From Heartbreak to Healed

I've been thinking recently about all the ways I have tried to heal during my infidelity journey. I came up with a list of the Top 10 things I found to be most helpful to support me on my journey. From prayer to allowing others to love me well, I share all the ways I supported myself during my journey.

And some of these things I still do today.

After listening I encourage you to pick one of these 10 ways to support yourself and start today!

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I love the word redemption. After walking my own redemption story I want every woman to walk in redemption.

After looking up the definition of the word redeem I knew this was the topic I needed to talk about for this episode.

When your partner tells you they don't love you, it feels like it will kill you, but it doesn't it sets you free.

Allowing the pain to transform you instead of making you bitter or angry isn't the easier route, but it's so worth it. Being willing to love yourself enough to show up in the world in full vibrancy is the hard work.

One of my favorite definitions: to release from blame or debt. Learning to forgive will be the greatest gift you give yourself.

Listen in for the 5 tips I share for finding redemption after a partner cheats.

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Welcome to the VERY FIRST EPISODE of From Healed to Heartbreak. 

I endured infidelity in my own marriage that ultimately led to a separation and divorce.  And every time the pain just seemed to be too much and I wanted to scream out to God “Why me”  I would stop myself.  I was old enough to know you never got the answer to that question.

Instead I would ask “what do you want me to do with this pain?”  “what is the purpose?”

And every time I would also get the same answer back…share your story to help others.  

In the beginning I had no idea what that would look like.  How I could share my story and protect my children.  I was fiercely protective of them.  

But as they grew and I healed it became apparent what God was calling me to do.  How he was calling me to show up in the world in ways I had never dreamed of  

I tried to ignore this calling he placed on my heart.  

But, God.  Rich in mercy.  Slow to anger.  Just kept dropping hints.  Some small and some not so small.  

So here I am.  Bravely sharing my own journey so that it may help you.  I’m a life coach for women helping them walk their journey and now a podcaster.  

If you’re here, first let me say I’m so sorry.  I know the pain.  I know the raw emotions.  I know your heart is tender and it feels broken.  

But I also know healing.  And finding JOY in the midst of pain.  I know how to create JOY in suffering.  And that’s why I’m here.

I want to walk with you on your healing journey.  I want to share what has worked for me  and what didn’t work.  I want to help you find JOY again.

Because it’s there.  JOY and Suffering can coexist.  

You are here, which means there has been heartbreak in your life, whether that was from infidelity or something else.  

Just know you are in the right place.  You are so very loved.  

My favorite scripture is JOY Comes in the Morning: Psalm 30:5

For his anger lasts only a moment, 

But his favor lasts a lifetime:

Weeping may stay for the night,

But reJOYcing comes in the morning.  

I often think of mourning, not morning, when I think of that scripture.  And it is so true too.  JOY does come in the mourning.  

JOY comes in the grief.  JOY comes in the heartbreak.  JOY comes in the mourning.  JOY comes in the bitterness.  JOY comes in the sorrow.  JOY comes in the anger.  JOY comes in the morning.

And your JOY is coming.  And it will be so sweet.  

I’m praying for you.  I’m walking this journey with you.  And I can’t wait to see you back here next week.

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I share the story of how I became a runner after being asked by my therapist “What do you do that is for you?  Selfishly and unabashedly for you?” And I couldn't answer that question.

And so I picked up running and I encourage you to find something that is just for you too. Being selfish turns out can be a pretty great medicine to healing.

What will you do that is selfishly and unabashedly for you?

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I have a photo that is one of my favorites of all time and it's the worst quality picture ever. But it's a reminder. It's the day I remembered the sound of my laughter after years of heartbreak and worry and fear and pain.

My kids have no idea the significance of that photos or why it's hanging in my office in all it's terrible quality.

I want you to remember the sound of your own laughter too. I want you to find JOY again and find it easily.

My kids now get annoyed with the sound and frequency of my laughter and I'm 100% okay with that.

Listen in to hear how I teach you to find laughter again in the midst of your heartbreak.

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Writing a dream list was one of the most transformative things I did in my heartbreak journey. I did this very early on and then clung to the words on it through out my healing.

It's now a practice I still do from time to time.

Be willing to write down all your dreams no matter how materialistic or silly they may seem. And then watch them unfold.

There's power in being willing to write down our deepest desires. Bringing them from the subconscious to the conscious helps us to make them a reality.

I encourage you to write your own dream list.

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We were all gathered around the table for dinner.  I had tried so hard to keep our routines the same.  To make life without their dad living with us as normal as possible.

I’ll never forget that night.  We were having as a family, the kids and I and it was time for the question.  I don’t remember who asked the question that night, but I remember how the conversation went.

The question was “King Solomon asked God to give him the gift of wisdom and knowledge.  What gift would you ask for?”

I said I would want the gift of happiness.  For everybody to feel happy.

There had been so much sadness in grief in my life and I just wanted to feel happy.  

My son spoke up and his response changed the trajectory of my life and I think it could change yours too.  

His answer was like Jesus came into my kitchen to speak to me that night. 

And that's when my JOY Moments began...

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From Heartbreak to Healed Podcast is the podcast for the woman who is ready to heal her heartbreak and find JOY on the other side.  I’m Monica, the host. I’m a wife, mama, Granee and life coach for women walking through infidelity.  After walking my own infidelity and heartbreak journey I want to share with you what helped me heal my broken heart and find JOY in the midst of that heartbreak.  

I help women turn their heartbreak into JOY.   

New podcast episodes are released every Wednesday morning. You can expect to hear me share my own struggles, what worked and didn’t work in my healing journey and how I turned my suffering into massive amounts of JOY.  I’ll share practical tips that you can apply in your own life.  I want to help you turn your heartbreak into JOY.  This is the podcast I needed all those years ago.  You’ll find healing and love here. 

You can find this podcast in any podcast app including Apple podcast, Spotify, Google Podcast, and Amazon.  If you’d like to subscribe, you can do so at  monicamundell.com/listen.  

This is  the From Heartbreak to Healed Podcast.