Getting Real About Sex Addiction

Getting Real About Sex Addiction episodes:

• 05.08.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (25): Shame

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and lead-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, contemplates the pros and cons of the sex addiction label from the point of view of the would-be addict and the impact partner, and then...

  
• 04.23.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (24): female sex addiction/women's infidelity (part two)

  Part two of this discussion, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, offers some case illustrative descriptions culled from his work with female sex addicts/problem sexual behaviors--compares/contrasts with profiles exhibited by male patients--again referencing the writing of...

  
• 04.23.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (23): female sex addiction/women's infidelity

  Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses female sex addiction and women's infidelity, profiling the provocative insights of Michelle Langley, author of Women's Infidelity: Living in Limbo, and highlighting that book's compatibility with psychoanalytic theory

  
• 04.15.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (22): Short term treatment versus the in-depth long term

  Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, revisits the chestnut meta debate that exists between proponents of short term treatment options versus those, like Graeme, who advocate for a longer term commitment to in-depth treatment--as "triggered", by...

  
• 04.07.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (21): sexual integrity

  Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes therapist Eddie Capparucci as a guest to the podcast to discuss sex addiction and/or sexual compulsivity, plus the matter of how psychotherapy imparts, facilitates exploration of sexual mores, or...

  
• 03.16.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (20): instinct and personality, nature and nurture

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, riffs on ideas of instinct, personality development, Freudian theory, the rigidity of defenses, and relates these ideas to what happens when people seek help for their problems yet impulses still emerge

  
• 03.06.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (19): That child abuse reporting law is going to trial!

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, invites therapist and sex addiction expert Don Mathews back to the podcast to discuss a controversial, now nine year old California law about reporting use of underage porn that has moved...

  
• 02.21.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (18): Psychodynamics, sexual compulsivity and positive psychology

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes therapist Andrew Suuskind as a guest to discuss sexual compulsivity, the pathologizing of sex, psychodynamic underpinnings to problem sexual behavior, plus the fostering of emotional resilience and...

  
• 02.15.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (17): The splits of Madonna-Whore and Saint-Brute

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses again the psychic defense of splitting in the context of one famously understood "split", Freud's Madonna Whore complex, and a lesser known female-to-male splitting analogy, the Saint-Brute.

  
• 02.02.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (16): All (or most) of what I have to say about SA

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, improvises a version of his recent webinar for the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH), about all things to do with psychoanalysis and sex addiction

  
• 01.19.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (15): the illusion of action

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, contemplates the presence, the pedigree, the value (or not) of the phrase "actions speak louder than words" in modern culture, and what psychoanalysis, the business world, and the...

  
• 01.05.2024

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (14): addiction as pleasure-seeking, shame avoidance

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses addiction from a psychoanalytic and 12-step perspective, speaking of the importance of consciousness as a precursor to honesty; the problem that addicts often don't know what they're feeling because their...

  
• 12.20.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (13): on individual treatment versus couples therapy

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels draws from a vignette from the book Getting Real About Sex Addiction, to discuss the relative merits of individual therapy or psychoanalysis versus couples therapy in the context of sex addiction or infidelity recovery treatment.

  
• 12.12.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (12): Three therapists talk about sex addiction treatment

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes to the podcast two first time guests, therapists Jen Shelby and John Kravitz, to discuss their affiliation, work with sex addicts and impacted partners of sex addiction.

  
• 11.29.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (11): a review of "US"

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews Terrence Real's 2022 book, "US", observing its relational life therapy model, which utilizes ideas grounded in psychoanalytic theory as well as modern neurobiology. Daniels further comments upon...

  
• 11.16.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (10): The Heart of Addiction (a review)

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews the book The Heart of Addiction by Lance Dodes, M.D., and focuses upon its thesis: that "true" addictions have a psychological underpinning that entails unconscious defenses against infantile states of...

  
• 10.31.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (9): addiction treatment as a team approach

  The pros and cons of working in a team: Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses the history/trend of treating addictions with a so-called team approach, highlighting the reasons that collaborative models are popular and worthwhile, exposing...

  
• 10.18.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (8): Exposure, shame, and Axolotls

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, tell anecdotes about feeling exposed, shameful, under pressure, yet working through tough moments with a sense of dignity and resilience. The questions are: how do...

  
• 10.06.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (7): A case of impacted partner treatment revisited

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, revisits intersectional issues, socio-political undercurrents that influence/infiltrate the therapeutic space of sex addiction treatment, and then applies these ideas to the case of an impacted partner previously spoken...

  
• 09.22.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (6): What we have to say about SA (part two)

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, follows-up on matters of guilt, shame, the phenomena of repetition compulsion, defenses like displacement, with a discourse on how these ideas relate to female sex addiction and the treatment of impacted...

  
• 09.08.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (5): What we have to say about SA (part one)

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews some basics regarding SA treatment: SA as a diagnostic matter, the marginal yet influential role of psychoanalysis; extending from that, this episode reviews the significance of symptom-formation,...

  
• 08.25.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (4): Perversion, part two

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, previews his and Joe Farley's forthcoming webinar presentation at the annual conference of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (whew-got that out!) with a second rumination...

  
• 08.11.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (3): Perversion

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, talks about perversion from a psychoanalytic perspective, not a religious or moralistic one, and relates the subject to sex addiction treatment, plus concepts of voyeurism, fetishism, and masochism.

  
• 07.29.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (2): The Shadow of Esther Perel (part two)

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, addresses use of full disclosure exercises and polygraph examiners in sex addiction treatment, and follows-up upon a recent podcast about the views of Belgian therapist Esther Perel relating...

  
• 07.17.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (1): Talking about Countertransference with sex addicts and their impacted partners

  In this first episode of season 3, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, co-authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, speak about the psychoanalytic concept of countertransference as a crucial aspect of treatment: the clinicians thoughts and feelings, drawn from the...

  
• 06.21.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (21): Talking about Psychoanalysis

  No laugh track, applause, or gimmick sound effect on this one: two guys, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, and Pedro Job, clinical psychologist from Lisbon, Portugal, have an impromptu conversation about important concepts in psychoanalysis: projection,...

  
• 06.14.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (20) The Shadow of Esther Perel

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, shares from his essay entitled "The Shadow of Esther Perel" which reviews the Belgian therapist's 2017 book, State of Affairs: rethinking infidelity, and links his...

  
• 06.07.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (19): the psychic defense of projection

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes clinical psychologist Pedro Job as a guest from Portugal to discuss the psychic defenses of projection and projective identification: what is projecting into versus...

  
• 06.02.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (18): Freud and Klein theories of Oral and (the other one) sadistic impulses

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, gets back into analytic theory, expounding upon Freud's repetition compulsion, Melanie Klein's theories of projective identification, oral and anal sadistic impulses, and locates them as...

  
• 05.29.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (17): Psychoanalysis and SA treatment amid Covid and related phenomena

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, pays tribute to the late Martin Amis, a novelist and essayist who had something to say about porn addiction. Daniels also provides an informal post-mortem...

  
• 05.20.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (16): The Group Behind the Group (part two)

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, expands upon ideas of group psychology, adding elements that influence the practice of group therapy: from the tacit rules or "contracts" that bind groups, segregate groups, protect from...

  
• 05.10.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (15): The Group Behind the Group

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, wades again into the intersection of addiction theory and social mores, exploring how societal "groups" that are institutions, niche fields in psychotherapy, recovery movements, philosophical traditions,...

  
• 04.30.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (14) You Have Been Lied To!

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, talk about how the consumer of psychotherapy and addiction services has been lied to about what is effective treatment, providing illustrations from their book, including...

  
• 04.18.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (13): a commentary on verbal and non-verbal communication and addiction

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, again remarks on the staples of psychotherapy, this time time commenting upon non-verbal versus verbal communication, citing illustrations relevant to addiction and couples' communication, and...

  
• 04.12.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2(12): calling out the staples of psychotherapy

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, critiques some commonplace ideas within psychotherapy, remarking on the verbosity with which ideas of empathy, "boundaries", "I" statement prescription, love language tropes are invoked and...

  
• 04.04.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (11): Flowers are (not) the solution

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, shares a short story that illustrates conflict avoidance, inhibition, plus fantasies of disinhibition and redemption via a symbol of romance and apology, in the context of a group...

  
• 03.28.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (10): Schizoid personality type

  No tik tok video with someone reading off symptoms from a diagnostic standards manual. Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discuss Schizoid personality disorder and/or type in the context of recent podcasts about Narcissism...

  
• 03.22.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (9): listening to and reading about sex addiction

  Teasingly curious title, maybe? Graeme Daniels reads a few passages from his and Joe Farley's book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, contextualizes its content, both in terms of sex addiction treatment and psychoanalytic theory, but also with respect to current...

  
• 03.14.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (8): is sex addiction an excuse

  Right up there with the question, is this a thing? In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, takes a brief swipe at this topical question/issue, observing nuances from previous discussions...

  
• 03.07.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (7): Borderline Personality Disorder

  No, not a cheesy "how to spot and deal with a borderline" show. Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, psychoanalytic psychotherapists and co-authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discuss the controversial diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), comparing it to...

  
• 02.25.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (6): Misogyny and Misandry

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses the undercurrents of hate, and in particular gendered hate, that exist within sex addiction, and with the human mind in general, as a product of our primitive capacity for splitting...

  
• 02.18.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (5): Excess drive and betrayal, the two benchmarks of SA

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses recently historical criteria for assessing sex addiction, citing proposed diagnostic categories, and separates that consideration from the observation of discovery and betrayal phenomenon, which so often serve...

  
• 02.10.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (4): more on impacted partners, blaming, psychoanalytic and alternative approaches

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, re-visits the treatment of impacted partners, discusses controversies around victim-blaming, revisits the matter of denied experiences, revisited memories, the theory of Apres Coup, plus additional comment about the...

  
• 01.27.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (3): Secrets keep you sick

  Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses this well-known 12-step recovery slogan in the context of a psychoanalytic treatment, a would-be couples therapy episode that will address sexually acting out, seen through a psychoanalytic lens. This poses...

  
• 01.17.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (2): case illustration of an impacted partner of sex addiction

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, recounts a case illustration of an impacted partner of sex addiction, taken from his and Joe Farley's book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction. Daniels speaks to the trauma, both recent and historical, that...

  
• 01.03.2023

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (1): Review of season one ideas, preview of more to come

  Welcome to season two and the year 2023! Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews all the principles, facts, and theories discussed in season 1 relating to sex addiction treatment and psychoanalysis,...

  
• 12.20.2022

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction 21: addiction, 12-step recovery, therapy and analysis

  in this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, are joined by recovery specialist Haven Jo Beck to discuss addiction, the history of the 12-step movement as influenced (or not) by psychoanalysis, plus the...

  
• 12.09.2022

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction 20: the roots of sex addiction, part two (feminist theories)

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, revisits the roots of sex addiction matters, this time sketching and commenting upon feminist theories from psychoanalysis that are popular both within sex addiction treatment and across psychotherapeutic...

  
• 11.26.2022

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction 19: etiology, the theoretical roots of sex addiction

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses etiological, psychoanalytic theories that relate to sex addiction, contrasting the ideas of attachment theory, Freudian psychoanalysis, and modern psychoanalytic thinkers like Jean LaPlanche.

  
• 11.12.2022

  Getting Real About Sex Addiction 18: treating Narcissism alongside sex addiction

  In this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discuss treatment of Narcissism in the context of sex addiction: as a legitimate point of clinical concern, and also as a weaponized, dubiously applied label.