Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind

Most people want answers in divorce; Corey explains why better questions matter more.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

What happens when both spouses want to divorce well, but emotions still threaten to derail the plan?

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

When both sides are in operator mode, Corey shows how to stop the spiral before it turns into all-out war.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

Corey explains how to stay grounded when you want peace and your spouse chooses conflict. 
 

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

Most people don’t need more legal tactics; they need a better lens. In this powerful episode, Corey Shapiro challenges you to stop spinning in circles and start asking the one question that changes everything: What am I trading that isn’t equal?

Because staying stuck isn’t neutral, it’s expensive. It drains your time, your peace, and your power. If you’re caught in indecision or obsession, this episode is your wake-up call.

What You’ll Learn:

Why thinking like an Architect, not an Operator, is the first step to clarity

How to avoid pouring your kid’s college fund into your conflict

The 3-phase map of divorce: Get Clarity, Get Going, Get Your Life Back

How to stop trading peace for control and truth for approval

The power of a single question to reset your mindset and protect your future

Power Line:
What am I trading that isn’t equal?

Core Insight:
You’re not broken, you’re just in the fog. But every decision you make in this fog will shape what comes next. This podcast is here to hold the map while you walk.

Action Step:
Fill in the blank:
“I’ve been trading ___ for ___.”
Then ask: Is it worth it?

Closing Thought:
You don’t build a house without a blueprint. Don’t try to build your future that way either.

You’ve got this.
Even if you don’t believe it yet, Corey believes it for you.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

A high-profile lawyer doesn’t always mean high-quality results. In this final episode of our Divorce Attorney Styles series, Corey Shapiro explains what a “Top Dog” attorney really brings to the table, why reputation can be misleading, and how to protect your case — and your budget — from intimidation theater. Whether you’re facing off with a name-brand firm or just feeling outgunned, this episode will help you stay strategic.

What You'll Learn:

Why some clients hire big-name attorneys they can't afford,  and what happens next

The difference between legal skill and legal theater

When a Top Dog might actually be the right move

How to spot whether you’re paying for reputation or results

What to ask your own attorney if the other side brings in a heavy-hitter

Power Line:
Don’t confuse a big name with a big threat.

Core Takeaway:
You don’t win by matching swagger. You win by staying smart. Understand who you’re really dealing with, what matters in your case, and how to choose the legal strategy that works for your life, not your fear.

Next Step:
Ask your attorney:
“Have you worked with this opposing counsel before?”
“How do you plan to respond to their strategy?”
“What are we doing to keep the case efficient and focused?”

Closing Thought:
You don’t need to be the loudest voice in the room. You just need to know what you’re building and how to protect it.

You’ve got this.
And if you don’t believe it yet, Corey believes it for you.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?

In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.

You’ll learn:

What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)

Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noise

How to know if your attorney is playing defense—or building a quiet offense

What questions to ask if you’re unsure who’s really fighting for you

Power Line:
“You’re not losing. You’re lasting.”

Because lasting takes more strength than lashing out.

Next Steps:

Ask your attorney: Are we being tactical or just quiet?

Get clear on the plan. If they’re prepping depositions, trial outlines, or settlement proposals—they’re moving.

If they’re not? It might be time for a second opinion.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

If your divorce feels like a boxing match, you might be up against a brawler—someone who’s obsessed with one issue and won’t let go. In this episode, divorce coach and attorney Corey Shapiro unpacks the “brawler” attorney style: what it looks like, how it operates, and how to respond without getting knocked out.

Brawlers aren’t random. They’re focused, strategic, and exhausting. But there’s a smarter way through.

In this episode, Corey covers:

How to tell if you’re dealing with a brawler

Why one obsessive issue can drain your entire case

Two smart strategies: Own it or expose it

How to protect your peace, time, and credibility

Power Phrase:
“Expose it or own it.”
Say it when you feel cornered. Say it before your next move.

Who it’s for:
If you’re facing aggressive accusations, constant pressure, or feel like you’re being backed into a corner, this episode will help you reclaim your clarity and stand your ground.

Corey Shapiro helps you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter, so you can get divorced without losing your mind.

For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing your mind. In a one-sided divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.

The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early in the process. Every episode also stands on its own.

Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.

The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org

New episodes Thursdays during the season.

Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.

For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

If every message from your ex or their attorney feels like an ambush, you’re not imagining it—you’re dealing with a swarmer. In this episode, I’ll show you how to spot the tactics that thrive on chaos and keep you stuck in reaction mode. You’ll learn how to stay steady, shut down the noise, and make strategic moves that actually move your case forward. I’m giving you four clear tools—and one mantra—to help you stop feeding the fire and start taking your power back.

For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing your mind. In a one-sided divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.

The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early in the process. Every episode also stands on its own.

Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.

The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org

New episodes Thursdays during the season.

Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.

For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Sometimes it’s not just your ex—it’s their attorney. In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the four types of divorce lawyers who fuel conflict instead of resolution—and how to stay steady when the other side plays dirty. If you’re months (or years) in and wondering, “Why is this still dragging on?”—this will help you get clear, get grounded, and start moving forward again.

For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing your mind. In a one-sided divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.

The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early in the process. Every episode also stands on its own.

Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.

The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org

New episodes Thursdays during the season.

Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.

For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.