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The podcast currently has 236 episodes available.
In this episode, Ralph delves into the controversial topic of "lesbian bed death" and the unusually high divorce rates among lesbian couples compared to their heterosexual and gay male counterparts. Ralph uses statistical data from the Office for National Statistics and explores the psychological underpinnings and societal expectations that might contribute to these phenomena. He discusses the role of neuroticism—a major personality trait prevalent in women—that impacts relationship satisfaction and stability.
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Ralph delves deep into the emotional traumas many men face due to infidelity and broken relationships. He critically examines the burgeoning trend of male victimhood and the echo chambers that fuel it. Ralph emphasizes the importance of sticking to factual data rather than sensationalized statistics when discussing issues like divorce rates and paternity fraud.
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Ralph addresses the stigma surrounding infidelity and provides a nuanced perspective on why it might happen. He kicks off by debunking the myth that most women in relationships cheat, presenting scientific evidence and personal experiences to show that cheating is actually less common than some might believe. Ralph emphasizes that certain subsets of men, particularly those he identifies as "anxious dudes," are more likely to encounter infidelity due to their tendency to partner with individuals who have chaotic backgrounds.
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Ralph delves into an intriguing message from a Facebook follower that serves as a perfect illustration of the typical challenges faced by men in today's dating and relationship landscape. The follower, whose message Ralph dissects, shares his frustrations and experiences with relationships that have led him to a place of cynicism and resentment towards women. Ralph takes this opportunity to provide insightful commentary on the follower's mindset and the broader issues that plague modern relationships.
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Ralph delves deep into the distressing world of infidelity, targeting the psychology behind why women cheat in relationships. Through a blend of data, anecdotal evidence, and expert insights, Ralph addresses the quintessential question plaguing many men who discover their partner has been unfaithful: Why? He pulls no punches in his explanation, setting the stage for an honest, potentially provocative discussion on the emotional and psychological dysfunctions often underpinning infidelity.
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Ralph addresses a poignant letter from Jay, a long-time listener seeking advice on how to revive the dwindling romance in his marriage. The letter, filled with raw emotion, highlights Jay's struggle with feelings of inadequacy and longing after discovering his partner's emotional affair seven years into their relationship. Despite attempts at couples therapy and personal efforts to rekindle their connection, Jay finds himself stuck in a monotonous routine, with his partner seemingly disengaged and distant.
Ralph delves into the complexities of emotional affairs, the impact of time, familiarity, and parenthood on relationships, and the steps required to rebuild trust and intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, open communication, and the willingness to confront difficult truths about the relationship. Ralph also discusses the potential necessity of an ultimatum to spur real change and the need for both partners to actively participate in the healing process. He encourages Jay, and listeners in similar situations, to seek professional help and utilize resources that can offer support and guidance.
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Ralph dives into a unique and complex relationship concern that's been submitted by one of our listeners, who goes by the pseudonym "Could be worse." In this episode, Ralph tackles the anxiety and insecurity surrounding permission-based intimacy in long-term relationships, especially in the face of health-related challenges.
In our listener's scenario, his wife suffers from unspecified health issues that inhibit frequent, fulfilling intimacy. Despite this, she enjoys and permits him to "use" her between their infrequent, yet mutually satisfying sessions. This episode centers on understanding the psychological and emotional dynamics at play, including feelings of guilt, consent-based fantasies, and addressing the complexities of orgasm-related insecurity in men. Ralph delves into whether these feelings are rooted in genuine discomfort or societal pressures around sexual satisfaction.
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Ralph addresses a deeply personal letter from a listener named Jay, who is grappling with significant intimacy issues in his ten-year marriage. The common theme throughout this episode revolves around navigating the intricate web of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and its implications on marital intimacy, emotional disconnect, and the potential for infidelity.
Jay's story revolves around his wife's OCD, which creates barriers to physical affection, leaving him feeling unattractive and unsatisfied. Ralph dives into the intricacies of living with a partner who has OCD, explaining that OCD falls under the category of neurodivergence, and often comes with other traits from the autism spectrum. Ralph emphasizes that these traits are deeply ingrained and unlikely to change, posing the critical question, "Should Jay stay in this marriage or move on?"
Additionally, Jay's budding feelings for a coworker add another layer of complexity to the situation. Ralph touches on the perils of infidelity and urges deep self-reflection. He advises Jay to evaluate why he stayed in a disconnected relationship for so long to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future.
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Confused Husband seeks advice from Ralph on handling a toxic marriage where his wife despises his daughter and exhibits abusive behavior. He reveals deep-seated issues including threats, accusations of infidelity, and financial concerns tied to potential divorce. Ralph provides critical advice, highlighting the importance of cutting ties with the abusive spouse, seeking legal and emotional support, and reflecting on his own patterns that led to this relationship.
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Ralph addresses John’s heart-wrenching predicament: his wife’s affair led to their separation, and now she wants to come back. Ralph sheds light on different types of affairs, emphasizing the deeply ingrained issues often underlying such actions. He suggests that John’s wife may be seeking a safety net rather than genuine reconciliation.
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