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This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to feel ready to move forward.

I share a story I’ve never told on the podcast before—what it felt like to decide to go back to work after 10 years of being a stay-at-home mom, after kidney failure, after thinking I’d never have the capacity to work again. I kept telling myself I needed to feel ready. But the feeling never came. What came instead was a quiet nudge: You get to choose.

If you’ve been waiting for the fear to go away before you take the next step…
If you’ve been stuck in overthinking, perfectionism, or chronic fatigue…
If you’ve been telling yourself, “Once I have more time/energy/confidence, then I’ll start…”
This episode is for you.

We’ll talk about:

• What “not ready” actually sounds like in your life
• How your nervous system plays a role in delaying action
• The difference between feeling safe and creating safety
• Three powerful coaching questions to move you forward today

I’ll also guide you through a grounding moment to help you connect back to your body and practice choosing readiness—right here, right now.

You’re not supposed to feel ready. You just get to decide.

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Ever find yourself thinking, “They should know better” or *“I shouldn’t still be dealing with this”?
That’s not just frustration — that’s your manual talking.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the invisible rulebooks we carry for other people and ourselves — and how those silent expectations are draining your energy, stressing your body, and keeping you stuck in survival mode.

You’ll learn:

• What a manual is (and how to spot one)
• How your nervous system reacts when others don’t follow your rules
• Why your self-manual is often the most exhausting of all
• What to do instead to feel free, grounded, and like yourself again

If you’ve ever thought:

• “Why am I so tired all the time?”
• “I shouldn’t need this much rest.”
• “Why can’t they just understand what I need?”

This episode will feel like a deep exhale.

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→ My free Fatigue Recovery Call – We’ll get to the root of your exhaustion and create a path forward so your body can finally rest and heal. Click here to book yours.

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What if the very thing you’re trying to force is the thing you actually need to release?

In today’s episode, I share the story of how releasing control—during one of the hardest times of my life—opened the door for the miracle I had been waiting for. I walk you through how our nervous systems respond to control and fear, and why releasing is not giving up… it’s making space to receive something greater.

Whether you’re trying to heal, feel better in your body, call in more support, or reconnect with purpose—you’ll leave this episode with a fresh perspective and grounded tools to help you open up to the life that’s already trying to reach you.

✨ You’ll Learn:

• Why striving and pushing might be keeping you stuck
• The nervous system connection between control and exhaustion
• What it really means to “receive” (and how to do it)
• My personal story of letting go and getting the kidney that saved my life
• 3 practical ways to release pressure and shift into peace

🧘‍♀️ Plus:

A short guided meditation to help you drop the inner grip and soften into trust.

📝 Journal Prompts:

• What am I gripping too tightly right now?
• What would it feel like to release that grip?
• What am I truly ready to receive?

🤝 Ready for More?

If this episode speaks to you and you’re ready to stop striving and start receiving, I’d love to support you in coaching. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Click here to learn more about working together.

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✨ Episode Summary:

If you’ve ever said yes when you meant no, felt responsible for keeping everyone happy, or wondered why you’re so tired all the time—this episode is for you.

Today, Shelby dives into why people pleasing is more than a bad habit—it’s a nervous system pattern that drains your energy and keeps you stuck in exhaustion. Learn how boundaries aren’t about pushing others away—they’re about protecting your peace, reclaiming your energy, and reconnecting with yourself.

You’ll hear personal stories, client transformations, and a powerful visualization practice to help you set boundaries from a place of love, not fear.

🧠 What You’ll Learn:

• Why people pleasing develops (and why it's not your fault)
• How it affects your energy and nervous system
• The truth about boundaries (and why they’re not mean)
• What it looks like to set kind, clear limits with others and yourself
• A guided bubble meditation to help you feel safe in your own energy

🛠️ Resources Mentioned:

• The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
• Shelby’s private coaching programs → Book a consult here
• Replay this episode anytime you need to reconnect with your personal power

🗣️ Let’s Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @shelby.living.vibrantly
• Website: www.getyourenergybackcoaching.com

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Are you ambitious—but constantly feeling like you're stuck, tired, or circling the same patterns again and again?

This episode is going to change the way you look at progress.

We’re breaking down the myth that success has to look like a straight, upward line—and what’s really going on when old habits, thoughts, or emotions resurface (even after all the “work” you’ve done). Spoiler: it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re leveling up.

You’ll hear:

• Why growth happens in spirals—and how to recognize it in your life
• How to stop being afraid of “negative” emotions and start learning from them
• Why feeling stuck is actually a sign of deep transformation
• A powerful story about mind-body healing from my own life
• What it means to build capacity for the life you truly want
• How my coaching clients break free from chronic fatigue and burnout—and create vibrant, soul-aligned lives

If you’ve ever felt like you should be further along by now, this episode will help you breathe deeper, feel less alone, and see just how much you’ve grown already.

✨ If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and finally start feeling like yourself again, let’s talk. I’d love to help you get there—with tools, coaching, and a path that works with your body, not against it.

➡️ Book your free 45-minute call here: https://calendly.com/shelbykhansen/45min

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If you’ve been obsessing over clean eating but still feel exhausted, this episode is for you.

Today I’m sharing how stress, shame, and perfectionism around food can actually worsen your symptoms—even when you’re eating all the “right” things. You’ll learn why it’s not about what you eat, but how you eat—and what state your nervous system is in while you do it.

We’ll explore:

• How food shame dysregulates your body
• The role of your nervous system in digestion and energy
• Dr. Howard Schubiner’s research on food sensitivities and conditioned responses
• My story of AIP, pregnancy in kidney failure, and learning to choose grace over guilt
• How gratitude and abundance shift your body into healing mode

This is your permission slip to let go of food rules and start feeding yourself with love.

💬 Ready to take the pressure down and feel vibrant again?
 Join my coaching program and learn how to get your energy back—naturally.

🔗 Learn more at https://www.getyourenergybackcoaching.com/
📩 Connect with me on Instagram @shelby.living.vibrantly

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Do you ever feel like you’re doing everything right—eating clean, taking supplements, going to functional medicine—but still running on empty?

In this episode of Get Your Energy Back, we’re talking about something that hits deep for women living with chronic conditions: putting your health first—not after the dishes are done, not after the kids are settled, not after everything else is handled.

Because here’s the truth:
 👉 You can’t do anything if you don’t have your health.
 👉 And you don’t have to earn your right to rest, joy, or peace.

If your body is constantly in survival mode, no amount of green smoothies or magnesium will fix it until you get to the root of what’s draining your energy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why prioritizing your health isn’t selfish—it’s essential
• The #1 mistake women with chronic illness make when trying to feel better
• A 3-part framework to help you start reclaiming your energy today
• A guided rib breathing exercise to calm your nervous system and reset in real time
• Why simple steps aren’t enough—and what coaching can do to go deeper and make the change last

💬 Favorite Quote:

“Rest isn’t a reward for productivity—it’s the foundation of your healing.”

🔗 Links + Resources:

• Book your free consultation: https://calendly.com/shelbykhansen/45min
• Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelby.living.vibrantly
• Learn more about my 1:1 coaching program: https://www.getyourenergybackcoaching.com

❤️ If you loved this episode…

Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps more women discover that healing is possible and they’re not alone.

You deserve energy. You deserve peace. You don’t have to keep doing it all alone.

 Let this episode be the first step toward taking your power back.

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Do you ever feel guilty for taking time for yourself? If so, you’re not alone. Many women, especially those stuck in the fawn response, have been conditioned to believe that self-care is selfish. But what if that belief is actually keeping you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from your true self?

In this episode, I break down:

• Why women are taught that self-sacrifice equals goodness
• How overgiving impacts your body, mind, and nervous system (with research-backed stats)
• Insights from some of my favorite life coaches Brooke Castillo and Jody Moore on redefining selfishness
• A three-step process to start prioritizing yourself without guilt

It’s time to let go of the fear of being selfish and start living a life where your needs matter too.

Listen now and take the first step toward guilt-free self-care.

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If this episode resonated with you, screenshot it and tag me on Instagram @shelby.living.vibrantly with your biggest takeaway.

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Ever feel like no matter how much you rest, you still wake up tired? 😴 You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. Your nervous system is stuck in survival mode.

In this episode, we’re breaking down:
🔥 Why fear keeps your body locked in exhaustion
💡 How hidden stress patterns keep you depleted
🧘‍♀️ Simple shifts to calm your nervous system & restore energy

If you’re ready to stop running on empty and finally feel alive again, this one’s for you. Hit play now! 🎧👇

✨ Want to go deeper? Book a free consult at https://calendly.com/shelbykhansen/45min

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If you’ve ever felt stuck between following doctor’s orders and trusting your body’s natural ability to heal, this episode is for you. Too often, we’re told we have to choose—Western medicine or holistic healing. But what if true healing comes from integrating both?

In this episode, I share my personal experiences with major medical procedures and the unexpected shift that changed everything. We’ll explore what might be keeping you from fully recovering and how to tap into the energy you already have to support your healing.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted, unheard, or unsure of the best path forward for your health, don’t miss this conversation.

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