A lot of men reach a point where they say something quietly and honestly:

“I did everything right… and it still fell apart.”

I hear this all the time from men who showed up, stayed loyal, worked on themselves, went to therapy, avoided conflict, and tried to be good partners.

And yet the relationship still deteriorated.
The attraction faded.
The resentment crept in.

I explain why “doing everything right” often becomes the problem.

We’ll talk about:

• How being patient, understanding, and accommodating can slowly erase you
• Why avoiding conflict kills attraction and self-respect
• How over-functioning turns good men into manageable men
• Why some men work on themselves and suddenly see the relationship clearly
• And why doing the right thing doesn’t always mean doing the healthy thing

This isn’t about blaming women.
And it’s not about becoming cold or selfish.

It’s about understanding how self-abandonment sneaks into long-term relationships — and why some men outgrow a relationship the moment they stop disappearing.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted, resentful, or confused about how things still went wrong, this one will probably hit close to home.
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Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.

• They opened up more.
• They communicated better.
• They became more emotionally available.
• They went to therapy.

And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.
In many cases, it disappeared completely.

In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.

We’ll talk about:

• Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attraction
• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desire
• Why many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn’t healthy
• Why dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting help
• And why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationships

This isn’t about blaming women.
It’s about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.

If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home.

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A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”.

Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis.
They come from pain.

I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure.

We’ll talk about:

• why men gravitate toward black-and-white explanations
• how hidden-truth and conspiracy-style thinking sneaks into relationship beliefs
• what the data actually says about libido differences
• what long-running surveys show about infidelity
• why “women just lie on surveys” isn’t the argument people think it is
• and why flattening an entire sex into a slogan quietly keeps men stuck

This isn’t about defending women or blaming men.

It’s about understanding how the male brain copes with uncertainty — and why rigid, comforting stories often cost you more than they protect you.

In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Vogel — fitness and mindset coach, podcast host, and a woman who’s been through divorce herself — for one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about modern relationships.

We talk about what really happens to marriages after kids arrive, why men and women slowly disconnect without realizing it, and how good people end up emotionally checked out years before divorce ever happens.

Melissa opens up about her own marriage, why she drifted away emotionally long before it ended, and what she wishes someone had told her when she was younger. We get into attachment styles, masculine and feminine polarity, why accountability is so rare, and why “love” alone doesn’t save a relationship.

We also tackle the uncomfortable topics most people avoid:

• Why attraction fades
• Why fitness and self-respect matter more than people admit 
• Why men and women cheat for very different reasons
• Why second marriages fail so often
• And why many couples quietly become roommates instead of lovers

This is the kind of conversation every couple should hear — especially before things break beyond repair.

If you’re married, divorced, dating, or starting over as a man, this one will hit home.

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A lot of men don’t realize they’re codependent.
They just think they’re being “good husbands,” “nice guys,” or “doing the right thing.”

I break down the real, everyday behaviors that point to codependency in men—especially how it shows up in relationships, dead bedrooms, anxious attachment, and emotional burnout.

This isn’t about shaming men.
 It’s about recognizing patterns that quietly destroy attraction, confidence, and self-respect.

If you:

• Walk on eggshells in your relationship
• Feel responsible for your partner’s emotions
• Tie your self-worth to her mood, approval, or sexual interest
• Or feel like you’re slowly disappearing inside your own relationship

This video is for you.

I’ll explain why these behaviors develop, why they feel “right” in the moment, and why they usually lead to less intimacy—not more.

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For an anxious guy, nothing is more confusing than discovering that your avoidant, seemingly asexual wife was having an affair.

No touching.
 No sex.
 Years of rejection.

And yet… she was sleeping with someone else.

I break down a real message from a man in a long-term dead bedroom who discovered his dismissive-avoidant wife had been cheating for years. We dig into anxious vs. avoidant attachment, why this dynamic is so common, and why the affair usually has nothing to do with you lacking masculinity, confidence, or sexual value.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• “How could she want sex with him but not me?”
• “What does an avoidant partner actually want?”
• “Why counseling never seems to work with avoidant spouses?”
• “Was I just too needy or anxious?”

…this video will make things click.

We’ll also talk about:

• Why “new” always beats “safe”
• Why anxious partners are usually the only ones willing to do the work
• Why avoidant people struggle in long-term monogamy
• And why this pattern tends to repeat itself again and again

If you’re dealing with a dead bedroom, infidelity, or the anxious–avoidant trap, you’re not alone.

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In today’s episode, I read an email from a husband living one of the most brutal modern realities: his wife says she’s “touched out” and has no energy for intimacy… yet somehow has unlimited emotional energy for another man at the gym.

This is the pattern I see over and over in dead bedrooms:

She didn’t lose desire.
She redirected it.

If you're a man dealing with a sexless marriage, emotional disconnect, or a wife who has checked out but won’t leave — this one’s going to hit hard.

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Today we’re talking about something that a lot of men won’t admit, but a lot of women quietly suffer through: living with an anxious husband. And yes, I’m going to make fun of us a little.

This video is a tongue-in-cheek “instruction manual” for how to care for the anxious, approval-seeking, reassurance-addicted man. The guy who needs constant validation, panics at every text message pause, reads every word you say like a legal document, and assumes you’re leaving him if you’re quiet for more than 30 seconds.

It’s funny… but it’s also painfully accurate.

The point of this episode isn’t to shame anxious guys. It’s to shine a big bright spotlight on the behaviors that slowly choke the life out of a relationship. And more importantly, to show that these patterns aren’t permanent. You can fix this. You can rebuild your confidence, your identity, and your internal leadership as a man.

If this video hits a little close to home, that’s good. It means you’re ready for change.

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Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it’s not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you’re spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.

This isn’t weakness. It isn’t you being dramatic.
It’s rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it’s called.

In this episode, I'll break down:

— Why some men live relationships on “hard mode”
 — How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger
 — Why neutral things feel like personal attacks
 — Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact
 — How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages
 — Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners
 — And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire this

If you’re neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood.

You’re not broken. You’re trained.

 And you can retrain yourself.

If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability.

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A lot of men struggle with the realization that they don’t actually have full control over how life or their marriage turns out.
 You can do everything “right”—be faithful, provide, stay fit, treat her well—and still end up rejected, divorced, or alone.

In this episode, I talk about why that happens, and why it’s not a sign that you failed. Life isn’t fair… and that includes relationships. I also share a real message from a man dealing with a sexless, disconnected marriage due to his wife’s ADHD and perimenopause, and we unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface.

If this hits close to home, you’re not alone.

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