervous system saying to you in those moments?

Prioritize: The best way I've found to bring clarity around priorities is to 1. get specific about your current season of life and 2. keep your time horizon short. 3 months tops. I might ask you to tell me about your season of life by asking questions about the ages and stages of the people and activities that make up your days. What is the rhythm of your life? What are you walking through right now? Our season is always changing, so do what you can to sum it up in a few sentences. T

Plan: when it comes to time, you should always start with a plan. I'll spend the rest of my days shouting from the rooftops that structuring your time is the key to unlocking time freedom and making space for what matters most to you. I know it may sound counterintuitive. A plan for your time and tasks serves as home base. It is not rigid and bossy, but supportive and functional.

Prepare: Moving away from living in urgency is a necessary gift we can only give to ourselves. When we tend to the necessary before it is urgent, we are relieving future stress, worry, disappointment and plenty of overnight UPS charges! Here is another way preparation can help you reclaim time. When your time and your priorities are aligned, you will experience more opportunities for work flow sessions, staying closer to deadlines and creating efficiencies that you would overlook if you were stuck in catch up mode. It's powerful stuff.  So yeah, fill your coffee maker tonight.

(Be) Present: there's no way around it, we have to take ourselves off auto-pilot to reclaim our time and feel better about our days. Distraction rules our lives and no matter our intentions, it is not serving us. Be where your feet are. Pick your head up. And my best tip for staying present: always have a notebook nearby. When your genius idea for a preschool fundraiser comes up in the middle of finalizing tomorrow's leadership retreat, jot it down, and get right back to the task at hand, or at plan.

Protect: finally, be a fierce protector of your time. To the extent to which you have privilege and resources to do so, enforce limits and boundaries that support your priorities. There are so many threats to our time (you're most likely listening to me on one of the worst offenders). If you truly want to reclaim your time for what matters most to you right now, you are going to have to implement some time boundaries.

Practice Mindful Healing.

Create a Vision Board.

Celebrate Small Wins.

Cultivate Positive Relationships.

Explore Your Passions.

Take care of your physical needs. Remember to eat, hydrate, and sleep. We are comprised of body, mind, and soul. When we're feeling lost in the mind or the spirit, we can at least take care of the body. While taking care of your physical body isn't going to solve all of your problems, it can help to bring a sense of balance and control to situations where we feel out of control.

Learn to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty. In the modern, Western, capitalistic world that's achievement and money oriented, we're incredibly uncomfortable with "liminal space"—the place that's neither here nor there, which is exactly what transitions are. Our discomfort with liminal space is why we dread planetary retrogrades (like Mercury retrograde), because it sends us into energetic liminal space where we can reassess, reevaluate, and reconsider. But in these modern times, we don't know what to do with anything that isn't forward-moving motion. Liminal space is uncomfortable, but it's also a gift because they're opportunities to reorient, recalibrate, and course-correct. It's okay for things to be unclear.

Normalize fear and doubt. Realize that our fears and doubts magnify when we're about to embark on meaningful change and expansion. Our rational brain has one primary goal, which is to keep us alive and safe. Expanding into unknown territory is the very opposite of safety, but necessary for our evolution when it's our time to grow.  Fear is not only normal—it's incredibly helpful in uncovering your tenderest wishes. Fear protects your most heartfelt wants, and if you can sit with your fear and examine it, you can actually use it to gain clarity.

Let go of imagined deadlines. Everybody evolves at their own speed and lumping on extra anxiety because you're not aligned with an arbitrary timeline isn't productive. Realize that arbitrary timelines have more to do with your "shoulds" and "oughts" than they have to do with reality.

Get to the heart of the issue by asking, "Why would that be a problem?" This question helps us get to the real heart of issue, which is so important because we often orbit the real issue. For example: If you don't get a promotion, why would that be a problem? Keep asking yourself that same question with every answer and you might realize in the end that it's not about the promotion but, rather, your belief that your loved ones only want you because of what you provide. Hence, the real issue is you feel unworthy of love