I stole this concept from Chadwick Moore. If you're white, pretend you're black for a day and see how many things could be construed as racist. If you're black, pretend you're white and see how many things could be explained away as just life in the big city. This can be extrapolated to gay (as Chadwick did), female, trans, fat, and any other group that claims victim status. It's very possible the person out to get you is you.