Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

Grey Rock is used to bore a narcissist to avoid the drama that is their narcissistic supply

In this podcast, we talk about how narcissists use crazy communication tactics to abuse you and what you NEED to be aware of to prevent them from using their secret weapons. 

(00:03) No Sincerity With Insincere

(01:11) The Point is - There is No Point

(03:06) Why Online Forums Fall Under Trolls, the Straw Man Fallacy and Other Tactics

(07:34) Fragile vs. Grandiose Narcissist

(12:23) Fragile and Grandiose Narcissist Differences in External and Internal

(17:45) How a Narcissist Makes You Feel Like You're Crazy

(22:38) Double Bind, Gas Lighting, Word Salad

(25:33) On Questioning and Interrogation

In this podcast we are going to take a look at issue of codependency and heartbreak, and explore optimism as a solution

(00:01) Hello

(00:13) Codependents Are Usually Fawn Responders

(05:06) Heartbreak Is A Nightmare For Anyone

(09:44) Emotional Flashbacking After A Heartbreak

(14:28) Why We All Need Humility

(17:04) Codependency Is A Bigger Issue Than CPTSD

(21:38) Don’t Pathologize Heartache

(27:43) What Is Discipline Of Optimism And Why Is It Important?

Q&A Section

(32:15) “I want to introduce a victim of narcissistic mother to a pack. Where to start?”

(34:47) Answering A Question About Dealing With Narcissistic Wife Of A Son

(38:21) “Do you have any future plans for seminars in the USA?”

(40:40) “How do you know that you’re healed from codependency?”

(45:00) “Any plans on doing seminars in other European countries?”

(47:49) “What is your take on CPTSD and did when they coexist? And how can you distinguish them?”

(49:52) “When is the time to date if you’ve got CPTSD and working through codependency?”

(55:18) “What is your brain telling you to do that you’re not doing?”

(58:52) “Do you think freedom is rooted in solitude?”

(1:00:28) “Why do I keep having codependent relationships with Chinese women?” part 1

(1:03:32) “Why do I keep having codependent relationships with Chinese women?” part 2

(1:07:25) “How to increase dopamine naturally?”

(1:09:44) “Do you feel uneasy or anxious in the United States?”

(1:14:53) The Problems With Boys In America

(1:19:52) Goodbye

About empathy, compassion and how we understand and use these words.

(00:00) Talking About Empathy

(05:08) Empathy Is Delusion

(10:12) The Issue Of Compassion

(13:19) The Way Codependents Use The Words Empathy And Compassion

(19:10) You Have To Accept That You Can't "Love Them Better"

(20:38) Richard Talks About Why Helping NPDs Is Not His Priority

(22:04) Goodbye

Can codependency be context specific, modern cults, getting past anger after past relationship, emotionally detaching from a parent, and more - in this live Q&A session including live calls.

(00:01) Describing Today's Topic

(02:06) Is Cluster B personality disorder defined as an actual mental illness?

(02:47) Reading the email on the topic

(06:48) Richard on Exploitative Organizations and His Experiences

(12:46) How They Trauma Bond People

(18:10) Continuing With the Question

(24:06) Transactional Analysis & Vertical Communication

(25:55) On Domestic Violence

(28:43) Effects of Adrenaline Spikes

(31:25) The Person's State You're in Contact With Transmits

(36:33) Is it possible you had temporarily made yourself open to maltreatment rather than having any codependent tendencies?

(42:27) Getting past anger after relationship (call with Kevin)

(49:01) How not to explode when my abusive mother is ranting? How to detach from a parent? (call with Mehwish)

(56:56) How to trust and love again? (call with Sky)

(1:06:11) Conclusion (Can codependency be context specific)

(1:08:47) Is feeling vulnerable all the time same as victim mentality?

(1:11:24) Could my very strict religious upbringing have made me more vulnerable to narcissistic abuse? 

Extensive live Q&A session covering over 43 questions around the topic of narcissistic abuse and CPTSD recovery.

(00:01) Hello

(01:51) "Could a flashback be caused by something pleasant or needed in childhood?”

(03:29) "How do I deal with my boyfriend’s narcissistic child?”

(05:55) "Do you think there could be a link between traumatic abuse and vitamin deficiency?”

(06:42) "At what point can you tell when the fog is cleared and your thoughts are your own?”

(10:45) "How do I know if I’m high-functioning autism or it’s CPTSD/BPD?”

(14:25) "How do you deal with permanent rage?”

(20:55) "What do you think about the secret?”

(22:57) "My friend best friend is being hoovered via text by her NPD mother after months of silence. What line of reasoning can she use to reply or to go grey rock?”

(25:10) "Any tips for getting over feelings of shame?”

(26:56) "Should I be fully recovered from narc abuse before embarking on a life coach career?”

(29:17) "How do I get off antidepressants?”

(30:27) "How come I can’t remember any conversations with my mother?”

(31:39) "How do I increase my capacity for feeling pleasure?”

(32:53) "Is it dangerous to put yourself into new experiences that cause stress after getting over trauma like it is an addiction to stress?”

(34:47) "Will you be producing material for younger people?”

(36:18) "Must I heal my CPTSD first and then deal with my codependency?”

(37:56) "Is it common to stop yourself from succeeding when you have CPTSD?”

(41:16) "Can NPD cause anorexia?”

(44:31) "Can a toxic childhood lead you to become an empath?”

(45:53) "How do you not feel guilty for reporting narcissistic abuse to authorities?”

(47:56) "Tips to reverse my pathological negative self critic?”

(50:12) "I hear that my diagnosed NPD ex is doing the same behaviours at my 16 and 18 year old children. How to limit their damage?”

(53:04) "Is it normal to struggle, the long-term relationship is or was abusive, even after a diagnosis?”

(55:04) "One of my abusive parents is already dead but is still hurting me from the grave, the other is alive and strange but still vicious. How do heal all this festering wound even death can’t cure?”

(59:36) "Where can you get spartan life coach t-shirts from?”

(1:00:26) "You have a history in martial arts, has that experience helped develop your theories and career choice?”

(1:03:35) "Please can you differentiate between CPTSD and BPD?” part 1

(1:07:12) "Please can you differentiate between CPTSD and PPD?” part 2

(1:13:23) "Do borderlines stalk?”

(1:16:30) "Wish you had a program to develop group facilitators”

(1:18:51) "Can you explain how a scapegoat child can develop codependency or the golden child develop narcissism?”

(1:24:52) "You say grief is important to heal, I’ve been grieving all my life. Why did all go wrong?”

(1:26:19) "Is it smart to read Eckhart Tolle if you’re a codependent?”

(1:29:00) "Is schizoid behaviour related to CPTSD?”

(1:31:28) "As a parent what does recovery look like when you have a diagnosed BPD child that terrorizes you daily?”

(1:32:48) "What was the last book you read?”

(1:35:03) "How long did it take you to trust and date again post NPD brainwashing?”

(1:40:10) "Do you think the UK's media persons have a high incidence of narcissism?”

(1:41:20) "Have you any tips on surviving being stalked by a narcissistic ex?”

(1:43:05) "Can you explain love bombing?”

(1:44:58) "Do you believe that HG Tudor is a genuine covert narcissist?”

(1:46:12) Talking about the upcoming projects

(1:48:00) "Why do they still bother you after they have a new supply?”

(1:48:59) "How does one train to be a coach with you?”

(1:52:50) Goodbye

About empathy, compassion and how we understand and use these words.

(00:00) Talking About Empathy

(05:08) Empathy Is Delusion

(10:12) The Issue Of Compassion

(13:19) The Way Codependents Use The Words Empathy And Compassion

(19:10) You Have To Accept That You Can't "Love Them Better"

(20:38) Richard Talks About Why Helping NPDs Is Not His Priority

(22:04) Goodbye

Are you an atheist, do you believe in demons and magick, what is the truth and more.

(00:07) Getting Started

(01:26) Being Cautious of Polarization and Black & White Thinking

(04:37) We Chose What We Believe

(07:57) What Richard Believes?

(11:55) Example of Superstition of a Client

(15:03) Can You Be Under a Spell? Can You Curse Somebody?

(17:46) No One Map of Reality is the Only Truth, Expand Your Consciousness

(20:13) Focusing on What You Do Want

(22:14) Choosing a Teacher/healer

(24:23) Getting Over Demonic Possessions

(27:23) Submission to a Higher Force

(32:38) Goodbye

A discussion covering topics like: male - female relationship dynamics, the myth of alpha male and women preferences and importance of instincts in judging people.

(00:13) Women Tend to Chose More Feminine Man

(07:20) Alpha Male vs. Predatory Male

(12:10) Is There Really Such a Thing as "Alpha" in Human Culture?

(13:54) Alternatives for Naming Men

(15:10) Beta-men Seeing Threat Everywhere & Weapon Obsession

(22:09) The Fake Nice Guys

(24:10) Problem of Indirect Communication

(31:28) Listening to Your Intuition

(46:01) Instincts vs. Culture Norms, Naivety, Assertiveness, Therapeutic Bypassing

(52:33) Supra State, Personality Split for Self-defense

Cultural conditioning, how society react to feelings and healing, dealing with narcissists, recovery, sovereignty and more.

||Q&A pt. 1||

(00:18) "How do narcissists gain pleasure from causing you pain? Not sure I fully understand the method behind the madness, is it that they gain their 'fix' from being one up on you all the time?"

(06:40) "I can't stop thinking about my borderline ex-girlfriend - can you help?"

(09:12) Managing contact with abusive personality type

(15:26) "How process feelings when our society is against strong feelings?"

(16:00) Recommending the documentary films century of self & power of nightmares

(20:15) "How much do you think the society is hostile to healing?"

(25:23) "How do we get rid ourselves of self-loathing?"

||The Clockwork Orange||

(32:26) What is It About Clockwork Orange?

(35:13) Brainwashing Into Submission

(40:05) We Became Normalized to Traumatic Images

(42:33) Our Culture Fosters Narcissism and CPTSD

||Q&A pt. 2||

(46:08) "How do I deal with my ex narcissist whom I share a child with? (managing contact)

(51:21) "Any advice for parents where ex is a covert narcissist, trying to gray rock as best as possible, but he is damaging my daughter?"

(54:38) "How does an ethical person minimize being targeted for devaluation and refuse to demean other people?"

(58:10) Example of previously mentioned cultural conditioning

(1:00:18) "How does one begin to know what is one's own opinion and what is conditioning?"

(1:03:12) "To what extent are the narcissists aware of their behaviour?"

(1:08:06) Over-fantasising the narcissist

(1:13:43) "What do you study to learn how to help someone who has had traumatic past?"

(1:17:09) Goodbye